[Mizelenius]

(1) Yes, I know what birth control is and how to use it.
(2) No, I don't have x number of children because of my religion. (<--and I wouldn't think that was a bad reason even if I did)
(3) Yes, I know how to make good lifestyle choices when I am pregnant so you don't have to worry or ask me about them anymore (see examples children 1, 2, and 3 as evidence).
(4) "Crazy" isn't generally considered to be a compliment.

I'm trying to release this negative energy instead of carrying it around. Thank you for the place to vent. And feel free to release away . . .

 

[Veritaserum]

Well, I've got 5, so I've heard some lovely

comments. They are all girls, too, so that adds to the shock, I guess.

Sometimes people say nice things.

 

[Mizelenius]

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Originally Posted by Veritaserum Sometimes people say nice things.

Maybe you could post those here to help with the release.

 

[thewaggonerfamily]

You are getting those comments with 3? Wow. Idiots. Oh and may I add:

"Yes we know what causes it. Whipped cream and sleeping kids. And are you REALLY sure you want to discuss my sex life with my husband and birth control choices with a total stranger?"

"Yes, I'm glad it's me and not you, too."

Oh, and....

asking a family if they know what causes it, would be as offensive as asking and infertile couple, "What's wrong with you, don't you know how to have sex?"

and BTW...

We are happily, joyously crazy too.

: Thanks for letting me vent. If I had a nickle for everytime I was asked that, I could pay off the national debt and all of Bush and Obama's stimulus programs.

 

[wanderinggypsy]

Yeah, it's funny how people assume because we have big families we must be ultra conservative religious fanatics... when in my case at least that couldn't be farther from accurate!!!

 

[Mizelenius]

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Originally Posted by thewaggonerfamily You are getting those comments with 3? Wow. Idiots. Oh and may I add:

No-- three is "acceptable," I suppose because we did not get those comments. It's only been since I've announced #4. What surprises me is that I've told very, very, few people IRL . . .so it isn't like these are coming from strangers/acquaintances.

:

Your comebacks are good-- do you actually use them or just think them?

wanderinggypsy: Same here!

 

[zookeeper]

Quote:

Originally Posted by thewaggonerfamily You are getting those comments with 3? Wow. Idiots. Oh and may I add: "Yes we know what causes it. Whipped cream and sleeping kids. And are you REALLY sure you want to discuss my sex life with my husband and birth control choices with a total stranger?" "Yes, I'm glad it's me and not you, too." Oh, and.... asking a family if they know what causes it, would be as offensive as asking and infertile couple, "What's wrong with you, don't you know how to have sex?" and BTW... We are happily, joyously crazy too. : Thanks for letting me vent. If I had a nickle for everytime I was asked that, I could pay off the national debt and all of Bush and Obama's stimulus programs.

Yeah, what she said

 

[rebeccalynn]

Due with #3 this summer and we are getting "this is your last baby right? so enjoy it bit".

Highly doubt that #3 will be our last and other people will just have to deal with it.

 

[aricha]

I have to say the winner for me of all-time shocking comments was a stranger asking me "don't you guys have a TV?" Which I didn't even GET at first, until someone explained to me that she was suggesting we didn't have anything better to do than reproduce. I never can quite believe it when someone makes comments that are so clearly commenting on my sex life. I wouldn't DREAM of asking a casual acquaintance if she and her husband had sex a lot, or if she was on birth control, or anything like that... which is basically what they are asking... sheesh.

 

[Full Heart]

To cheer you up:

http://www.plomp.com/largefam/comebacks.htm

http://shop.cafepress.com/lots-of-kids

And...thats how I got my screen name. I hear so often, Wow you have your hands full. Like oh 10 times in every store.

My oldest was complaining the other day that the last time we went to the mall EVERYONE was staring at us. So she stared back lol. Smart girl.

The lady across the street from me has 7 too. She told me one day, The worst part about having so many kids is when they are all gone. The house is so quiet. She is down to her youngest now, all the others have moved out. She looked so sad and heart broken.

We went out to eat about 2 weeks ago and someone came up to us when they were leaving to tell us how well behaved our children are. The kids always like to hear that.

 

[darcytrue]

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Originally Posted by Full Heart The lady across the street from me has 7 too. She told me one day, The worst part about having so many kids is when they are all gone. The house is so quiet. She is down to her youngest now, all the others have moved out. She looked so sad and heart broken.

I dread this just with the 3 kids that we'll have. Sometimes I'm thankful I'm having # 3 at 41 since it will be living with us well in to our 50's (hopefully!).

 

[pjs]

I don't have much to add yet- we haven't announced #4 but will do so within the next few weeks and I'm sure we'll get plenty of choice comments...

Though last week, my dad, who does not know we're expecting #4, starting saying why the only reason people had large families back in the day was because they were too ignorant to know better. Now, we know how to "fix" that. I wished I'd asked him which one of his grandchildren he wished we didn't have...

 

[pixiekisses]

Heh, yeah, can you imagine what people are asking and saying to us?
We have 7, including everyone (one who died as a baby, one grown foster kid who has moved out by choise but is still our "kid", and one who we are only keeping temp).
Especially when they assume I'm so done, and I say I'm absolutely not done, I'm having more. They almost faint or have a heart attack then.
But really, by the end of the year I'm guessing, we'll only have 4 in the house every day, and that's not a whole lot.
People should stop beeing rude and mind their own business. I usually say something that will shut them up pretty quick. Like "Do you honestly want to discuss our sex life?" or "Do you really think it's a bad thing to help out kids who come from abusive homes by fostering too? Do you do anything like that on a daily basis?" or "No, I'm not religious at all actually, I'm an atheist. But I'm capable of loving and being proud of many kids regardless."

 

[kriket]

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Originally Posted by pixiekisses I'm an atheist. But I'm capable of loving and being proud of many kids regardless."

what?! No.... atheist are moraless heathens who shouldn't allowed to bring children into the world. Or at least that what the lady in the grocery store told DH.

 

[zuzunel09]

So sad that people don't see children as a blessing. I want as many kids as I can handle but dread the comments from my family. After my cousin had her third child, the general attitude of our family was summed up by my grandma asking, "Well, are you done now?"

 

[CallMeMommy]

Quote:

Originally Posted by thewaggonerfamily "Yes we know what causes it. Whipped cream and sleeping kids.

 

[Kelly1101]

Quote:

Originally Posted by thewaggonerfamily "Yes, I'm glad it's me and not you, too."

ROTFL ROTFL ROTFL

Ahahahahahaha I love that one.

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Originally Posted by aricha I have to say the winner for me of all-time shocking comments was a stranger asking me "don't you guys have a TV?" Which I didn't even GET at first, until someone explained to me that she was suggesting we didn't have anything better to do than reproduce.

DAMN. How sad that someone's sex life is so horrible that they are more entertained by watching TV. I mean, I love "Lost," but it's not THAT great a show...

 

[Veritaserum]

The comment that bothered me the most recently was a woman who commented, loudly, to her friend "I sure hope she's baby-sitting!" I chose to ignore her. We did have an extra with us (dd's friend), so I had 6 girls 8 and under instead of the usual 5. I look much younger than I am (solicitors ask if my mom is home), so I guess the woman above thought I'd started having kids when I was 14.

Positive comments are things like:

"Your girls are so beautiful!" or "Your kids are so well-behaved!" or (from an older person) "I have five kids/girls, too. Good for you!"

 

[Veritaserum]

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Originally Posted by Kelly1101 DAMN. How sad that someone's sex life is so horrible that they are more entertained by watching TV. I mean, I love "Lost," but it's not THAT great a show...

Lol!

 

[mamabutterfly]

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Originally Posted by thewaggonerfamily If I had a nickle for everytime I was asked that, I could pay off the national debt and all of Bush and Obama's stimulus programs.

Hey, wouldn't it be great to use a comeback that said that - like tell people with those same tired comments/rude questions, "I'm actually now collecting a nickel for every time some one asks me that," with a big smile on your face and maybe a basket.

Could fund some college savings accounts.