[starfairy]

How many of you have looked at this forum bfore you lost a babe?
Oddly, I first looked & this forum - and posted about my previous losses- the day before my last baby died. I know that I had some premonitions that I would lose him that I would not allow myself to aknowledge - I cant help but wonder if it was that or if I was somehow meant to find this board so that I would have a place to go after.....

I know that at least one person responded to a post of mine & then later went on to lose her baby .......

 

[Ms. Mom]

First let me say how sorry I am for you

That's such a hard question and I guess there's no real answer. Personally, I do beleive that we can be in-tune and know when something is wrong. But, I don't think our premenitions can 'cause' things to happen. Also, it's sometimes hare to distinguish between premenitions and fears.

Have you really examined what you were feeling before your loss?

 

[starfairy]

what I am really wondering is how many people came here just out of curiousity or whatever & then went on to lose their baby.

I had lost 7 pregnancies previous to this one. (I had a live baby after the first 6 losses) I had just had a baby 7 months before this pregnancy occured & the last loss ocurred just a month before this pregnancy. So, naturally I was worried..I had had spotting, pain...but I was in my second trimester which usually makes you feel safe. Several times before I lost this baby I would get a vision of a very tiny baby & force it from my mind telling myself I was just worried - it was my imagination..... The night before I first came here I had bleeding & the day I posted here I had called my Drs office & the people told me it was no big deal, just old blood. Later that night I saw this forum & decided to take a look. Of course I had previous losses,so it was not so unlikely that i would be interested in the topic. But, the next day my baby died. And he looked just exactly the same as in my visions.

Maybe it is just "coincidence" I happened upon this board- but I really dont think so!

 

[KatherineinCA]

starfairy,

I had been to this board before Kevin died. But, just like you, because I had experienced previous losses (a miscarriage and an ectopic pregnancy), it's no wonder that I was drawn to this topic. I joined MDC in April 2002. I was newly pregnant with Kevin and particularly wanted information about pursuing a VBAC and possibly a homebirth. Then when he was stillborn in November 2002, I was very grateful that I already knew about this board. I have noticed that throughout this last year, all the support and help I could ever hope for has been available right when I have needed it, and knowing about this board is a perfect example. In fact, I posted here as soon as I got home from the hospital because I desperately needed advice about coping with the engorgement.

Thinking of you,
Katherine

 

[Britishmum]

I started coming here over the past month or so. I didnt look at the miscarriage posts though.

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It wasn't a conscious thing, but I knew deep down that this pregancy was going wrong. Rationally, it was easy to say I was worried, as the pregnancy was so different to my others. No sickness, just an overwhelming tiredness. No matter how many times people said to me that this was because I was chasing around after two children this time, I knew that the tiredness was a sign that something was wrong. I think that the baby was struggling and my body was working overtime trying to sustain him.

I'm so glad that I'd already visited and posted a few times. I don't know what I'd have done without the board. I knew nothing about miscarriage - had never even thought about it, although I know a lot of people who've had them. Sort of didnt want to think of it. Now I feel terrible that I'd never allowed it into my consciousness.

I had to go out baby shopping today for two friends who've just had babies. I"m still waiting to miscarry, so it was weird. I'd otherwise have been buying stuff for this baby too. But both these friends had miscarriages before, so it wasn't painful buying for them. It was fine, and I actually enjoyed my way of celebrating their healthy pregnancies. I'd prayed so many times for both friends during their losses and for a healthy outcome this time around. I don't know if I could have gone shopping for them though if they'd never suffered a loss. Like, they'd have been as ingnorant as I used to be about the pain of losing a child.

I'm not sure if I can face going to see them though, at least for a while. Not so much because of how I'll feel, but because I don't want to tinge their happiness with my sadness. I haven't told them what's happened, and am not sure if or when I will.

Anyway, back on topic, yes, I'd recently visited. It was intuition.