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how do you handle family who continue to smoke around your lo's and you (I'm pg)?
MIL just moved to the area and this has become a huge issue...as we are seeing her much more frequently and sometimes going to her house...
I cannot stand the smell of cigarette smoke, it was one of my major nausea triggers early in this pg and I absolutely do not want it around my dd or child to be!
DH has to tell her every time we come over, please not to smoke in the house when we are there...it irks me, b/c I feel like she should *know* by now...and really, if she wants us to come over, don't smoke in the house for HOURS b/f we come over b/c it STINKS.
furthermore, she will light up when she's out and about with dd and I...at the playground right beside us, etc which I also feel is inappropriate...I want her to go far away if she feels like she needs one and to a more appropriate area.
I don't know what makes her think it's okay??
DH and I used to be smokers, me years and years ago, DH still slips now and then, but always always always smokes outside and sprays himself with scent neutralizer b/f coming inside...maybe this is why?
I know it was common to smoke around kids in her child-rearing years...my parents did too...but that was b/f we knew how awful it was for those around you!
She also asked DH and I for a smoke eater for her house for Xmas...which is not only insanely far out of our spending range but not our responsibility...I feel like she's saying, if you want to come over and have a smoke-free time, how about getting me this...but she's the one who wants us to come over and it's her grandchild's and grandchild-to-be's HEALTH we are talking about...not to mention DH and I's!
I guess I just feel like this shouldn't be an issue...it should be common sense (and decency) and I'm starting to feel like a broken record when I mention it...