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dd (24 months) takes her shoes off EVERY SINGLE TIME we are in the car. sometimes i have to make several trips for errands, appointments etc and she takes them off between <b>every</b> trip and i have to buckle or tie her shoes on before we get out. she's also started doing it in stores while she's in the cart, fiddling around with her shoes till they fall off..i'm sorry i'm pregnant my back hurts i dont want to bend down a million times a day to put shoes on AAAH <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
i have bought her 3 different pairs of shoes, thinking maybe they hurt/bother/dont fit her<br><br>
it's making me slightly <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nut.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nut"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nut.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nut"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nut.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nut"> OK, more than slightly <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br><br>
any ideas? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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My son is three and still does this :LOL I don't have any suggestions for keeping them on though. Can you just put them back on when she's still in the seat so you don't have to bend over to the ground? That's what I do if he needs them on. Oh, and get velcro ones so you're not tying all the time. If we get home and he's kicked them off he just walks in barefoot <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> And in the store, in the cart, just leave them off and let her tootsies air out <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Probably not the advice you wanted, but I really don't see a way to keep shoes on a kid while mama is driving, yk? Well, unless you consider duct tape (JUST KIDDING! :LOL ) Seriously it's probably just one of those things you have to let go on.
 

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I feel your pain. Not only do I have to put ds' shoes back on at every stop, I have to take them off and put them back on usually no less than 5 times at each stop. He freaks out about the seams on his socks (even the supposedly seamless socks) and if they're not just so, I have to take them off and put them on again.<br><br>
It's infuriating but there's really nothing to be done about it. I just breathe deeply and let it pass.
 

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Yup. Fact of the matter is, you simply cannot *make* her keep them on, so the best thing is to just let it go.<br><br>
DD had this thing going where she only wanted to wear rainboots ALL the time, and I couldn't get her to wear anything else. Then one day I figured out if I let her go barefoot in the stroller and just throw whatever shoes I want (sandals, runners, etc) in the basket, then when we get somewhere she wants to get out I just say "okay, but we need to put your shoes on first" and she NEVER even bats an eyelid, just lets me put on whatever shoes she wants.<br><br>
Distract and conquer. That's my strategy. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">:<br><br>
My dd is 3 and still takes her shoes off all the time in the car. In her defense, I usually do too if I am not driving. Now she is big enough to put them back on herself, but I just lived with it until she could do it herself.<br><br>
It helps if you have shoes that are easy to put on.
 

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My older dd did this, too, and I'll agree, it was difficult for me too during pregnancy. Especially since I was pregnant with a twelve and a half pound baby in the summer in Texas, and we drive a Honda Civic. Ugh. So I really feel for you.<br><br>
The only thing that helped even slightly was to reduce the number of times I had to stoop over by putting her in the car barefoot the first time, and then putting the shoes on when we arrived at each location. That reduced one time. Yeah, not much, but there was nothing that worked. I found the velcro shoes were worse because she could undo them as well, plus, unthread them from their slots. I preferred any shoes that did not require me to slide straps through teeny slots.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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my ds is 4 1/2 and still does this - he just doesn't like shoes. i don't make him put them on on the way to someplace, he just brings them with us. then when we get where we're going, if it's a place he needs shoes, i put them on then. if it's a grocery store and he wants to walk rather than ride, he knows he has to wear them.<br><br>
i do feel your pain, though, it was much harder when he was younger and couldn't put them on himself. will she keep socks on? that would at least keep her feet covered in places that have shoe rules. i'm so thankful dd really loves shoes, and would even wear them in the bath tub if i let her <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I'm not sure why she needs shoes? She's 24 mos, so you are pretty much carrying her everywhere, right? Or she is in the cart? I would not bother putting shoes on her at all. If she needs to walk somewhere you simply cant carry her, or she insists on walking, whip out a little pair of sandals or socks or something. When it's cold, could you just pull a pair of liitle rubber boots from your bag?
 

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I'm no help.<br>
I'm 34 and I still take off my shoes in the car. Even if I'm driving.<br><br>
I take off my shoes whenever I sit down. I wear slip on shoes only. Lace ups only if I absolutely have to.<br><br>
I was in church , front row , took off my shoes during service. After service I go upstairs to pick up dd and had to wait while she was putting on her shoes. The teacher said to me" is there something you can do to keep her from taking off her shoes during class ? She takes hers off and everyone else takes theirs off too." it's at this point I remember I left my shoes downstairs. I sheepishly said "she gets it from me" and I wiggled my toes.<br><br>
I thought it was funny. She didn't. I politely told her to get over it. ROFL
 

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My dd still does this. Velcro and slip-ons are helpful, as are <a href="http://www.robeez.com" target="_blank">www.robeez.com</a> Those foiled my dd for quite some time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Plus they are sooo cute! But yeah, velcro is a really good option. I can understand being pregnant and not wanting to bend over or carry her everywhere!
 

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Leave them off? Put her in a stroller/cart and explain that she can only walk when she leaves her shoes on?<br><br>
I only make mine wear shoes for places like stores and such - and only since he got too big to carry. For drive through at the bank, pick up brother from school, visit grandma.... I don't care if he wears shoes or not, kwim?
 

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Yeah, I'm no help either.<br><br>
I'm 37 and still don't like to wear shoes. DD is almost 6, and takes hers off as soon as she's in the car. DS is 19 mos. and doesn't like shoes either!<br><br>
I don't know if it has to do with our SID issues, or if we're just a bunch of hippie's!! :LOL
 

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We taught my son to put his own shoes on at that age, but if that won't work, make your life easier and get some shoes that are super-easy to put on and do it before getting out of the car so she's sitting. If you're really in pain, maybe bring rainboots along that she can just step into? And if she doesn't like wearing rainboots, maybe she'll stop taking her shoes off in the car1
 

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My 4.5 yo still does this....she just hates shoes!<br><br>
We handle things a bit differently now, but at 24 months the trick was twofold for me:<br><br>
1. use easy-on/easy-off shoes (those stretchy ballet slippers available at places like Target were a favorite for both dd and me....and rain boots when a more solid shoe is required)<br>
2. remove them before dc has a chance to remove them and toss them<br><br>
I would slip off her shoes immediately after putting her in her carseat, stroller, shopping cart, etc....and then stow them in an easily accessible place (so I am not struggling to find and/or reach them whereever she tossed them). If you can't beat em, join em! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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Do you know how heavy a 24mo can be?<br><br>
Since before 24 months old, my DD has walked everywhere with me. I am physically a wimp and struggle if I carry her even from the car to inside the store. She is fairly tall and always holds my hand. So yes, at 24 months old, she needed shoes out in public. (In stores with a cart, I put her in the cart. Some stores don't have carts, so she walks with me. Or even if there are carts, if I know I'm not buying much, she walks with me in the store.) Always holding hands.<br><br>
Now that I am pregnant, and she is 32 months old, it is even MORE uncomfortable for me to pick her up and carry her. Once in a while I have to carry her, and I can't stand it.<br><br>
The OP says she is pregnant, so I don't blame her a bit if her child walks from the car to the store, so long as she holds hands and is cautious, etc.<br><br>
And even if the OP DOES carry her child all the time, she might need to put her down for a minute out in public, in which case, she SHOULD be wearing shoes.<br><br>
I really don't get your questioning why a 2yo needs shoes. An infant who doesn't walk... sure, shoes are not necessary. Once they are walking, then yes, I put shoes on in public.
 

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avoid socks and tennies at all cost (unless those are beyound her ability to get off - then you might be on to somehting). velcro sandles have saved my stress. at least they are easy to put on. our problem is that dd throws thenm and it sometimes takes us 5 or 10 minutes to find both of them. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><br><br>
this has passed for all my children and unles you are willing to stop the car and deal with it the moment it happenes there is nothing that can really stop it.
 

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they *are* velcro sandals..LOL i had no idea this would generate so many replies. it was just a not-so-important issue that just drives me batty but overall it's no big deal. I just have to thank God, that it's my biggest "test" at the moment <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
anyway i've done the "keeping them off till we get somewhere" so i at least reduce one time, but i have to do laundry and carrying the laundry baskets across the street to the car and her at the same time just is not going to happen. my back aches even if it's just her for a few min. so i do have to use the cart at stores etc. or have her walk with me.<br><br>
she needs shoes.i dont carry her everywhere--1. she wouldnt let me even i could/wanted to and 2. i dont want to all the time<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> she didnt walk till she was 15 months old, i like having her walk the places she can where it's safe and 3. my back hurts <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> i physically need her to walk some places to reduce stress on my back<br><br>
i didnt realize so many kids did this <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> that alone makes me feel better<br>
thanks for all the replies<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
(and duct tape sounds so nice, but then i'd have to deal with taking it off at some point.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nut.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nut">)
 

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Corvus, I would guess a 24 mos old is between 15 and 50 lbs? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/notes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="notes">:<br><br>
And didja read my suggestions on when she needs shoes? I mean, you did copy and paste the suggestion...but did you read it?<br><br>
Or are you just being cranky, thinking I suggested the child never needed to wear shoes?<br><br>
Oh, and have you checked out the barefoot thread from last week? You might enjoy that one, since so many also took that whole topic way too seriously. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nut.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nut"><br><br>
I am continully amazed at how MCD readers try to make a mountains out of mole hills. But you're preggers, so I can understand that, having been pregnant several times myself. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/belly.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="belly">
 

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Disclaimer: I'm not a mom, YMMV, etc.<br><br>
Corvus,<br><br>
So she needs shoes. That's fine.<br><br>
My instinct was along the lines of some other posters... Put her in the seat barefoot and use ballet-slipper-type easy-on shoes when she needs to get out and walk.<br><br>
You'll still have to put them on, preggo and all, but it should be relatively easy (well, easiER)...<br><br>
Maybe not a perfect solution, but perhaps an improvement, at least.<br><br>
Other than that... Distraction? I mean... maybe a book with lots of laces and interesting things to (physically) do while she's in the carseat? Could be worth a shot.<br><br>
Just my 2 cents...
 
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