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for anyone that has extended-extended nursed - how do you encourage your chidl to NOT discuss nursing when there's a family event?<br><br><br>
we have to go to see family this wkend and i think one of the moms is breastfeeding<br><br>
one of my nightmares is that my dd [who turns 5 soon] will be very enthusiastic about how much she enjoys nursing (she tells me she will NEVER stop doing it) and i really truly honestly deeply do not want to have to discuss this with family or defend it<br><br><br>
my theory is that its liek religion - what we choose to do in our home is our business
 

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Sheesh, if you have a spirited, enthusiastic, talkative nursing 5 yo, and a close-minded, ill-informed family, that is one bad combo.<br><br>
I was able to get my kids to know what not to talk about in front of Grandma. "Jokes" or words that we think are fine, may offend Grandma. They sort of got it at that age, but there will be slip-ups.<br><br>
You know, kids will say the darndest things. On another thread, moms had to deal with little ones talking about mom's "hairy vulva" for ex.<br><br>
good luck trying to get it thru to your dd!
 

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This is one thing that just never came up with my family. I don't remember DS being vocal about it, and to my knowledge DD only talks about it a little with me.<br><br>
Why would a child speaking up be a problem? If it's to another mom who's nursing she may well find it sweet. I certainly would have.<br><br>
IF she says anything, depending on how she phrases it, it still might not give away that she "still"<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">: nurses. They may well assume that she just remembers and then it's your choice to enlighten them or not.<br><br>
My family did know, so actually I did have some hassles, but it wasn't from the child being verbal.
 

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I don't think it's a very good idea to tell a child that they shouldn't talk about breastfeeding in front of certain people. It may make the child think there is something shameful about breastfeeding. If your relatives find out, then they find out. As DaryLLL pointed out, children will come out with things that are a lot more embarrasing. There's really no way to avoid it.<br><br>
The more people who hear about extended breastfeeding happening, the better our society will become as a whole. I know this can be hard for the individuals involved.
 

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as a whole yes it is good for society to learn about nursing past a year of age<br><br><br>
but i'm not looking to be a trailblazer at a family event where i know just how tightly-sphinctered the family is<br><br>
there is nothing to be gained other than discomfort etc.<br><br><br><br>
my goal isnt to tell dd "dont tell its secret"<br><br>
rather id like her to understand "some things are personal"<br><br>
its why we close the bathroom door when company is here; why we wear clothes in front of people etc.
 
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