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and not totally burning out! DS (6) is definitely not profoundly gifted, but is very bright. Reading well, good at math, etc. And he is *relentless* with the questions, the discussions, wanting me to play chess, etc. etc. And of course he doesn't require much sleep, so he goes down around 9 and is up by 6:30.<br><br>
He is in school, and does enjoy it, luckily, but I still feel burned out after 6 years. And poor DD, who is 3 and more introverted, like me -- I feel like she often gets the short end of the stick.<br><br>
How do I honor DS's needs without sacrificing mine and DD's? He really, really dislikes doing things alone; it almost is like punishment to him.<br><br>
Anyone else have a kid like this? He's amazing, but it's like he never gets filled up. Help!<br>
thanks<br>
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Hello...no real advice for your little dd but I have a 3.5 yo who sounds an awful lot like your ds!! I suspect she is moderately gifted and seems to never run out of batteries! She sleeps about the same hours as your ds (stopped napping a few months after 2 years old) and recently showed an interest in chess! My dd also loves doing things with me...she rather put a puzzle together with me than alone. And I know she can do it herself.<br><br>
Now toss into the mix, a 1 year old who is also very active and in need of attention. So, I am also one tired mama!!<br><br>
So hugs to you!!!!
 

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My second son is like this. It's exhausting. I am very happy to send him to school on most days. He needs more people around him than just us. Our YMCA has a children's center where he can play with other kids and we go to playgrounds a lot. He also does some organized group activities -- swim classes, karate -- and wants to do more. He had a great time at daycamp this past summer.<br><br>
He's only 4, but I am looking forward to when he is 7 and can go to overnight camp. (There's a great science based camp about two hours from our house.) He'll love it and I will be glad to have a week off.
 

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We handle it with plenty of activities. My son is 6 1/2 and right now he is in Cubscouts, Basketball, Religious Class, and Chinese Lessons. We just decided to take a little break from Chess Club. The sport varies or we do swim lessons. Some of his interests may cycle in or out as there are a few other activities he wants to try or gets tired of existing activities.
 

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See, in a perfect world this is exactly what I'd do. But with budgetary restrictions, combined with not wanting DD to have to sit through yet ANOTHER class for him, I feel limited. I'm hoping his school will offer more after-school classes in the new year. Right now he does chess club right after school, and that's the perfect solution -- it's low-cost and he goes by himself.<br><br>
He does need tons of exercise, and it can be hard for me to wear him out. Swimming is a good idea. I'll have to check the Y schedule to see if there are lessons that work for us.<br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">and not totally burning out! DS (6) is definitely not profoundly gifted, but is very bright. Reading well, good at math, etc. And he is *relentless* with the questions, the discussions, wanting me to play chess, etc. etc. And of course he doesn't require much sleep, so he goes down around 9 and is up by 6:30.</div>
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...oh I thought you were talking about my dd! Um, yeah exactly, she's 6 and has always been very busy. When she was younger I used to joke that we would do a hundred things before 9am. That hasn't changed much. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> She went through a stint at 4.5 waking up at 5:30am wanting to play chess. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy"> School is a saving grace for me. Over the weekends I go a little nutso, constant games, activities, even fake math and spelling tests, she wants to do so many things. And yes, the same, dd2 (3.5) doesn't demand as much and I often feel like she is getting the short end of the stick. I recharge at night when they are asleep, and make sure I get as close to 8 hours of sleep as possible.<br><br>
She goes to a science class after school, one day a week but we could use some more activities. She loves swimming but timing is always a problem. I was thinking of gymnastics or maybe an art class.
 

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For us, living in rural America offers no activities for 3 year olds!! BUT next summer, she will be old enough for summer soccer and the summer recreation program at the school!<br><br>
I do try to have plenty of activities at home though. But with the winter months coming up, we will be inside a lot soon! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/cold.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Cold">
 

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Activities, playdates, exercise, school, etc. If there is not enough stimulation, things can go south quickly. As a child, I liked to play by myself and was introverted -- ds, however, is <i>nothing</i> like this. Like a pp said, it seems like our younger child just gets wrapped up into whatever the older one wants/needs to do.
 

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Sounds a lot like my almost 6 year old! I'm very, VERY lucky, though, in that she has two bookend sisters that take up my slack! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"><br><br>
We have a lot of activities, school (which is much better now that they are actually starting to differentiate for her), play dates (I don't do as many as she would like), and just sucking it up and using Google a LOT to answer all the questions!<br><br>
My eldest is much more introverted than my middle and youngest (who is much like my middle in personality). It is hard on her sometimes, just because of the amount of commotion that exists, but she's pretty good about going to another room when she needs a quieter environment, or if she gets overloaded. Sometimes the noisy sisters have to leave. I try to make sure that when she is trying to say something, that she gets her chance (she will often just wait and wait for an opportunity, but it never comes! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ). It's a balancing act, to be sure!
 

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Can you hire a teenager to come over and play for a few hours a week? I seriously hire one of the kids from my youth group to just play with my boys for two hours a week after school while I make all the phone calls, etc, I need to do for the week and go out for a coffee by myself. It is my total sanity saver, and costs only $10 a week.<br><br>
Also, I am a major extrovert and can get very frustrated when just hanging around the house a lot (which I end up doing, obviously). I find that when I at least have some other sources of stimulation it helps immensely -- music playing, colourful interesting things to look at, gum to chew, hand work to stitch, etc. Can you provide him with a part of the house where he can just be loud and have a lot more going on (stuff on the walls, mess on the floor, music playing, etc) than you would normally be comfortable with?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">See, in a perfect world this is exactly what I'd do. But with budgetary restrictions, combined with not wanting DD to have to sit through yet ANOTHER class for him, I feel limited. I'm hoping his school will offer more after-school classes in the new year. Right now he does chess club right after school, and that's the perfect solution -- it's low-cost and he goes by himself.<br><br>
He does need tons of exercise, and it can be hard for me to wear him out. Swimming is a good idea. I'll have to check the Y schedule to see if there are lessons that work for us.<br>
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I gotta admit very few of my son's activities are expensive. Chess Club is a little pricey per summester and the sports get expensive. Otherwise religion class was $25 for the year, Chinese lessons are through our local chinese group and taught by volunteers so cost me $25 plus $8 for the book for 8 weeks, and scouts was $22 for the year including a boys life subscription. Look around you may be surprised by the low price activities you can find. I personally like the ones such as scouts where I can convince Dad that it's a Father/Son thing and I should just stay home with the little one. But otherwise I think my daughter enjoys the one on one time while we wait for him to get done with something. We chat and play games. I usually don't find a need to actually be sitting in class with him most of the time.
 
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