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I don't know how much bickering is normal between siblings, but most of the time, my two, my only two, dd 10 and ds 5, cannot be in the same room together. When they are I hear "get away from me, leave me alone, go AWAY!" from dd. From ds I just hear screaming and yelling. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:<br><br>
This 'issue', does not seem to be getting better and I believe if anything, this will be the deciding factor if I ever send them back to school.<br><br>
DH works tons of hours and is never home. We live rurally and ds has no friends once school starts.<br><br>
Honestly, I don't know what to do. I just feel like ds is bored to tears and must torture his sister all day as there is nobody else to bother (cept the cats and me and we get our fill LOL)<br><br>
HELP!!!
 

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I have to make my older two go to different parts of the house or property. Sometimes this is, one out front, one out back, one in, one out, or both in their rooms. They both do all their bookwork in their own rooms.
 

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It's kind of sad. If I try to do something fun, usually one of them isn't on board for it, unless it's something like the beach, science museum, etc.<br><br>
I guess my question is, how do you stay committed when they act so beastly? LOL..
 

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If anybody has suggestions I am up for them. This will be my first yr. hs'ing with an 8 and almost 5-yr-old and sometimes my son breathing too loudly next to dd seems to aggravate her. He also loves to instigate so sometimes dd's complaints are warranted. Dd also instigates in her own way too though.
 

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I have an 8 year old son, 5 year old daughter, and 2 year old son as well. My 8 and 5 year olds get along for the most part but they have plenty of fights/disagreements too! My daughter seems to be aiming for a Golden Globe with some of the performances she puts on. I wonder if my 8 year old is really being that bad to her or if she is just trying to get him into trouble.<br><br>
What I have done which seems to work is to make the "work it out" themselves. I will come into the room where the screaming and what not is going and tell them to both stop, put down the toy that is causing the fight, and then work it out. They will look at me and start telling me what the other one did but I do not want to be judge and jury. I was not in the room so I don't know who is telling the truth. So I stop them right there and tell them to look at each other and talk it out. I stay and oversee the discussion but they will work it out themselves. Before I let them go back to playing I ask each one if they are ok with the decision being made. If they say yes, then they are allowed to get up again. This works wonderfully but does take patience to do. I would rather come into the room and yell at both of them and then send them to different rooms or what not but this seems to be a better scenario. Sometimes I will hear the ruckus gaining volume and I will ask if I need to get involved or do I need to make them work it out and quickly they will say that they are fine as they don't want to have to go through the process. Usually the one in the wrong is quick to drop the issue and they go back to playing again.<br><br>
I don't know if that helps or not but that is what we do.<br>
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I have two boys 7 and 4 and they are either a) loving on each other and playing awesomely together or b) attempting to KILL each other <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Being a "former girl" myself, I'm also wondering if pre-puberty is playing into this? I SOOOOO remember the "LEAVE ME ALONE" feeling (in fact, I *still* get that sometimes LOL)... perhaps she just really needs a place to call her own... even a part of a room where NO ONE can pester her?????<br><br>
Hugs to you... I am kerfuffled with two little boys, I know NOTHING of raising girls other than having BEEN one LOL and watching my sister raise two (who are now 21 and 18).
 

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I save all my old magazines and the children's old magazines and cruddy books. I keep them in a pile and when the kids start to drive me crazy....it's cut and paste time. The love to search for pictures and cut and paste. Make sure that the kids get to pick their own magazines so that they don't fight over the pictures the other one is getting to cut out!<br><br>
I notice that they fight when they're bored. So I need to have some stuff set up to do when they're bored. Maybe go outside and look for something. Make a list one day of cool things that you find outside. Then, send them on a treasure hunt.<br><br>
Make them clean thier rooms<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
Go for a walk.<br><br>
Fighting will come and go. It's not a reason to send them to school. Although I often throw out the threat "I'm so tired of being around you fighting children, I'm tempted to send you to school!"<br><br>
Good luck<br>
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We have the same problem sometimes. Sometimes it gets to the point where they just both get a time-out for awhile. I have also been known to wash mouths out when they can't seem to say anything nice to each other. I have found that it is usually just that one of them is bored and so picks on the other. Usually, so long as I can find something for both of them to do, we're okay. Not always easy, though.<br><br>
But, as there has always been some part of DD's schoolwork that she can do without me sitting right there, sometimes I'll go do a game or something with DS while she's working by herself. Sometimes it's just a 5 minute game of dominoes, but it helps, as he doesn't feel quite so left out.<br><br>
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Thanks. For my two, they don't talk things out well. Usually I have to get inbetween them and pull them apart. Lately I have been telling them they need to work it out and quit coming to me over every little thing <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
Lisa, yes, boredom. AND YES HORMONES <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> dd has been spending more time in her room. I think I'll make up a list of treasure hunt items, good idea!
 
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