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I posted the question about hospital or homebirth. My DH and I are trying to decide what to do.<br>
I would like to hear from people who have multiple children.....<br>
What do you do with your other kids while you are in labor.<br>
I have a 3 year old (will be at the time) and a 1 year old. I have 2 older children 8 and 9 also. I am not so worried about them. My kids are pretty rambunctious......I want my DH to be a part of the birth and not have to WATCH the little ones......<br>
I really dont have anywhere for them to go either. I can just see them jumping on the bed while I labor away.....I am sure i wont mind, but the midwive, doula, Hubby might.....KWIM?<br>
How do you do it? Any ideas or suggestions?<br>
How to keep them occupied?<br>
This is a real clincher for us to HB or hopsital birth......<br>
TIA!
 

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Hm... When I had my last one, the oldest was only 2 and I lived 5 min from in-laws, so they took them... this time...<br><br>
I know my kids will be fine and behave while I labor... they can watch movies, play video games, play w/ legos, etc and are pretty much not a bother- but they are 8, 9 & 10 now.<br>
My best friend is planning on being here for a week and I hope to go into labor while she is here- then she would redirect the kids if needed.<br>
What times of day were your other kids born? typically a mom w/ other children will labor/birth in the middle of the night- it's a psychological thing, since they don't have to worry about taking care of anyone at that time...<br>
Also, think of how long your labors normally last.<br>
I would suggest having someone there- maybe a babysitter, postpartum Doula would be very good- even if you just found one and explained your concerns, she would probably have suggestions for you.<br>
I think you have time to get to know some people who could help- in a Church group, MOPS, Le Leche League, in your "tribal area" here on MDC. There might be an older lady that loves kids who would be willing to be on call.<br>
If not, have some videos (we can get some from the library- so no $$ and we get them for 2 weeks) or some new toys to play with that you give them in the heat of labor- not at the beginning of labor.
 

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My kids will be 9.5, 8, 5 and 2.5 when this baby is born. We don't plan on having anyone extra here for them, I am planning on just what rachelagain said...having a box with labor toys in it for them to be occupied with. New toys, games, movies, probably snacks, etc. If the midwife is here when I deliver, I know she'd help if we needed her to. But I don't see it being a problem and my kids are rambunctious, too!
 

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I'm having a similar dilemma - my oldest saw his younger brother being born - but it was tough - I was worried about him near the end of labor and really couldn't fully dilate until I'd been left completely alone. on the other hand - i really feel its important for children to see childbirth -even if it gets tough at times. so...i'm definitely going forward with the homebirth and will play it by ear during labor. I don't have family near enough - but I have a few close friends that could take them for a few hours if I really felt I needed to get them out of the house and/or needed my partner just for me. I've thought about hiring a doula to take care of the kids - but I don't think it would make much difference, i'd still be thinking about them and worrying how she is with them and our place is really small.<br><br>
My master plan for labor is to wake up in the middle of the night, almost through transition, followed by a quick birth <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">: (I can dream can't I?!!)
 

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We are planning on giving the kids who are 5 and 3 jobs to do for the birth. Like fetching cool wash cloths and bringing mommy drinks and such. My youngest will probly just do her own thing but my oldest will want to be involved. I plan on "practicing" as i get further along, by making noises and explaining what is gonna be like and their jobs that they will have if they're comfortable.
 

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I do plan on having childcare, a grandmother and three family friends. My first night in the hospital I am hoping my sister will stay with me (the following day is a holiday) and then my DH will come and spend the day as will friends coming to visit. I hope to come home two days later. I am not sure if I will have him or someone else stay with me the second night. He often gets on my nerves in the hospital, so we shall see.
 

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our kids will be 3 and 5. if our 3yo is awake, we're planning to let him play at a neighbor's house, otherwise let him sleep. Our 5yo will be here and will probably be part of the birth, but I plan to have someone here (probably my mom) in case she changes her mind and to answer her millions of questions/comments. I'm thinking I probably won't want her with me during most of labor, but would love for her to be there as I birth the baby. She wants to be the "checker" for if it's a boy or girl.
 
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