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dating? I'm a SAHM to 3 great homeschooling kiddos but I just NEVER meet anyone{at least not male and single! or interesting) I have een separated for 5 years(the divorce is now final) and I haven't started dating. I've been working on emotional issues and now feel ready to e in an equal loving relationship with a man- I have this in friendships already. The question is-how to meet somebody? I have choosen to stay in a small, rural community because my kids' dad lives here ut not many here have similiar values to me! Any ideas on the internet thing? It kind of intrigues me and freaks me out, too. Also, I'm not sure the kind of guy I want would be attracted to that. You know, kind, intelligent, open, sure of himself, profamily, loyal, ect. I no longer need somebody i have just been thinking lately that it would be nice to share the blessing that is our life with somebody!Thanks for any insight!
 

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I met my dh on Match.com. They had (and may still have) a 7 day free trial membership which we both happened to sign up for at the same time and that's how we met. He was the only guy I ended up meeting because some of the fellows who wanted to meet up just didn't strike my fancy. We met in March and got married in September so things went fast. We just celebrated our 4th anniversary and things are going great.<br>
It is possible to meet good guys online, but there are some nutjobs out there too.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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One of my best friends in Calfornia met her husband on match.com ... I used to be skeptical of online dating, but if things don't work out with me and my current guy, I would consider it.
 

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I met my dbf on line and he is wonderful!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/luxlove.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="throb"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/luxlove.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="throb"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/luxlove.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="throb"><br>
like savannah smiles, he was the first guy i met and we've been together a year next week. we'll get married eventually...in time... between us we have 5 kids - 12, 9 and 6 - his and mine - 4.5 and 3. be safe and smart and meet in public with a friend.<br>
take care...
 

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I've done the online thing too and met a great guy that way!<br>
I found being honest & direct was good. I didn't get a lot of interest, but the ones who were really knew what they were getting into.
 

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Please keep us posted on how it goes! I am in quite the same situation, and would love to give it a try. Too much is going on in my life to add another factor right now, but when things calm down...<br><br>
BTW, my mom met a man through newspaper singles ads (low tech version, but just the same), and was with him for 15 years, till he died in 1989. In the 70's, everyone thought she was crazy. But it was great for them, and they never would have found each other any other way.<br><br>
I wish you all the best!
 

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I used Lavalife for a short time back in March - met several interesting men, including the first person I had a date with post-separation. Mostly players on that site as it seems to be geared towards the younger end of the spectrum (lots of casual dating types). A co-worker met her DH on Yahoo personals - they were each others' first contact and they corresponded for several weeks via e-mail before meeting in person. I would suggest you try either Match.com or Yahoo personals - use the free trial and post a profile. You might be surprised, and it will be fun either way.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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I forgot to say that I used Match.com. My best friend met her husband on Match, too. My cousin has used Yahoo personals and Match. I think on-line dating is a great way to meet people. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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Thank you, everyody. I am going to give it a try. It still feels wierd, though.<br>
I will definately e upfront as hopefully that will scare the weirdos off- I'm pretty granola-ish!
 

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Good luck! I think that would be a lot of fun. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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I've always felt weird about online dating, but I'm really warming up to the idea lately. One of the moms on here metioned a site called singleparentmeet.com and I decided to give it a try. I've only been a memeber for a week or so now but I've chatted with a few nice and interesting people.<br><br>
I think online dating is a great way to really chat with someone and get to know them better without any pressure. It is a good way to find out weather or not you have enough in common before you bother going on a real date. I've never met anyone from the internet, but if and when I do it will be in a public place.<br><br>
Good luck mama, give it a shot!
 

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terrarose - let us know how it goes for you... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
I hope you have the kind of luck I did. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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I met my dp on singleparentmeet.com. We also registered at the same time and met right away. We are together almost a year. I think internet dating is a great thing. We got to know one another from the inside out..without judgment calls based on looks,etc..You tend to become friends before jumping into more,imo.<br><br>
There are always going to be wingnuts, but you have as much of a chance in a bar as on line at meeting one. Use your common sense, keep an open mind, and be yourself..Good Luck!
 

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I have a question <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
I am poor, so do most of the places have you pay to get messages and stuff? Just curious as free would be a bonus, but who knows <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"><br><br>
I think singleparentmeet makes you pay to see messages, right? do they all?<br><br>
Thanks, <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 
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