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I just can't find the energy to do anything. I am so tired all of the time, all I do is sleep. My housework is seriously lacking and I am sure DH is sick of picking up, doing laundry and fixing dinner. I feel horrible about all of this but I just can't get off my butt and when I do, I am physically wiped out in a matter of minutes. Now I have this cold, sore throat and all, which doesn’t help out at all. I have so much left to do to get ready for LO. I have so many diapers I need to make it isn't even funny. Her nursery is undecorated. I have everything but once again no energy to fix it up. Still haven't washed anything or sorted through DS stuff for unisex stuff. I keep telling myself I need to pack a hospital bag, just in case I end up going but I just can't do it. Oh and the big one, I haven't got anything to prepare for my homebirth. What the heck is my deal? If I keep this up there is no way I will have anything done before LO arrives thus making my life harder. Anyone else having a serious case of no motivation?
 

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Hi there - I'm at least as far behind as you, but I'm not worried about it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I think the motivation will come in a few weeks and, at a minimum, I'll have washed a few days of newborn clothes and stuck some undies and a tootbrush in a bag for me.<br><br>
It sounds like your cold may be getting you down. Can you just let yourself off the hook for a week and take extra good care of yourself? That means plenty of rest and letting dh handle stuff for a little while longer (while saying thanks 100 times!)....
 

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Up until this past weekend I have been just as unmotivated as you are describing. I felt guilty because I couldn't seem to accomplish anything and if I did happen to get something finished I would have to take a nap!!! Anywho, something clicked in me this weekend and I have been going along quite well. I have actually finished a couple of projects and am starting another today. Let up on yourself, give it a bit longer and see if you don't just click over like I did... Take care of your cold and get well and see how you feel then.<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 

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yeah, I know the feeling, you should see my half finished diaper stash!<br><br>
And then there's the mass quantities of laundry. sigh.<br><br>
And my wife just left this morning for a 2 week business trip in China. Like anything's getting done between now and the end of that!
 

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Yeah, I can barely keep up with daily chores around here, forget about preparing for the baby! Now that I'm 30 weeks, I'm starting to feel nervous about how very little I've done in the way of preparing. This will be my first homebirth, and I know I'll want everything nice and tidy and well organized before the baby is born, and I have this mental list of things to do....but I would just rather do other things!! Bleh.<br><br>
I haven't even <i>started</i> sewing diapers. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Not to mention there are a couple maternity sewing projects I want to do for myself that I haven't started. I only have 10 weeks left to enjoy them if they were finished right now, so what's stopping me from getting started? Also the pouch carrier I want to sew for myself, and the boppy cover...hmm. I really need to get cracking! And even though I'm not doing <i>terrible</i> on energy levels, they're just not the kind of projects I <i>want</i> to do at this point in time, so they're getting ignored for now. Not exactly smart of me, is it?
 

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I hear you! I am also sooooo tired! In the morning I feel okay (most days) but by the afternoon I feel like I can hardly keep my eyes open and I don't want to do <i>anything.</i> I just looked fatigue up in my book <span style="text-decoration:underline;">The Natural Pregnancy Book</span> and here are a couple of recommendations that I might try. These are taken straight from the book and I haven't tried any yet but probably will if my farigue and lack of motivation continues.<br><br>
*an herbal bath - add 3 to 5 drops of an essential oil to your bath (recommended are peppermint, lemon, orange, sandalwood and rosemary oils) Splash mildly cold water on your belly after bath and then rest.<br>
*If you don't have time for a bath the book suggests that you just take a basin of cool water and splash yourself with the scents.<br>
*take spirulina in pill form, according to the recommended dosage, or up to a tablespoon of the powder daily. You can put it in smoothies or juice.<br>
*a strong nettle infusion - 2 to 3 cups per day to nourish the adrenals, regulate blood sugar, improve nutrition intake and build iron levels<br>
*excercise (I want to exercise but haven't been able to motivate myself to get moving at all lately <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">)<br><br>
HTH!
 

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It's nice to hear I'm not the only one. This place looks like a war zone and I'm too darn tired to care! I cleaned the kitchen this morning and it totally wore me out! My to-do list keeps growing!<br>
I've definitely got to get it together but think the virus or whatever it is that we keep passing back and forth, hasn't helped my energy level.<br><br>
Hugs mama! Just wanted you to know you are in good company!
 

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Energy really comes in spurts at this stage. You might have a day or 2 when you are nesting and get lots done and then a week of napping whenever you can. I just go with the flow and do what I can when I can. As for dh I figure I am carrying his offspring too he can pick up the slack for a few months.
 

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I'm in the same boat, we're likely 6 weeks until baby arrives and I have done NOTHING!<br><br>
Worse than nothing, I have so many other things to do: business tax, taking care of my clients, finish renovating the basement, write an exam... there is no end and very little time to even take care of myself let alone think about the baby coming. It's just so overwhelming, so much to do and I have no energy to do any of it.
 

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I feel your pain! Lately I have been feeling lazy & the messes bother me MORE than usual, I WANT NEATNESS, I just feel powerless to control it. *sigh*<br>
We're entering the homestretch, I expect I will feel blah-ish until birth.
 

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i'm right there with you!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/sleeping.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="sleeping"><br>
Dh is awesome about not saying a thing about coming home to a messy house!! even though I know exactly what he's thinking!!! and he's also been cooking dinner most nights. He rocks!!<br><br>
i remember with Dd I had this overwhelming desire to clean clean clean! not this time. Hopefully that feeling will come in time!
 

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This is exactly how I feel!!
 

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Its really good to know that Im not the only one feeling like this. I just dont seem to be motivated at all to get anything done, much less the energy. I feel like my husband think Im just lazy and just because im pregnant doesnt mean I cant get off my ass and get some stuff done around here. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> He hasnt really said anything lately about me being lazy and he doesnt really.. but I still feel like he thinks that way. I wish I felt like doing more. Just as some of you said, it drives me nuts for the place to be a mess and disorganized.. but I guess it doesnt drive me nuts enough to do something about it.
 

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I'm glad to know that others are struggling with this too.<br>
OP, I'm behind just like how you describe as well. I wanted to make so many things for the baby, but with Xmas sewing and knitting, it just hasn't happened. I seem to go in a cycle of every 3 days, getting a good nights rest, then the other nights, I'm up for most of it with heartburn/indigestion or just insomnia as thinking about all the things yet to do. Then during the day, I'm beat and totally lack the motivation to get all the things done. So frustrating. I'm thinking it's the LO's way of preparing me for what's to come!
 

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Me too. I feel like nothing has gotten done this pg. I did actually manage to get s few things out for the baby last night. But there's still more to do. And the house is getting to be messy. I just have no energy to clean it lately.
 

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I went through a major cleaning point and now...on bedrest I sleep all day long and lounge the rest of the time. It stinks. I wish I just wanted to play games or something with the kids...but no such luck
 
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