[newmommaamy]

So I don't post a lot on this site, but I have gotten a ton of pregnancy info from all you wonderful people. Others seem to be get a lot of help from venting- so here I go.

This will be our first child- and both DH and I are really excited. We both work at the same engineering firm where we met about 4 years ago. About 9 months ago he applied for a transfer half way across the country and just a month ago it came through. So now we are moving in a week. I had been planning on working part time after taking 6 months of leave. I will be able to get a job with our firm in our new location eventually, but it is unlikely I will be able to start out part time with a new manager. The move is definitly the right thing for our family and I am really excited about it. BUT- I am really sad to leave the area and my job. Yesterday was my last day of work. To be an engineer was my goal since I was in middle school and I have loved doing it the last 6 years. Every time I think about not working I cry. I know that soon I will have the baby and I won't miss work so much but right now I just want to head back in and tell them I changed my mind and I am staying. Everyone I talk to wants to talk about how great it is to be off work and it just makes me want to cry more.

Ok, that's my rant.

 

[DoulaClara]

Hard transition! I had to leave a job I loved last year so that we could move to another state, and I spent a lot of time quite sad over it. I know it doesn't help a whole lot to say it, but you will be very occupied soon.

Clara

 

[umsami]

Leaving work was tough on me. I think I was off about 10 days before I gave birth. The plan for part-time work never went through, so I ended up going on an extended (never ending) maternity leave.

 

[Lissybug]

That is hard. I hope something can work out for you to work part time in your new location. Sometimes people mean well by pointing out the possitives (like- oh, you'll love being off work!), when you just need to mourn the change in your life. And yes, it can be great to be home, but having a baby is a HUGE transition in life, and it sounds like you love your job. Just because we women become mothers doesn't mean we don't have other parts of our personalities, or that those parts of us go away. Not sure I'm writing very coherently, I'm just trying to say I can see why this would be difficult for you. Be kind to yourself as you and your family work through all these changes!