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i'm due in early june. i'm very excited to be a mom, this is a very wanted baby, but boy do i hate being pregnant.<br><br>
i had hyperemisis in the beginning, and i still don't feel great, ever. my stomach hurts a lot and i feel like i'm lugging around ten tons - and i know it's going to get worse! i am working - which is sometimes better, because it keeps me busy, but sometimes i just want to lie in bed all day (which i pretty much do on the weekends.)<br><br>
i am getting therapy, which is helpful. but i'm just looking to see if there are any trips/tips other unhappy mommas-to-be used to make it through ...<br><br>
thanks. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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I think what has helped me the most this time around is taking a bath every night and soaking as long as I can. I definitely have less aches and pains than in my previous pregnancies. Still a good bit, but I can tell the difference the next day when I skip a soak. I try to pamper myself whenever I can, using yummy bath stuff and lotions, belly salve etc. Any little thing you can do to make yourself feel better helps. I hope you feel better mama.
 

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I too have been pretty miserable throughout my pregnancy. I think that the majority of the feelings come from being a little let down. This is my first pregnancy and being a mom is something I have wanted in life above everything else. However, I have just been so sick that it is hard to even be excited. I hate coming across like this b/c I realize what a miracle a child is but I feel as though I was just kind of mis-informed of what pregnancy would be like. Let's just say I'm not glowing. I hope your third trimester goes quick mama. Good Luck and your not alone.
 

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You're not alone! I had an ok first pregnancy, and this one is just miserable. I also had HG until my 5th month, and have experienced some complications. It's hard because I compare this to my first pregnancy, which was so much better, and I just feel angry and helpless and want to be back to being "me" again.<br><br>
One thing I do is look at my son and pictures of him as a baby and think about how worthwhile it is. Another thing I do is try and picture a really fun special activity to do after the birth and plan for it. Mine is that we are going to go to San Diego about 2 months later and go to Sea World (we live in Los angeles) and visit friends. I try and imagine hiking (I am on bedrest), swimming, the feel of the sand at the beach, everything - when I am feeling bad and realize that this won't last forever.<br><br>
Hugs - I am due May 15th. It will be over soon for the both of us.<br><br>
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thanks, all. i think yesterday morning was just a really bad morning. i feel better now, but still am anxious to get my body back.<br><br>
i think the other thing that bothers me about being pregnant is that it's so public, and people bring it up all the time. i'm a pretty private person (except with friends), and it just makes me crazy when people talk about it all the time. there are times i just want to forget about how my body feels - i tried to explain to my husband, you don't think about how your stomach feels all the time! not to mention all the bone-headed things people say - i was in labor for 18 million hours, i had to have an emergency c-section, it was awful, blah blah blah .... a woman also recently said to me that she doesn't think you're a "real" parent unless you have more than one kid! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry"><br><br>
it was like when i was engaged ... i was very excited to be married, our wedding day was a lot of fun, but there were plenty of times when i just didn't feel like talking about it. i got my nails done the day before the wedding, and i didn't even mention it.<br><br>
so anyway ... thanks. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I remember those stories! I don't get them anymore, wanna know why? Because when people start in I listen politely with a smile on my face then say something to the effect of "oh really, I'm so sorry! My birth was AMAZING..." and go on to share my wonderful home/water birth story. Shuts them up good, as if to say, you can't scare me, I love birthing!<br><br>
But regaurdless of loving birthing and loving my babies, I do HATE the agony that is pregnancy! On one hand, I love being so close to my baby. I love getting to be so selfish (no one can hold him but ME haha!). I love to feel him move. I love to talk and sing to him. But this whole sharing such a small space thing... not so fun. I feel sick all the time too, though I've never been able to throw up during pregnancy, even when I wanted to. I feel like my muscles in my sides all the way around to my back are stretching a tearing. My baby is all up in my ribs and dancing on my cervix, I swear sometimes it feels like he's trying to claw his way out! I daydream about this summer when my body will be mine again (minus the infant constantly stuck to my nipples!) and I can go for walks with the kids and get my body back!
 
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