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Ok, I want to take a poll....do you keep your married last name (so that you and your kids have the same name) or do you go back to your maiden name?<br><br>
I have 4 young children and think it might be weird for them. I asked the eldest one and she said she didn't care (10 going on 20) but the others are really young....<br><br>
what do you think?<br>
amie<br><br>
ps. we are not divorced, just separted for about 7 months (physically....over a year emotionally).
 

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So far, I've kept my name the same as the kids.<br>
I go through phases where I'm convinced I will change it, but I tend to always come back to just leaving it as is.
 

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My kids names are hyphenated, so we share a name but they also have their dad's. I feel really good about that, but it might get complicated if I remarry.
 

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Did you hyphenate their names at birth or after divorce? How weird would it be to change their names....to hyphenated names?<br>
what do you think?
 

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The first we had agreed to hyphenate, but for whatever reason only filled out ex's name on the birth cert. However, from day one we used her name as the hyphenated version. DD2 ex wasn't around and she was hyphenated on the birth cert. I went back to court to get dd1's name legally changed and ex consented.<br><br>
Weird? Would it be weird or hard? I don't think it's weird...but ask your kids what they think. And BTW, since a lot of people say kids won't like it, I polled every single kid who had hyphenated names while I was a substitute teacher for two years, and only a couple ever would have preferred just one. Most were very proud and happy to have both, a few were ambivalent. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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When I had ds, I wasn't married and agreed to give him his bio dad's last name. I regret it now because our names are different, it always makes it weird when I go to sign him up for something or anything like that. I would give him my last name if I could do it over again.
 

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I took my husbands name when I married him. Our DD has his name as well. When we divorced I wanted mine and dd's name to be the same and ex wouldn't give permission to change dd's name. I always thought when dd got older, I would change my name back to my maiden name...but truth is, my married name has been my name for 23 years! It would be a pain in the butt to change it now! My mortgage, car, insurances, IRA's, everything is in my current name.<br><br>
A few years ago when my dd stopped seeing her dad she asked if both of us could change our name to my maiden name...but we didn't.<br><br>
I think it's easier for others if we have the same last name, but it always bothers me when others ask if I'm related to X or Y...nope, I'm not. I'd much rather people recoconize my maiden name...it's a name I'm proud of. If I were to do it again...I'd keep my own name from the start.
 

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My mom did not take my dad's last name when they married ( they are divorced now). I have my dad's last name, so I have never had the same last name as my mom, and it has never bothered me at all..ever. My son has my last name even though his non-involved father is on his birth cert. I'm getting married soon and will take my husbands last name. If the sperm donor will let my husband adopt my son, then we will all have the same last name. However, if this doe's not happen then my son will keep grandpa's last name...if this bothers him when he's older I'll see about a legal name change with out my husband adopting him ( hopefully SD will come to his senses by then?)
 

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The divorce was finalized less than 3 weeks ago. I plan on keeping my married name, because honestly, I have a really cool name. I have more of a connection with my current name than with my maiden name. It's comical and fun and quite uncommon. The only ones with my last name in our area are me, ex DH, our 3 kids, ex DH's sister, and one other person who lives on the other side of the county that is of no known relation. The new babe due at the end of January will have her father's last name. My BF was adopted at a young age, and his last name was changed to what it is now (and what will be our baby's last name). It's a very large family, and I'm proud that my child will have such an extended family to be connected to.
 

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I'm keeping my married name. I like it, plus I want to have the same name as my son. If I get married again, I will give DS the choice of whether or not to change his last name.
 

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Weird? Would it be weird or hard? I don't think it's weird...but ask your kids what they think. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"></div>
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Ok, it might be hard for them...but it would be weird or uncomfortable for me...i guess........BUT it might be more uncomfortable for ex....maybe I should keep it for that reason alone <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 
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