[Solange]

Just wondering for all of us pg mammas who are on the last pg ..how you all are doing emotionally?

I am dwindling down to my last 8 weeks and I am starting to feel like all I want to do is sit and rub my tummy and really savor these last weeks of pg....trying to really pay attention when the baby kicks, rolls, ect b/c I know I will not get to be pg again....(dh is adament this is it)...

I think I need to start jounaling the rest of these weeks with this baby...I have done nothing like that yet for this one b/c the begining of this pg was very stressful for me and not the most positive(we lost this baby's twin at 7.5 weeks-had to go thru many u/s and antibiotics for infection, I was super sick with m/s....ect).

So share with me how you all are feeling if you don't mind....

 

[SamuraiEarthMama]

ah, yes... it's a bittersweet feeling, isn't it?

i'm lucky in that my dh has been extremely supportive during this pregnancy... i told him if i were going to do this again, it would be as stress-free as possible (i didn't want to be working, other than taking care of my older kids... no money problems, no moving, etc.). and he's done what he can to hold up his end of the bargain...

this is his first, my fourth. so it's going to be fun to watch him discover all the fun baby games... and it will be his parents' first grandbaby, so of course that's going to be wonderful.

i'm looking forward to going through all the challenging stages, with the benefit of hindsight from my other kids... i'd had toddlers all together before, but now i can look back and say, yes they do grow up. i hope it will be easier to be patient with a little one, knowing that there's a fascinating bigger person coming along soon to take the place of the demanding and difficult toddler.

i'm also excited about having my older kids (ds16, dd14, ds10) helping out with this little one, instead of having to juggle the needs of three lil' guys by myself.

i feel so fortunate to have another chance at this, and i'm thoroughly looking forward to enjoying my years with this "bonus baby." since i never really thought i was going to have this chance, i'm not feeling very sad that it's my last... i sort of went through that with ds 10 years ago. but i could see how that would be hard, especially if i were hoping for more kiddos.

sometimes, though... i think it would be nice to have a bunch more! well, i'm only 41... who knows what will come along? if i've learned anything these last few years, it's that i can be happily surprised by all sorts of things!

looking forward to hearing from other mamas,

katje

 

[water]

Hi, this will (almost 100% sure) be my last one too, and I definately have mixed feelings about it...I also have been so busy that I haven't gotten to pay very much attention to this pregnancy, compared with the last one where I lay around holding my belly :LOL

I just try to pay attention to my body when I can and kind of think, oh, this will be the last time that I am six months pregnant, or whatever...

Also though, I was so worried about the first one, and this time my main goal is to enjoy the pregnancy! So far it;s working, I have been having a great time...now that I know what having a baby is like, I can connect and relate to this baby more, know what I mean?

So I definitely sympathize!

 

[BabyOsMommy]

I'm in denial. If it were up to dh, then this is it. I just can't wrap my head around that yet. If this is a boy, then I *really* want to have another one, and if that one is a boy, then we'll have 3 great boys and 3 chances at a great DIL someday. But I kind of want another one anyways... I just keep saying "Let's see how this goes, with 2 kids 2 years apart before we decide what's next..."

Just the possibility of having this be my last baby is sad (and then since I still have m/s, it seems like not so much of a bad idea when I'm

). So I'm kind of preparing for this to be my last, but really avoiding the actual reality of it but keeping the option open in my head. I'm so busy with work and ds that I don't get time to think about anything most of the time anyways.

 

[3girlsmommy]

I'm 8 days from my guess date and at this point I'm ready to have the baby. I've done everything I can to "preserve" this pregnancy. I have a belly cast and I've had pregnancy photos done. I'm going to miss feeling a baby rolling around inside but on the other hand I'm ready to just be in the buisness of raising my kids and not growing them, if that makes sense. I have known from the get go that this was going to be our last. It has been something I have felt.

I wish you all a happy pregnancy and birth.

 

[frognladybugmama]

well, i think i must be in denial...dh's V is scheduled for july 9th, but we've always discussed adoption for later on down the road when our bio kids are older - he's adopted and feels that tug. as much as i love the miracle of pregnancy and birth, i know we can't financially or physically care for another now. i'm stressed enough w/ just the thought of 3 under 5yrs and a dh that's never home and not attentive when he is. he's a good man, don't get me wrong, he just does nothing in the child-rearing or housekeeping dept. he will play with the kids though. anyways, i *am* sad that this is the last time, i just try not to dwell on it. i know that God has blessed me with my 3 so much more than some mamas yk? i have a friend that's been trying for 5 yrs w/ no kiddos and it saddens me...and i look forward to each new phase, it *will* be nice to leave the house w/o sippycups, diapers, and 10 extra changes of clothes in a few years lol!

 

[Chiromom]

I am only 8 weeks along with what should be my last pregnancy. I remember saying during severe m/s during last preganancy "Never Again! I can't do it!" ... but this is different. DH is planning to go in for the *snip snip* after this one. (Which is a big deal on his part because he is super opposed to non-life saving surgical interventions)

I am not too bittersweet yet because I'm not feeling so great and can't revel in my misery. But I imagine that when I get to the second trimester I will start to feel more sad. But I am also looking forward to cleaning out all my baby stashes of stuff I hold onto "in case we have another". I can sell my maternity clothes and baby gear...etc, and finally recoup a little money back! Hooray!

 

[4under6]

Well, even though my dh said to me the other day..."Ya know, 5 would be ok!" I think this is it.
I really don't think I want to be pregnant ever again, as much as I enjoy it in general. I wouldn't mind 5 kids, it's the though of a fifth pregnancy that kills me! I don't think I have the energy.
Nope, I think dh will be going in for the big snip snip.

 

[3bees~1flower]

i'm half way through my 4th pregnancy. this will be our last. i wasn't so sure at first that i wanted this to be it, but after talking to dh and him saying he is ready to get on with it (meaning being done with pregnancy and all that goes with that) really helped me to feel at peace with this being our last. another reason this will be our last is that it will be my 4th c-section and my dr. doesn't feel comfortable doing more than that, so if we did want more we'd have to go to a hospital over an hr away and i just don't want to do that. i don't want a different dr. i'm really focusing on enjoying every stage of this pregnancy. and having had 21 weeks now to think about it being our last, i'm looking forward to being done with the baby stages once this little is older. but will still soak up the time to have a newborn one more time...i don't want him/her to hurry and grow up or anything, just that it'll be nice to go into the phase of parenting only older children....if that makes any sense...anyway, that is where we are at.

 

[bluehalo]

It's very likely that this will be our last baby. While DH and I are both too young to want to take any permanent action, I'm really feeling like our family will be complete with these two children

 

[cosmos]

Thanks for reminding me to savor this! I am about 16 weeks along with our 3rd and am still just feeling fat, haven't felt the baby move yet and getting into my old pg habits of eating lots of chocolate (as if that helps the fat feeling

) But now that you mention it, I should start feeling pg for real pretty soon

I am feeling a little overwhelmed with a 2 and a 4 yr old and I hope I can remember how to see those little milestones for each through all the chaos

 

[OakEmber]

What a great idea for a thread, Traci.

I too am one of the "pretty sures", but like Bluehalo said, am still young and the thought of permanent fixing seems harsh to me. I'm 26 and Dh is 28...now you have me curious Christine how old are you guys?

I always waivered between wanting 2 or 3, but now that I have been tainted by m/c I really don't want to be pregnant a 4th time. I am not enjoying this pregnancy as much as my first, and am finding it more difficult on my body as well not that it's too bad but I can only imagine how it'd be the next time!

 

[Mamma2Addison]

This is likely to be our last pregnancy, as well. I wavered a bit with the idea of having more children, but I think two is a good number for us. DH and I are both only children so this seems like a big family to us, LOL. We've discussed dh getting "the snip" at a later date, but I suppose there is always room for discussion between now and then.

I haven't had too many wistful moments, partly because this pregnancy has been a lot harder on my physically than the first. Right now, I just want my little girl here with us.

 

[3boobykins]

This is, as far as I know, my third and final pregnancy. I'm 33, dh is 35. I feel very at peace about this being our last baby. We had agreed to two, but I knew days after dd was born that I wanted one more, and it just felt like there would BE one more. DH knew I wanted another baby, but we never really discussed it--he was still undecided. Then I got pregnant unexpectedly when dd was 10.5 months old. DH was freaked out for about a day and then joined me in being happy and excited. I'm definitely savoring and enjoying this pg--loving the belly and feeling the baby move. I also definitely feel like this is the last time I want to be pregnant. My m/s wasn't bad at all this time, but now I have really bad heartburn, and taking care of a rambunctious 4 year old and very active young toddler has been pretty exhausting. I'm so looking forward to another beautiful home waterbirth, and having a newborn again, but after they're all out of babyhood I also look forward to enjoying their childhood years.

 

[mama2annabelle]

This sadly may be my last pregnancy if DH has his way. He says he just can't handle another one. You'd think I'd feel the same way since I'm the one going through it, but I'd really like to have more. But my body doesn't deal well with being pregnant. With DD I was miserable with m/s most of the pregnancy and had severe sciatica. With this current pregnancy I've been dealing with preterm labor since 23 weeks pg. I've been on bedrest for 4 weeks now and probably will be for the duration. I'm praying to reach at least 37 weeks (10 weeks from now) so I can have the homebirth I've planned; hopefully longer since the longer baby stays in the better off he will be.
We have always talked about adopting since before we were married. So I know I will definitely have more children even if this is my last pregnancy. But I just don't know if I'm ready to close the door on future pregnancies yet.

 

[3bees~1flower]

on the age question.....i will have have had 4 babies before i'm 30!!

allbeit, only by 10 days or so, but hey, it's still before i'm 30!! my "due date" is Oct. 24th, but i will deliver in the week before that, don't know what day yet (scheduled c-section #4), and my 30th b-day is on the 26th. dh turned 39 in april.

 

[calla lily]

This is also my last pregnancy. This will be our 2nd child. Ds is almost 2. I knew right away after he was born that I wanted another but dh said he was done with 1. This was a surprise pregnancy and dh has been really happy about it. He can't wait to have a daughter now. I'm trying to enjoy this pg as much as I can but it's hard to sit and relax and enjoy it with a very active toddler running around. Now that I'm down to the last 2-3 weeks, I don't want it to end yet. I'm not done with this pregnancy (but ask me that in another week). This pg has been pretty easy. Although she has been transverse for several weeks now so I'm trying to get her to turn so my vbac can happen. I would really love to vbac since this will be my last chance. And I can't wait to use the tiny little newborn diapers again. They are all washed and waiting. But reading this has made me more emotional now. I'm going to miss being pg.

 

[Kerlowyn]

This will be my last baby. Three children is enough for me and DH. Plus, being 41, I will be so ready to 'get my body back' when this baby is done nursing. I have no regrets. I love being pregnant, love nursing, love my babies, but for us, 3 is plenty.

 

[bluehalo]

Quote:

Originally Posted by EmbersMOM now you have me curious Christine how old are you guys?

Wow, we're pretty close in age! I'm 26 and DH will be 27 in a week.

 

[Solange]

Thanks you guys so much for sharing on this issue

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Keep the replies coming....

Yes Katje..very bittersweet it is.....

Calla lily good luck on your vbac

I am also hoping for the same this time around.....

Mamma2annabelle..I so hope you get to have your homebirth!

2girlsmommy I am thinking of doing a bellycast for this one too.....well said on the rest of your post...