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My dd2 will be two on Friday. Recently we've developed some problems with latch. She's holding onto my nipple by biting and frequently pulling away while still latched on. I'm starting to think about weaning, to be honest, because it really kinda hurts. I've tried talking to her about good latch, but it isn't really helping. She also has decided to only nurse from one breast. Any advice? Do lactation consultants work with toddlers?
 

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i still have to correct ds on this - it seems to happen when he is teething (and those 2 yr molars take forever to come through fully).<br><br>
i tell him to open wide, then i make sure he gets a big mouthful with the fish face. i also smoosh his nose into my breast, although this round of teething and correction, he was smooshing his own face in <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
i also show him the bite marks and tell him that his teeth hurt me - that he needs to be gentle with his teeth when he's nursing.<br><br>
it took me about a week of consistent correction the first time i figured out that i needed to correct his latch (and that was when he was closer to 2). in the 5 months since that time, i've only noticed it happening every month or so and it gets easier to correct each time.
 

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I found I had to crack down on this with both kids in order to make it stop. I don't tolerate biting from a nursing toddler at all. I showed them the right way to get on and warned them that if they bit that would be the end of that session. With each kid it only took once or twice being removed from the breast to get the picture.
 

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let me clarify my own comment further. my ds doesn't bite or chomp. he just grips with his teeth hard enough to leave a mark but not hard enough to inflict discomfort in any one nursing session. it is only over the course of several nursing sessions with such gripping that it begins to hurt.
 

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Ohhhh.... then I wonder is he maybe cutting two year molars?
 

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Had lots of similiar probs with my dd who is now 22 months. For her, she grips with her teeth when they are sore, doesn't bite, but grips.<br><br>
I have tried repeatedly explaining and showing her the teeth marks, but she doesn't really get what she is doing. LC's have been no help. Most of them work primarily with infants. I spoke to one in my area and she consulted others she knew and none had dealt with this problem. She has been an LC for 20+ yrs too!<br><br>
So what does help?? Well, LLL actually has more experience with toddlers than most LC's. One of the lady's there suggested putting dental wax on dd's teeth to help pad the gripping. Nice idea, but <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> dd would never stand for that I am sure!<br><br>
So we have had to cut way down on nursing. Gone from tons of times per day to about 2-4 times per day. And sessions have gotten much shorter. Basically if she is not gentle, then she knows we will "try again later". We have the gospel acc to the helping lady (LC) which my dd calls helpy yady. Helpy Yady says "open wide, be gentee, try again later" the last one always said with a cheery nonchalant smile.<br><br>
I have struggled with feeling really guilty about cutting down so much and have even considered weaning. But to me the important thing is that she is still getting my milk - even if it's not so much.<br><br>
Lately things have been getting better. She is being more gentle - maybe the teething isn't bothering so much and also I did find one little trick that has helped a bit. It is based on a nurisng exercise we had to do with dd in early infancy to teach her how to suck and latch on properly. I suck on her finger and show her how one time I am holding her with my lips and another with my teeth when I will put my teeth rubbing on her finger enough to be uncomfortable but not enough to really hurt her. (no worries - she thinks it's fun!) Then she tries it with my finger. Now sometimes I can tell her to hold me with her lips and not her teeth and she will loosen the grip. Other times it's "ok, all done - try again later..."<br><br>
As for the nursing only on one side and pulling while latched on. I personally would never stand for that and didn't when dd tried the pull off while latched at less than 1 year. I put her down and said "ow - that hurts mommy - all done!" I would just tell her she can't nurse unless she does it on the side you choose - of course not in those words, just more like "OH, we did that one last time. It's this one's turn. Oh, you don't want it. Ok (pull shirt down etc) Well, you tell me when you are ready." Unless of course you don't mind being lopsided.<br><br>
HTH!
 

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I know EXACTLY what you are talking about.<br>
Dd wil be 2 in about 3 weeks.<br><br>
When she pulls off there are indentions on the top. It can become painful.<br><br>
It is not every time. I wonder if it is 2 yo molars?
 
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