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I have two children and they are 2 and 3.5. We are trying to potty train the 3.5 year old. Are there any parents out there that have a children that is btw. 3-5 that they are potty training or they have potty trained a children btw. 3-5???<br><br>
While running errands how you deal with accidents???<br><br>
How did you know your children had an accident???<br><br>
Did they wear diapers/pull-ups??<br><br>
What were they doing when they had the accident???<br><br>
What did you say to them???<br><br>
What mistakes did you make in potty training???<br><br>
Thanks in advance...
 

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We didn't do potty training at that age - actually, the opposite (we EC'ed from 10 months). But I do have a few suggestions for you based on our experience.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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First, prevention. Always use the potty before leaving the house, any time you come to a restroom and it has been a while since the last pottytunity, before getting back into the car, any time mommy has to pee, etc.<br><br>
You can protect your child's car seat from accidents pretty easily with a waterproof/absorbent "piddle pad" like this: <a href="http://www.pottytrainingconcepts.com/Potty-Training-Aid-PP-z.html" target="_blank">http://www.pottytrainingconcepts.com...-Aid-PP-z.html</a><br><br>
Otherwise, I found that it wasn't really a problem if my son had an accident while we were out. He sometimes wet his pants, but even though he was in underwear, the pee never hit the floor, so I never had to clean up a big puddle or anything (although to be safe, you could carry a little towel and some wipes and plastic bags). I would just take him to the car or the nearest restroom, change his pants, and off we would go. A poop accident would obviously be a bit more of a production, but I guess you would just treat it like a diaper change. Obviously, you will need to carry changes of clothing, wipes, etc. with you for a while, but that's nothing new.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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The wet pants were a dead giveaway. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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Once my son had a decent grip on the whole potty thing (around age 16 months or so), we ditched the diapers (although he continued to wear cloth diapers when he was with his nanny until she was more comfortable, when he was about 19 months old). There was still some risk, so I had to stay on my toes, but pottying was so much easier with him in underwear rather than a diaper. And I also felt like it sent the wrong message to him to keep him in a diaper - like it was okay for him to just pee without telling me.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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I found that most of our accidents occurred in the car, since it took a while for him to understand that when we were driving, he needed to give me more warning. But he started getting more reliable about it, and I started getting better about making sure he peed before we got in the car. Also, when he told me he needed to pee while we were driving, I would say "Don't go pee-pee in your seat!" and then chant "Hold it, hold it, hold it" until I was able to pull over and help him pee. He thought this was great fun and would join in the chant, sometimes adding "no pee-pee seat" here and there. For whatever reason, once we started doing this, he usually held it until I got him out of the car. I think it helped just for him to know that I had heard him and was doing my best to pull over so that he could go - so he didn't just give up and pee.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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My EC mantra goes something like this: "Oh, you went pee-pee in your pants. Pee-pee goes in the potty, honey. Now we need to get you changed into dry pants. Next time, tell me before you go pee-pee, and I'll help you get to the potty so you can keep your pants dry."<br><br>
It's nice to have something "prepared" to say, to help keep in check the inevitable feeling of "Oh man, not another accident! Why can't this kid just use the potty already!?" Because I really think that a positive attitude and good communication, without any blaming or shaming, is a huge part of teaching a child any new skill.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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In retrospect, the only thing I would do differently is start EC from birth <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: But since I didn't know about it until DS was 10 months old, I'm trying to cut myself some slack on that one . . .
 

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FWIW, 3.5 really isn't late. Lots of kids are 3.5 or 4 before they really catch on, and then you can still expect accidents for awhile afterwards. I don't have a 3-5 year old, so my advice may not really apply, I'm not sure. I've found, they best way to keep DS's confidence up is to just get him using the potty at home and keep the pressure off when we go out. I figure, once he's got the hang of it at home, he'll eventually get the hang of it out and about, but all at once is too much to ask. I put him in training pants or a pull-up when we go out and about 50% of the time, he uses it, very occasionally, he'll use the bathroom while we're out, and otherwise, he just holds it until we get home.<br><br>
I do NOT put him in pull-ups at home because he does just treat them like a diaper. He's excited about using the potty, but he's also smart and knows he can pee in a pull-up with no consequences (natural consequences, not parental consequences).<br><br>
When DS has an accident, either on the floor or in a pull-up, I just say "uh-oh, your pants/the floor is wet, lets change them/clean this up". I make him part of the process. He takes his underwear off and puts it in the laundry and grabs a new pair, or he grabs a prefold and throws it over the puddle and stomps on it.<br><br>
He mostly has accidents out and about (which I know are going to happen and don't try to stop them), when he's very distracted (like if we're leaving to go somewhere and he's excited, he'll refuse to use the potty and then pee on the floor), or if he's been drinking a LOT of fluids, I think it just sneaks up on him and he's not expecting having to go so often.<br><br>
I think so far, the biggest mistake I've made is to think that because he did really well at first, that he was completely potty-trained, when really it's a two steps forward, one step back process. He regressed for 2 days and I was disappointed. I'm not sure if he noticed or not. But after his little break from the potty, he went right back into it with few accidents.<br><br>
We also do a sticker chart. After using the potty, he gets to pick a sticker to put on the chart. We don't give prizes for a certain number of stickers or anything because I don't think he'd understand that concept, it's just a fun little ritual we do so he can enjoy his accomplishment a little longer.<br><br>
He is proud of himself, and I've learned that you just can't focus on accidents. He's already upset when he has them, I can tell. He's upset with himself, he doesn't need other people upset with him too, ya know?<br><br>
So basically, focus on accomplishments, but don't get over-excited because then they might feel pressured. And don't ignore accidents, but don't over-react to them either. HTH!
 
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