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Okay, help me weigh my options here. I'll try to be brief.
I got a lawyer that was referred by a good family friend. He almost thinks like my stbx, which I feel is good. His partner, however, seems to be the one handling my case (for the most part, although not on paper).
We had our preliminary proceeding and ended up keeping the stay away (protection order), and then the judge gave him three full days a week! Mo 4pm to Tu 4pm, then We 4pm to Th 4pm and Fr 4pm to Sa 4pm. I already posted about this.
The partner is much older, and thinks my stbx is a 'little peculiar' and just has a 'gun fetish' but thinks that he'll come around and be reasonable. I can't stress how much this is invalidating my feelings about this. He didn't give any examples about why stbx shouldn't have the kids, he just said that 'she'd rather he not take the baby' 'the baby's breastfeeding' and 'couldn't we wait until the law guardian is involved'. I thought he was not firm.
Anyway, I've told them this week that I want the lawyer I hired to handle things, not his partner. Then I get a call today that the partner was trying to set up a conference, and then he told stbx's lawyer the visitation that I want him to agree to. WTF? Why would he lay it all out there? What's the point of setting up a meeting?
I left both of them messages that I am aggravated by this move, it makes no sense to me, please get back to me asap to explain/clarify.
What would you do next. I think about changing lawyers, and I will look into that, but in the meantime. What to do/say/explain. It just isn't clicking for them (without a big black eye, which is why I left--in order to avoid it escalating to that).
I am an intelligent professional woman who is a great mom and I think this guy (the partner) thinks I am a whiny woman (roll eyes) and what I say sounds just like every other bitter woman who's come through his office. Ugh.
I got a lawyer that was referred by a good family friend. He almost thinks like my stbx, which I feel is good. His partner, however, seems to be the one handling my case (for the most part, although not on paper).
We had our preliminary proceeding and ended up keeping the stay away (protection order), and then the judge gave him three full days a week! Mo 4pm to Tu 4pm, then We 4pm to Th 4pm and Fr 4pm to Sa 4pm. I already posted about this.
The partner is much older, and thinks my stbx is a 'little peculiar' and just has a 'gun fetish' but thinks that he'll come around and be reasonable. I can't stress how much this is invalidating my feelings about this. He didn't give any examples about why stbx shouldn't have the kids, he just said that 'she'd rather he not take the baby' 'the baby's breastfeeding' and 'couldn't we wait until the law guardian is involved'. I thought he was not firm.
Anyway, I've told them this week that I want the lawyer I hired to handle things, not his partner. Then I get a call today that the partner was trying to set up a conference, and then he told stbx's lawyer the visitation that I want him to agree to. WTF? Why would he lay it all out there? What's the point of setting up a meeting?
I left both of them messages that I am aggravated by this move, it makes no sense to me, please get back to me asap to explain/clarify.
What would you do next. I think about changing lawyers, and I will look into that, but in the meantime. What to do/say/explain. It just isn't clicking for them (without a big black eye, which is why I left--in order to avoid it escalating to that).
I am an intelligent professional woman who is a great mom and I think this guy (the partner) thinks I am a whiny woman (roll eyes) and what I say sounds just like every other bitter woman who's come through his office. Ugh.
