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do you ever feel totally lazy or tired? I mean there is plenty that needs to be done around the house, my kid is currently sleeping so I could do some of it, but I just feel so worn out that I have absolutely no desire to do any of it. I wouldn't mind getting out of the house either, but just can't get up the energy to do it. Once I get started though I'm fine. Anyone else this way sometimes? Am I just lazy (cause I sure as heck feel that's what I am)? I just need a really large pry bar to lever my butt off the floor to do it.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I feel this way about 98% of the time.</div>
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so why do we feel this way? just burn out? I'm glad my husband understands, cause sometimes he comes home to a disaster and I can see his thought process: "holy crap what does she do all day?... oaky well I couldn't deal with staying home all the time... I'm not there a lot... she doesn't get many breaks... I can see it getting this way... It's okay." he never says anything about it till he's going through all the thoughts (only takes a minute or two) but still I feel bad.
 

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last night my dd spent the evening and night with her dad. instead of picking up and cleaning house i read my book and went to bed early to get a full 8 hours sleep.
 

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Me - I've definitely got a lazy streak.<br><br>
But, in my defense... I'm also a single parent to an almost three year old, a full time BSN nursing student, and I tutor elementary children for extra $$$.<br><br>
Oh - and I just started taking Zoloft. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nut.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nut"><br><br>
Yeah, I feel burnout coming on...
 

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I feel better just talking about it (but obviously not enough to get off the computer <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> )
 

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Don't worry the mess won't go anywhere. It'll still be there tomorrow morning when you get up.<br><br><br><br>
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I thought it was just me. I do like my house clean and things organized, but sometimes when I look at the dishes I just think...well, the dishes will be there tomorrow whether I do them now or then, so I'll just nap when they do and do the dishes tomorrow. There is something that just really bothers me about housework. You do it one day, then go to bed, and the same stuff has to be done tomorrow!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: I just wish the house would occasionally saty clean for a day or two in a row without me having to clean it!<br>
To me it is so unsatisfying. But if I bake or crochet, I have solid evidence of my work. Of course when I want to bake or crochet, I have to do the dishes ot vaccuum so everything isn'd covered in fur or to have room to cook. Ahhhh, it is such a catch 22!
 

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I feel that way most of the time.<br>
I have a 1yo who nurses 2+ times a night<br>
A 3 yo who needs me to help her find the potty in the middle of the night<br>
And a 5 yo<br>
I also get up at 4 AM to get dh off to work.<br><br>
I get up way to many times of night to get a good rest so during the day I am just plain wiped out <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
Our house looks awful<br>
and I really need to cook some food up for us so snack on.
 

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dh and I have "discussions" about this quite often. He'll come home to a total disaster and be mad - what he doesn't see is how clean it was in the morning when I got up and picked everything up, vacuumed, etc. but by the end of the days the girls have trashed the place and I just don't have it in me to keep up with them anymore. Some days I just feel like "what's the point?" Ya, there are a million things I can do around here but I NEVER have any sort of break, no down time whatsoever so I don't have the desire (for lack of a better word) to get up and clean anything. As someone else mentioned, the mess will still be there tomorrow....
 

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3littlemonkeys- I had that problem... just not with three kids, one's still a mess. What I started doing is cleaning the hour before dh is supposed to get home. I did that tonight actually. So that way I still only clean up once a day, but dh thinks it's clean more often. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> plus when he comes home to a clean house and sees how fast dd can trash it, he doesn't mind so much if it's messy when he gets home.
 

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"Ever"? Try "DAILY"!
 

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right now I am hoping something or someone will motivate me to go do all that I could be doing, can you tell I'm a bit of a procrastinator and I love all the company here <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I can't believe how long I"ve been feeling this way. I use the expression, "that I just can't seem to get in front of myself."<br><br>
I used to be so much more organized and motivated. I just feel that I want to spend my time during the day with the baby - especially with the good weather. Maybe in the dog days of winter when we are trapped in the house I'll get movtivated to clean and organize our lives.<br><br>
One weekend early in the fall my mom came and she was a good motivater and really helped me clean out stuff. I brought bags and bags of clothes, toys, etc. to the local shelter. I guess I just need her here to push me along.
 

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Okay, what are you, a machine?!<br><br>
You think you can birth children, nurse them, get up every few hours for years, never once, even for a minute, completely let down your guard, feed, wash, dress, doctor, teach, love, etc, one or more little people and still keep the house clean, have a good relationship with dh, your other relatives, <i>his</i> relatives, the neighbors <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> and manage the finances, groceries, laundry vaccuuming, appointments, etc, etc, etc.?????<br><br>
Of course you're tired. Forget the dishes. There will be new dishes every day for the rest of your life. Do one thing that will stay better for a few days, like sweep the porch or clean out a corner filled with toys. Take that nap. Be good to yourself, you deserve it!<br><br>
If your kids are older, are sleeping through the night, you are getting 8 or 9 hours of solid sleep and are eating well, and still feel this way, you need to look at a few things.<br><br>
Are you anemic? Lack of iron will make you tired and will slow brain function. It takes MONTHS to bring up the amount in your blood, so stick with it. A multiviatmin might be a good idea too.<br><br>
Does this happen at certain times of the year? As the seasons change? Some neurological problems show up this way. Nothing to worry about, sometimes a simple quirk inthe way we deal with teh change intemps not to mention turning back teh clocks.<br><br>
Drink more water. Being esp well hydrated will help too.<br><br>
Now, take that nap, guilt free.
 

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plus when he comes home to a clean house and sees how fast dd can trash it, he doesn't mind so much if it's messy when he gets home.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">:<br>
It took a while to learn that one- but it does work.<br><br>
It gives him a good reality check and he is just as guilty as you for not keeping after the little ones for making a mess.
 

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Yeah, all of the above. If it weren't for the darn FOR SALE sign in my front yard I'd never do anything. Living by myself with 2 small kids is exhausting. Throw in hypothyroidism and we've got a sleepover. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bouncy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bouncy">
 
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