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When did you learn about the evils of circumcision? Was there any one thing that really made you say "no way in the world will I ever let that happen?"<br><br>
When i was pg last year, i even commented saying that i dont have a penis so its not my decision. But, someone on my mainstream board made me rethink it. I started researching but my dh said he wanted to circ our son. I stopped researching and was going to let dh decide BUT, then i read that the baby boys are literally strapped down so that someone can cut off part of their manhood. That was it for me. I told dh that there was NO WAY i'd ever allow my ds to be circumcised. I was so upset about it, dh said he wouldn't argue with me about it.<br><br>
I found this site months after ds was born cause i had some questions and i'm happy i found it. Now i can talk to others about it. My sister swears up and down that they dont strap babies down but someone here showed a pic. Glad my sister has 2 girls.<br><br>
So when did you learn? Have you always known that you wouldnt circ? Any one thing that really made up your mind for you?
 

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HI and Welcome,<br><br>
My first long term boyfriend was angry that he had been circumcised. That is when I became aware. Decades later I had my son and confronting our cultural practices as a mother has been an amazing process. There is so much I had been still unaware of even though I knew enough to say no to circumcision.<br><br>
Yes baby boys are strapped to "circumstaint boards" in hospital circumcisions.<br>
What I gather about non-hospital circumcisions (most? all?) is that the boy is firmly held.<br><br>
So glad that you learned enough to say no.
 

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My first son is circumcised and my second son is intact. When my first son was 2 months old I just 'knew' I had done something wrong. I had been on these boards for a few months and I had noticed this board, but never really paid it much mind. Then one day I was board and scrolling through the different boards and I started to cry, I just KNEW.<br><br>
Then I started venturing into this board and really learned what circ was. Once I realized what had been done to my son (with my consent) I vowed to never do that to another child. They boys are strapped down to a board, most of the time they aren't given any pain relief, and circ is extremly painful. Most babies pass out or go into a comotose like state during the circ because of the pain. It is very barbaric and completely unnecissary (geeze I can't spell).<br><br>
I am so glad you spared your son (and your self). Stick around and welcome!
 

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I always felt the same way about it that my mom did. The baby is born with it, so why cut it off? I never intended to circ. I became absolutely rigid about it as soon as I saw a picture of a "normal" circumsized infant penis in prenatal class. I took one look and told my ex that the only way that would happen to any son of mine was over my dead body. He didn't care, but didn't fight me on it. DH was the same way when we had ds2.
 

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Even as a young un I couldn't really comphrend the idea of circumcision even from sitcoms talking to my brother at the time at my mom big xmas staff party for all her workers i think i might have mentioned i would never end up doing that after I saw cheers but I think someone had told me previously that i had no option & it was supposed to be done -thank goodness my ex was not circ'ed because I had met him when i was 25 and never even researched on circumcision. I really didn't research on circumcision until a few months after my son was born- my ds is thankfully intact all because his father is intact . I'm glad I learned the truth of this evil it took me until I was 27 yrs old to become able to see this 'evil!
 

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When I first heard the word circumcision, I asked my mother what it was. I was probably about 8-10 years old. She told me it was when they cut the tip of the penis off. I was horrified. Why would anyone think to do that? If they were born with it, shouldn't they keep it?<br><br>
Then when I was pregnant for the first time, I read Sheila Kitzenger's book about pregnancy and birth. The way she described circumcision was so violent and horrific that I knew I could never do it to any child of mine. But even if I hadn't read that, I still wouldn't have done it. I remembered the conversation I had as a child and that was it for me.
 

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Dh and I watched a circ video when I was pregnant. We decided right then that no child of ours would ever go through something like that. And then we learned that none of the major health organizations recommend circ, and that the foreskin has actual protective and sexual purposes (it's not like the appendix or something). The more we learned, the more we realized we made the right choice <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I never knew to question circumcision until my big sister told me about how horrid it is. She would tell me about what they do to poor babies and have to stop talking because tears were rolling down her cheeks. Even then I had no idea what my thoughts were on it. It wasnt until I watched a video. It was that moment when I watched them mutilate a poor screaming newborn that I shouted across the room at my husband, "We are NEVER circumcising any child we ever have!" I was furious and disgusted. After that I started researching it more and found SO much information that confirmed my decision even more. Now I am trying to make it illegal in my state because I think it should become illegal everywhere-just like FGM. There are no benefits to genital mutilation and it is an evil procedure.
 

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The first time I thought about it was in 1992 at the age of 21 when working in a day care center and seeing my first intact child. I had a feeling for his mother that she must really LOVE her child to not have circ'd him. Another worker made a stupid comment that I cannot post here. I then went on to see more and more intact children in another daycare and always had the same thought about their parents (how caring<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/heartbeat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="heartbeat"> ).<br><br>
In the 1990's I heard from my mom about a news story of a baby having his penis amputated during circ and having to be made into a girl. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bawling.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bawl"> When I became pregnant I was determined to not have my child maimed due to some decision made by me. Mostly, I could not condone my child's beautiful skin being torn and cut off of his beautiful little body. No way<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/disappointed.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="disappointed"> . I had no idea about all the functions of the foreskin and the procedure until researching it. Then I became an intactivist <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/blahblah.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="blah blah"><br><br>
I must admit that being a woman who was abused as a child, I had some mixed up feelings about genitals in general. I did not want any extra attention to have to be paid to his genitals. Does that make sense? I did not want circ, certainly, but I also needed to make myself feel comfortable with intact care. I did not want a lot of people needing to fuss with Ivan's genitalia. I then quickly realized that no extra care was needed and that was a relief from a survivor's point of view.
 

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I started researching it when I was pregnant with my son.<br><br>
The most important factor in making my decision was educating myself about the foreskin itself. I couldn't believe how functional it is!
 

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When I was pregnant with my first and learned that there wasn't any strong sound reason to do it, it went against my gut and I didn't want to subject my child to it. My husband felt it should be done (he is circ'ed) so I told him to research and if he still thought it was necessary, to be there with the babe and insist on anesthetic, etc.<br><br>
Well, we had a girl (whew!), and I would LIKE to think we wouldn't have had her circ'ed if she was a male, but I don't know. I DO KNOW it would have been the biggest mistake of our lives.<br><br>
When she was a few months old, I found MDC (I've made a new user name since then) and followed a link to the actual procedure performing a circ. My husband and I watched it and cried, and decided right then we would never do that to any future sons.<br><br>
So, my now almost 4 yr old boy is intact and beautiful and we've never had any issues whatsoever with his absolutely perfect penis!
 

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I saw photographs of a circ on another parenting board while I was pg and that was it for me. I told dh I would divorce him and not put his name on the birth certificate before I would let my baby be circed.
 

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I never even researched it with my first child.......I had a girl, thank goodness.<br><br>
When she was 2 weeks old I saw the first intact penis I had ever seen on a baby in my breastfeeding support group. I asked the Mom why she did not circ and she acted like "why would I do that?" It made me think.<br><br>
When my 2nd nephew was born I went over to see him and all of a sudden he went from sleeping peacefully to screaming the worst screams I had ever heard come out of a baby. I followed my SIL into her bedroom where she started to change his soiled diaper. Seeing his bloody stump and hearing the screams come out of his mouth while she wiped urine and feces from his poor penis was enough.<br><br>
It took me all of 30 seconds of research when pregnant with my son to solidify my feelings on the subject.
 
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