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Hi,<br><br>
I am a first time mother of an 11week old baby boy(will be 3 calendar months old June 1st) who is the light of my world.<br><br>
His sleeping is ok.. I can deal with it. He goes to bed between 7.00pm and 8.30pm and will sleep for a max of 4-5hours and then get up btw 12.00am and 1.00am... back to bed and up about 3.00am/4.00am and there after it will be every one and half hours till 7.30am.... so as you can see that is kinda ok... though I am looking forward to him sleeping through the 3.00am feeding. When he gets up for the night feeds, he is usually still asleep and after I burp him he is back to sleep. We co-sleep after his first waking period.<br><br>
My issue is with his daytime naps. He just will not nap long!!. When he gets up in the morning, he will be awake till 8.30am-9.00am then go down for a 40min nap. That is his best time. At this time, I can actually put him in his crib.Thereafter he gets up and eats and wants to nap but every time he falls asleep and I try to put him down, he's up like a light. Throughout the day he has short naps as long as I am holding /wearing him. These will last up to 30mins. If I put him down he wakes up. So day naps are out of the question for me.<br><br>
I am beginning to think I am doing something wrong... any advice on how I can improve or help him nap better during the day. It would be lovely if he could do two, two hour naps.. one in the morning and one in the afternoon. Because of this I am bascially house bound when hubby is not around. I use the baby bjorn carrier on him, but my back is killing me and I am trying to cut down of how much I use it and he is getting heavier :)<br><br>
2. Nikh has moderate reflux so most times I have noticed he wakes up because of the need to spit up. My question to mothers who have dealt with moderate reflux... will his night sleep pattern get better in the third month or is that all a hoax.<br><br>
PS. I live in Europe and doctors here do not prescribe anything for reflux.
 

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You are not doing anything wrong, his night time and nap time patterns are completely normal. My ds is 9 1/2 months old and he is just in the past few days down to 2 naps a day, each about 1 1/2 hours. He has always been a cat-napper (frequent 30-45 min. naps)... I think nap patterns just evolve naturally (with encouragement of course), so don't push it, he is still very young.
 

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I would love to figure out how to convince a baby to nap... Mine is 10mos and her naps are sporadic and, if they happen at all outside my arms, short-lived. So whatever you are doing wrong, I guess I am too.
 

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I am beginning to think I am doing something wrong... any advice on how I can improve or help him nap better during the day. It would be lovely if he could do two, two hour naps.. one in the morning and one in the afternoon. Because of this I am bascially house bound when hubby is not around. I use the baby bjorn carrier on him, but my back is killing me and I am trying to cut down of how much I use it and he is getting heavier :)</div>
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You aren't doing anything wrong! Two two hour naps are not realistic for your son's age, and you will simply drive yourself nuts trying to achieve that too soon. Most babies do not consolidate sleep like that until about 6 months.<br><br>
At your son's age, what helped us was keeping a good eye on sleepy times and catching them as they came up. She did not do well awake longer than 2 hours at a time, which translates to about 3 naps a day. We got into a routine of nursing down in the family bed (and I'd slip away - you can get guardrails for beds once they start rolling), or if I had things to do, she would ride in the wrap or sling, and I'd go about my business. I suggest looking into other kinds of carriers besides the Bjorn. It's possible to be a lot more comfortable while still wearing the baby. You should check out the babywearing forum on this site for some advice on alternatives to the Bjorn. There were also times when she'd want to nurse during naps or not be alone, and I don't know how to force a child out of that, nor did I want to. Instead, we changed expectations of what would get done around the house, that kind of thing. Just go with the flow as much as possible, and don't let anyone tell you sleep or lack thereof has anything to do with parenting skills. All phases pass, no matter how annoying.<br><br>
As far as the reflux, that could definitely be causing discomfort. I have a hard time believing that no doctor on an entire continent will prescribe meds for it, but what I really get from that statement is that it's been hard for you to get it taken seriously, and you've probably already been told to wait it out by the doctor you see most often. If you really believe he's hurting though, please don't take no for an answer. Surely multiple opinions are possible? My understanding is that if reflux is severe enough, it can permanently damage the lining of the esophagus and cause lifelong problems. If you post which country you are in, maybe someone else who lives there would have more advice on getting other opinions. Good luck!
 

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Yep, unfortunately his sleeping sounds normal to me. I always wondered why my dd wouldn't nap well. Then, the more I read on here the more I realized nobody's baby was napping well. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Hang in there. You'll get used to it.
 

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Thanks for the responses. Truly appreciated and I am encouraged.<br><br>
Mommlita in response to your question:- I live in Denmark and the system here is very good. The only time the doc will prescribe meds to treat reflux is if the baby is losing weight. And one will only get to see a pediatrician if you are referred by your doctor. (Health care here is free). So first one would have to convince your GP (general practitioner) that your child is very ill then he would refer you to a ped. So if baby is not losing weight or crying (non-colic)... no luck with meds. Denmark does not even have any other branded gripe water but Mylicon.<br><br>
There are also community nurses who visit and monitor babies. First time moms get as many visits as they want until the baby is about 5 months. Their job is to monitor child development and help with any issues the mum is facing. Sometimes the community nurse will tell you to visit your doctor if she suspects something is wrong. On the issue of reflux and Nikh's in particular she basically said, since he is gaining weight and does not have serious crying issues there is nothing to be done, but wait it out.<br><br>
I am not very concerned about his spit up because he does not seem to be in pain. He is in some level of discomfort and we are working with that.
 

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This probably isn't what you want to hear, but mine didn't nap off of either DH or I for 10 months. Only recently (at 12 months) does she tolerate being rolled off onto a bed or cushion SOMETIMES. You're not doing anything wrong, it's just your LO's tempermant. It'll get easier, but even now I wish I had a 4.5 hour stretch of sleep!!! Next time you fall asleep during that chunk of time, think of all of the mamas on here that haven't slept that long in years!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
Enjoy your babymoon!
 
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