I have decided to adopt from Guatemala and have gotten conflicting advice on how to approach my queerness. One set of lesbian friends who adopted a couple years ago said they were out to their agency with no troubles. A gay adoption professional I approached told me that I would have to sign something saying I was not gay and that I should "minimize" my orientation. None of that would have been too much of a problem given that I have been single for awhile. But recently a mate/co-parent/soul-mate has come into the picture and I am unsure how to handle it. Do I proceed in a "don't ask don't tell" way with my agency, do I ask them upfront about their policy - I don't want to jeopardize my chances - the new sweetie doesn't live with me (yet) and the aforementioned adoption professional advised us not to move in together - but a year seems like a long time from now and a weird way to develop our family. Whew.