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My 2 year old has severe sleep problems. There is a chance she is bipolar (strong family history including myself and her 7 year old brother) and she does go through this in phases. Right now she is in what I would call a manic phase. One of the nice things <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> about these phases is she starts to need only little amounts of sleep. Last night she was up until 11:00pm. I let her stay up last night but then I don't get a break at all. Tonight she is doing the same thing. It is 8:33pm, she normally goes to bed at 7:15pm. She is completely wired. And I have left her to cry. I know all the myriad of reasons its wrong but I am reasonably sure me beating her would be worse and that is how I was feeling when I left her room. She is screaming and I am sitting her about ready to lose it. So what do I do? Let her stay up all night, every night? I am a university student, I have an assignment due tonight that isn't done yet. She is driving me to the edge.
 

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Is it tantrum-like screaming? I think you have done the best thing for both of you - right now. Anytime we feel like our children push us to the edge is the time we need to back away. I'm sorry I dont have much more than a <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> for you.<br><br>
It appears like you have a full house. Is the atmosphere with everyone calm but her?<br><br>
You are doing your best - even if it doesn't feel like it, it sounds like you are erring on the side of safety and sanity.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 

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I let my 2 yo stay up when she is too wired to sleep. Crying pushes me over the edge and neither of us need that. Can she play quietly when she is like thiss or is she a huge ball of energy? Does she take a nap? I've nixed that so I don't have to have my girl up so late.
 

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Im sorry things are stressful right now. Sleep is such a big deal, its amazing how lack of it can affect us.<br><br>
Have you tried melatonin? As a pp asked, will she play independently? If you could put her in a safe room with toys or some media (tv, music) perhaps she could entertain herself without you pulling out your hair?
 

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Hey mama,<br><br>
Your post title makes it sound like there are only two options - but there are many more - you just haven't figured them all out yet. You will! You will find out what is right for you and your family and some days it will work well and other days it might not but you will know that you are on the path.<br><br>
I know you will get your assignment done, eventually your daughter will sleep and you will both smile before the night is over.<br><br>
Would she perhaps like to do some dry mopping around the house? That way, you could see her "sleep problems" as "household solutions." (just hoping that gives you a little smile <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> as it is meant to.)<br><br>
best wishes!
 

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I'm sorry; I know the feeling: "go to BED already!"<br><br>
My two year old is a total night owl and doesn't seem to need too much sleep. Sometime maybe 6 months ago it became impossible for her to sleep before 10pm, and she is often up until 11 and later. It's not really anything I do or don't do, either (plenty of people will tell you all the things you're doing wrong, know what I mean?) She does it all on her own.<br><br>
I can't support CIO, so I let her stay up. I also desparately need my evening time, and what I try to do is have it anyway while she is up playing quietly. She knows that she doesn't have to sleep, but that Mama has things to do. We keep the house quiet and lights low and just try to hang until she is sleepy enough.<br><br>
It's frustrating some nights, but honestly not nearly as frustrating as the battling and crying. Once I shifted my thinking and didn't expect her to go down, and didn't save things to do until she went down my stress level dropped and things smoothed out.<br><br>
Hang in there.
 

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My 14 month old often stays up until midnight.<br><br>
If we miss the first window at 7-9pm - then we have no choice. The 'right' time changes and if we actually let her go to sleep at 7 - then it's just a nap.<br><br>
I guess the only time that CIO is ok is if you might hurt the child otherwise.<br><br>
But personally I don't think that there is anything wrong with a kid staying up - as long as they are pretty happy. Can you put on a movie and then work on your assignment?
 
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