[2boyzmama]

This week is going to be rather boring for me. Work is at a literal stand still, the weather is gloomy, Easter is over...

A few things going on this week...had an OB appt this morning, my younger son sees a new gastroenterologist tomorrow (I'm anxious about that appt, we've "fired" two previous gastros because they were way too medical...wanted him tube fed instead of helping me work to determine the root of his issues. We have an overarching diagnosis now, and I've found a new gastro, so it's worth giving her a try), and both boys have a dental appt on Friday. Oh, and LLL meeting tomorrow night, if I can make it! Haven't been in a few months, we've been sick all winter it seems!

No baby movements yet today. Little bugger. Gets me all excited with those first movements, then lays quiet for a few days

My first did this, too, but I don't remember it happening with my second. I think once I started feeling him move, he didn't stop!

I'm still on a major fruit kick...apples, melon, strawberries, grapes...can't wait for raspberries to come into season!!

What's going on with all you gals??

 

[ilovejeff]

Good idea - I keep seeing the weekly chat threads in the other DDC's and think that we should have one, too...but I never think about it on Monday, which seems the logical day to start one.

Good luck with the GI doc for your son. It's hard to find a good one. I've seen a couple and they never seem to have answers. I kind of feel like they want to put everyone in the same box, you know? I hope the new one you're seeing is one of the good ones!

My baby's been still, too. I'd be worried, but I think it was almost a fluke that I felt something so early, anyway. Plus, we heart the hb last week, it was nice and strong.

Just trying to kill time waiting for my next u/s appt so that we can find out what we're having - 3 weeks from today!

 

[octobermoon]

YAY a chat!

2boyzmama i hope the new doctor works out for you. it is an encouragement to me that you are so proactive when it comes to finding the care you want for you LO.

AFM...i am sooo tired today, maybe it's the weather (rainy) and/or maybe b/c i only had a half cup of green tea this a.m. for Easter i ate way too much food. we had three parties we went to and believe me when i say i really over did it! it was good though.

had an acupuncture appointment today, she has pretty much taken care of my sciatica, i am thrilled! i hope it stays away for the rest of my pregnancy. acupuncture and TCM is really amazing IMO, i wish i would have found it years ago. i hope to start that yoga class soon.

i got my hynpobabies and have been listening to pregnancy affirmations everyday. it's nice to hear lots of positive words about my pregnancy and birthing. i am looking forward to this program and using it during the birth. i also got a book regarding postpartum care called After the Baby's Birth and i am enjoying that also. been thinking about what all i need to do to prepare for this time as well.

the baby moves everyday, it's really sweet. usually in the mornings when i am having tea, and then in the evenings when i am reading in bed.

:yawning: i need a nap before i make dinner. we are having Indian lamb curry with brown rice. yumm..

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[Julia24]

Good idea!

You know, Samantha~ I have a good friend from my first dd's board who's daughter had CAS...You'd absolutely NEVER know it now, though. She used EXTENSIVE signing with her, and she had lots of ot and pt and she speaks perfectly now (at 7 and 1st grade). Just so you know, you'll get him through this! Her OT recommended lots of peanut butter, licorice, anything chewy and gummy that made her excercise her mouth muscles.

octobermoon - how exciting that the accupunture worked! I'm still waiting for the sciatica to kick in with this one, but so far, so good!

I'm just killing time until next monday - I want to hear all good things from my DR!!!!! I also have to clean this house tomorrow and the next day - I have a potential client coming over to interview on wed night and ugh! This place is a wreck! Plus Maddie started soccer back up last week, and so she has practice 2x a week and a game on saturday! It's going to be very busy for the next 5 weeks....dh is coaching softball which basically puts him out of parenting comissions m-f entirely. hmph. Oh well...such is the life of a coach's wife LOL.

 

[dosergirl]

October- what are pregnancy affirmations like?

Seems like all the babies are taking it easy this week, i haven't felt anything in a few days either. i think we should feel a little lucky since before we know it they will be standing on our bladders

i was able to weigh myself at someones house this weekend and have learned that i have gained not one pound. of course this is not my doctors scale but the weight was right on the mark for what my weight was 5 weeks ago. sigh. oh well.

my 18 week ultra sound is on wend! i am so excited and extrememly nervous that something will be wrong (like in first tri when i was always worried about miscarrying)
next prenatal appointment is friday so hopefully i can get some affirmations that i am doing ok.

can you all believe we are so far along!?

also craving lots of fruits and veggies, which doesn't help with putting on pounds.

also i have had a pain in my side almost all day! i don't know what it is...side towards the back on the left on my ribs and it feels a little better when i push really hard on it. with my thumb.

i can't wait for monday to be over

 

[2boyzmama]

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Originally Posted by ilovejeff Good luck with the GI doc for your son. It's hard to find a good one. I've seen a couple and they never seem to have answers. I kind of feel like they want to put everyone in the same box, you know? I hope the new one you're seeing is one of the good ones!

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Originally Posted by octobermoon YAY a chat! 2boyzmama i hope the new doctor works out for you. it is an encouragement to me that you are so proactive when it comes to finding the care you want for you LO.

Thanks guys. Gastro has been difficult for us...he was failure to thrive with *severe* reflux as a newborn/infant, and the drs just wanted to medicate and wait. I'm not against medicating, obviously something had to be done quickly, but I wanted to look for the underlying *cause* (silly me!), like food allergies (hmm...turned out he's got a dairy and soy protein sensitivity). Then we discovered he was aspirating badly and had severe dysphagia, which led them to recommend a g-tube, which again I'm not against, but I wanted to determine if there was a safe way to keep him on oral feeds. They thought I was nuts. I got a really good pulmonologist, did lung function tests, and he's been on oral feeds ever since. I also weaned him off his relux meds shortly after cutting dairy and soy from my diet. Go figure.

But, even with all that, he's only 21 pounds at 2 years old. He's TINY! Small stature is common in his syndrome, but he's among the smallest. So we have to figure out what's going on. Maybe another allergy? Maybe malabsorption? (can you believe he was never tested for that?) Maybe something metabolic? Hopefully this new dr will actually listen to me and agree to do more testing. We'll see.

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Originally Posted by Julia24 You know, Samantha~ I have a good friend from my first dd's board who's daughter had CAS...You'd absolutely NEVER know it now, though. She used EXTENSIVE signing with her, and she had lots of ot and pt and she speaks perfectly now (at 7 and 1st grade). Just so you know, you'll get him through this! Her OT recommended lots of peanut butter, licorice, anything chewy and gummy that made her excercise her mouth muscles.

Yes, his STs and OTs have recommended that as well, but we have to be careful because he has dysphagia with aspiration also. He "loses" food in his mouth and chokes a lot. We also do a lot of sour and spicey foods to get him more aware of his mouth. He had lip repair surgery at 11 months old, but still has very little movement of his upper lip, plus his tongue doesn't quite move right, plus his hard palate is malformed and his soft palate is somewhat static. So poor guy has all that to contend with, too!! Add to it a neurological block of some kind, and he's got a big mountain to climb for speech development! But he's responding really well to ASL (has about 90 signs!) and we're research Assistive Communication Devices for him as he approaches school age (he starts preschool in a year!).

It's good to hear of success stories, though!!

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Originally Posted by dosergirl i was able to weigh myself at someones house this weekend and have learned that i have gained not one pound. of course this is not my doctors scale but the weight was right on the mark for what my weight was 5 weeks ago. sigh. oh well. also craving lots of fruits and veggies, which doesn't help with putting on pounds. also i have had a pain in my side almost all day! i don't know what it is...side towards the back on the left on my ribs and it feels a little better when i push really hard on it. with my thumb. i can't wait for monday to be over

First of all, don't worry about your weight gain. Take your vitamins to make sure you're getting your nutrients, and trust that the baby is getting his/hers.

I wasn't into the positives with my first pregnancy until sometime between 16-20 weeks thanks to morning sickness

And keep eating the fruits and veggies! Just maybe consider adding some calorie and nutrient dense foods to them...peanut butter, cheese, yogurt, etc.

Weird about your side pain. I had some side pain, a little different than what you're describing though, during my first pregnancy. My dr tested me for a UTI (thinking I was developing a kidney infection perhaps) but it was negative, so she said maybe the baby was kicking my kidney! No idea what it really was, but I do remember it annoying me. Hang in there!!

 

[dosergirl]

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First of all, don't worry about your weight gain. Take your vitamins to make sure you're getting your nutrients, and trust that the baby is getting his/hers. I wasn't into the positives with my first pregnancy until sometime between 16-20 weeks thanks to morning sickness And keep eating the fruits and veggies! Just maybe consider adding some calorie and nutrient dense foods to them...peanut butter, cheese, yogurt, etc. Weird about your side pain. I had some side pain, a little different than what you're describing though, during my first pregnancy. My dr tested me for a UTI (thinking I was developing a kidney infection perhaps) but it was negative, so she said maybe the baby was kicking my kidney! No idea what it really was, but I do remember it annoying me. Hang in there!!

thanks! i had added more yogurt, dairy (i all of a sudden really love milk) and peanut butter (now that my DP has deemed it safe again) so hopefully at some point i will gain, haha. I never lost anything, i have had an uneventful pregnancy, thankfully.

 

[jimblejamble]

I felt movement yesterday and then got lectured/yelled at by my father-in-law and his fiancee because I haven't been to a doctor yet for any prenatal care. My insurance is a freaking JOKE. One person tells me one thing, another says something else, another says that what the two other people told me only apply in this or that situation, then I go to a website and they say something TOTALLY different. Really, Scott and Linda, I promise you I'm not slacking off, I'm being told something new every time I try and get the prenatal care I need, and no I don't need to be yelled at when I'm overly emotional due to pregnancy and my husband being deployed. I'm not an idiot, please don't treat me like one!!!

Anyway...

 

[ilovejeff]

octobermoon, I've been enjoying the affirmations, too. I feel like they really put me in a more positive frame of mind. I'm normally a worrier, but I feel like I've been less worried (or not as worried as I would usually be?) since I started listening to them.

 

[KayleeZoo]

I'll chat more personally soon- I've been in the bathroom more often than not the past 24 hours with some sort of horrible stomach virus. Just trying not to get deyhdrated, as I tend to have ctx the minute my hydration goes down. Man, between all the puking I've done over the past 16wks, and now the diarrhea, I'm ready for a normal stomach again!

 

[2boyzmama]

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Originally Posted by JessicaRenee I felt movement yesterday and then got lectured/yelled at by my father-in-law and his fiancee because I haven't been to a doctor yet for any prenatal care. My insurance is a freaking JOKE. One person tells me one thing, another says something else, another says that what the two other people told me only apply in this or that situation, then I go to a website and they say something TOTALLY different. Really, Scott and Linda, I promise you I'm not slacking off, I'm being told something new every time I try and get the prenatal care I need, and no I don't need to be yelled at when I'm overly emotional due to pregnancy and my husband being deployed. I'm not an idiot, please don't treat me like one!!! Anyway...

Ah yes, don't you just LOVE tricare?

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Originally Posted by KayleeZoo I'll chat more personally soon- I've been in the bathroom more often than not the past 24 hours with some sort of horrible stomach virus. Just trying not to get deyhdrated, as I tend to have ctx the minute my hydration goes down. Man, between all the puking I've done over the past 16wks, and now the diarrhea, I'm ready for a normal stomach again!

 

[jimblejamble]

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Originally Posted by 2boyzmama Ah yes, don't you just LOVE tricare?

Oh yes. Love. Adore! Would marry it if it were a person!

So I went down to the hospital to get all registered to get prenatal care, since they have posters ALL OVER THE DANG HOSPITAL(and sent out an ad in the newspaper!) advertising that they have such great nurse-midwives there who will do prental care and whatnot! One would assume that that means they do the prenatal care and other crap at the hospital...right? or am I just crazy and stupid for assuming that? I get to the front desk and say "Hi, I'm pregnant and need to get registered and whatnot so I can start getting prenatal care". The chick gives me this really weird eyebrow-raised look like I'm saying something TOTALLY OUT OF THIS WORLD and goes, "Um, do you have a referral from a doctor?" No. "Do you have a general practitioner?" No! I said, "I thought that I could get all of that done here and didn't have to worry about all that." She says, "Here's a phone number, call them and ask for a doctor then they'll refer you". What the heck?! Then she asks "Do you even HAVE insurance?" (?!) I said, "Yes, it's Tricare" and she said, "Okay, yeah, so call them. Sorry, we're not allowed to refer doctors otherwise I could help you more". Okay, fine, so WHY do they have all these freaking posters and ads claiming to have midwives there who do prenatal care there!?

This is E.X.A.C.T.L.Y. why I wanted to avoid a hospital birth at all costs!

And my parents and in-laws wonder why I'm 17.5 weeks along and have had absolutely no prenatal care?! Why do things have to be this difficult?! Why can't you just find a place that takes your insurance, walk in, and go from there? Why do I have to call this person, meet with them, have them do a referral, go somewhere else, meet with someone else, etc etc etc? Why do I need a referral from a doctor anyway? You don't need to be a doctor to conclude that 4 months with no period + weird cravings + growing belly + movements inside the belly = pregnancy!

Man oh man oh man do I want a midwife!

Edit - Oh, and of course this is all MY fault. *I* am the irresponsible one, and no one says a word to Chris about it. Everyone yells at ME. It's Chris' baby too.

 

[kismetbaby]

I kept thinking we should start one of these chats too, but always forgot to do it myself. ..way to go 2boyzmamma.

I am super busy this week (and I guess all weeks till mid June), I am finishing my Master's degree so being in the last term of that is intense. Especially since all I want to do is sleep these days!!!

But I am crawling along, waiting for the summer when I can actually make plans for this baby and take naps!

I have been having a hard time getting comfy at night lately, I want to sleep on my back but am paranoid about this (does anyone know when you should really worry about back laying?). Side sleeping is fine, except when I change positions at night--when I roll over my side ligaments really protest and it wakes me. Bummer. I am adding pillows trying to find comfort, but so far its just not great.

I am still really into fruit too, although less than the 1st tri. And dairy continues to be my constant. . .cottage cheese is a reigning fav and a great way to get protein (esp as a vegetarian). Eating lots of eggs too. . .I am going to be glad in October to not have to worry about protein so much.

2boyzmamma--Has your son been checked for gluten intolerance? It always comes to mind for me b/c my mom was diagnosed with celiac disease a few years ago and it had gone unrecognized in her for many years and caused lots of problems and damage.

 

[2boyzmama]

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Originally Posted by JessicaRenee Oh yes. Love. Adore! Would marry it if it were a person! So I went down to the hospital to get all registered to get prenatal care, since they have posters ALL OVER THE DANG HOSPITAL(and sent out an ad in the newspaper!) advertising that they have such great nurse-midwives there who will do prental care and whatnot! One would assume that that means they do the prenatal care and other crap at the hospital...right? or am I just crazy and stupid for assuming that? I get to the front desk and say "Hi, I'm pregnant and need to get registered and whatnot so I can start getting prenatal care". The chick gives me this really weird eyebrow-raised look like I'm saying something TOTALLY OUT OF THIS WORLD and goes, "Um, do you have a referral from a doctor?" No. "Do you have a general practitioner?" No! I said, "I thought that I could get all of that done here and didn't have to worry about all that." She says, "Here's a phone number, call them and ask for a doctor then they'll refer you". What the heck?! Then she asks "Do you even HAVE insurance?" (?!) I said, "Yes, it's Tricare" and she said, "Okay, yeah, so call them. Sorry, we're not allowed to refer doctors otherwise I could help you more". Okay, fine, so WHY do they have all these freaking posters and ads claiming to have midwives there who do prenatal care there!? This is E.X.A.C.T.L.Y. why I wanted to avoid a hospital birth at all costs! And my parents and in-laws wonder why I'm 17.5 weeks along and have had absolutely no prenatal care?! Why do things have to be this difficult?! Why can't you just find a place that takes your insurance, walk in, and go from there? Why do I have to call this person, meet with them, have them do a referral, go somewhere else, meet with someone else, etc etc etc? Why do I need a referral from a doctor anyway? You don't need to be a doctor to conclude that 4 months with no period + weird cravings + growing belly + movements inside the belly = pregnancy! Man oh man oh man do I want a midwife! Edit - Oh, and of course this is all MY fault. *I* am the irresponsible one, and no one says a word to Chris about it. Everyone yells at ME. It's Chris' baby too.

Ah yes, the Tricare run around

And it's slightly different at every base. At my first base when I was active duty, you had to go through Family Practice for the initial blood test to confirm your pregnant in order to be "referred" to OB. Okay, I guess I can kinda understand that. At my second base on active duty, the pregnancy confirmation test is done AT the OB clinic, no referral necessary. ?? Not sure why it's different, but I also got the confused look when I went to Family Practice and told them "I'm pregnant!" They said "why are you telling us? We have a wonderful OB department upstairs." Excuse me for not knowing the policies at every military treatment facility!

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Originally Posted by kismetbaby I kept thinking we should start one of these chats too, but always forgot to do it myself. ..way to go 2boyzmamma. I am super busy this week (and I guess all weeks till mid June), I am finishing my Master's degree so being in the last term of that is intense. Especially since all I want to do is sleep these days!!! But I am crawling along, waiting for the summer when I can actually make plans for this baby and take naps! I have been having a hard time getting comfy at night lately, I want to sleep on my back but am paranoid about this (does anyone know when you should really worry about back laying?). Side sleeping is fine, except when I change positions at night--when I roll over my side ligaments really protest and it wakes me. Bummer. I am adding pillows trying to find comfort, but so far its just not great. I am still really into fruit too, although less than the 1st tri. And dairy continues to be my constant. . .cottage cheese is a reigning fav and a great way to get protein (esp as a vegetarian). Eating lots of eggs too. . .I am going to be glad in October to not have to worry about protein so much. 2boyzmamma--Has your son been checked for gluten intolerance? It always comes to mind for me b/c my mom was diagnosed with celiac disease a few years ago and it had gone unrecognized in her for many years and caused lots of problems and damage.

Gluten intolerance is one issue on my list to talk to them about. His RAST test was negative and his Celiac blood panel was negative. HOWEVER, he was under 2 when both were done (and both are known to be less accurate the younger you are) PLUS he has a primary immune deficiency, and the tests test for a specific immune response, so it's possible for him to test negative and still have an issue. For example, it's blatantly obvious he's allergic (or sensitive or intolerant, or whatever word you want to use) to dairy and soy, yet his blood test AND skin test were negative. But if you give the kid dairy, within 24 hours he'll be puking and pooping.

Also on the list to check for are diabetes (he has some other signs of diabetes plus a heavy family history, plus he's at increased risk because of his syndrome) and metabolic conditions. We'll see.

Oh, and I'm also *loving* cottage cheese!!!

 

[octobermoon]

dosergirl -the pregnancy affirmations are things like; my pregnant body is healthy and beautiful, my body knows how to birth my baby, my baby is healthy, my blood pressure is perfect every day and night, etc... there are 150 of them and are supposed to be listened to every day. they last about 40 minutes. the lady's voice is very relaxing and makes me sleepy, it's good to listen to before bed.

ilovejeff, when are you going to start your hypnobabies program? are you on the yahoo group? i am so anxious to get started but i don't want to burn out by starting too early, YK? i am not sure when would be good. i am definitely not waiting till 35 weeks or anything.

 

[2boyzmama]

Ugh. So something is bothering poor Connor. He was up 4 times last night. And he seems really confused, daddy went to get him and brought him to me but Connor refused to leave daddy's arms so I could nurse him. Which is odd...within two minutes he realized that I was there and suddenly wanted to nurse, but it was really strange. He was just inconsolable. I'm wondering if he's dreaming...also he had his hands in his mouth all night long, so I wonder if he's teething again. I haven't checked his mouth in a while, he may be cutting 2 yr molars. Poor kid.

So hubby and I were late this morning...hubby had to rush Connor out the door to get him to therapy he has on Tuesday mornings, I had to rush to work. Luckily I know that my boss is in a meeting all day, so I knew there was no reason for me to be at work right on time. I of course try not to be late often, but days like today happen!!

Ian goes back to school today, his Spring Break is over. He's in the 3-4 yr old preschool program at the public school and loves it!!! They even bus him! We pay a small stipend ($30 a week) but it's worth it. And this is probably the school he'll go to for elementary school, so that's good. This is also possibly the school Connor will go to when he turns 3, although he'll have a full time aide and additional therapy provided at school.

So anyway...it's rainy and dreary here again today. Ugh. What's up with all of you?

 

[ilovejeff]

octobermoon, I started a few weeks ago. I had listened to week one a few times before I realized that I wasn't supposed to start yet and found it really relaxing, so I decided to go for it and just do 4 weeks on each chapter. Probably overkill, but I should have it down before birthing time!

I'm on the yahoo group, although I loath yahoo groups in general so I haven't been super active - I read the daily updates some days and did post one question about breathing.

 

[octobermoon]

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Originally Posted by ilovejeff octobermoon, I started a few weeks ago. I had listened to week one a few times before I realized that I wasn't supposed to start yet and found it really relaxing, so I decided to go for it and just do 4 weeks on each chapter. Probably overkill, but I should have it down before birthing time! I'm on the yahoo group, although I loath yahoo groups in general so I haven't been super active - I read the daily updates some days and did post one question about breathing.

via the yahoo group, someone suggested listening to and reading some of the material if started before 24 weeks so i think your fine. here is the link if you want to see it.

it's dreary here today too. i am having my jasmine green tea right now and need to give the house a thorough cleaning today. it's been a couple of weeks since i have done this since i was trying to lay low with that sciatica. we'll see how it goes.

: we have a small group meeting here on Tuesday nights for our church so that's why the cleaning must be done today.
i feel like rearranging things around the house to freshen up my mood.

 

[winnie]

Hey everyone!

ilovejeff, and octobermoon - I'm just waiting to get my hypnobabies package. I'm so glad you're both enjoying it so far, can't wait! When is it recommended to start the program?

I have my ultrasound, plus an OB appt this friday so am anxious for that - for some reason I really feel like I need some reassurance right now. It likely didn't help that I read the entire "complications" section in one of my pregnancy books, lol.

oops, DS is heading upstairs...back with more later!
Erin

 

[kismetbaby]

Just eating my big breakfast to prep for another busy day. But at least this is my one morning where I don't have to dash out the door early and i can take a walk before my shower. Consistent walking really helps my back issues and my mood. (And sorry ladies, its sunny and gorgeous here today, the usual CA weather!)

Last night while watching TV I felt three distinct little nudges/thumps/kicks! It was so cool. . and I could feel it on the outside too! I immediately put my hand down where I felt the first one and could feel the second and third both inside and outside. . .just this funny *bump*. But it was so distinct after not feeling much at all yet, that I kept thinking "is this gas? has my gas ever kicked me like that?"

I don't know when I'll believe it and stop blaming gas! But next time I will get my DH to feel it too.

Its getting fun though! I am in love with feeling this LO move!

Oh, and you guys are making me want hypnobabies. . .sigh. I think its a little too expensive, but I may break down. I have been watching some on ebay and they still fetch over $100. I did score both a baby bjorn and a hotsling on ebay for under $20 each!