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So we have been half-heartedly considering NCSS techinques for a while. Dd is a frequent nightwaker, especially in the 3-4 hours between when I put her to bed and when I go to bed (we're talking 5-10 times in that period <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wild.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wild"> ). We cosleep, she nurses a lot a night, but I sleep through a lot of it, she's young no biggy. Plus I get the sense that she is clusterfeeding after being put to bed in the early evening which is why she wakes so frequently. The early bed time seems to work well for her though, she is better rested, happier etc.<br><br>
So my question is...what are your thoughts about introducing a lovey? Is this worthwhile? I have mixed feelings. I'd be happy for her to have something she can cuddle up to at night or at dcps..but so far I am her lovey <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/luxlove.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="throb"> and that's okay!<br>
(she is very occasionally left with a dcp when dw & I are both at school or work -only 2 x so far for 3 hours or less)<br>
Should we try and introduce one? IF so, how? Any btdt advice, or suggestions either way? I'm completely open & curious...
 

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sorry, no advice here..just that my ds who is now 9 1/2 months old still wakes frequently between the time he goes down and when I go to sleep and I have to nurse him back to sleep, a lovey is a nice idea however, you can try but your dd may just not take to one!!! Good luck!!
 

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we started with the "stinky t-shirt" trick. Whatever shirt you wore all day or you may have slept in the night before -- take it off and keep it between you and DC while nursing her to sleep. Then leave it with her. For us - that mama/ milky smell helps settle our DS when he stirs. Of course we're still nursing back to sleep as well -- but not nearly as often.<br>
If this works, then maybe a blankie that stays in bed. We have a ragged tie dye blankie that never leaves the bed, so it also has that smell. Now when DS crawls in the family bed for a nap or bedtime, he grabs that and holds it to his face. He doesn't freak if it is not there for some reason -- but I think that soft mama smell and feel helps settle him and helps him roll over and goback to sleep on his own when he has a slight stir.<br><br>
Hope that helps!
 

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If there is one thing I feel confident about as a mother it's the lovey. My only advice is this (slightly contrary to NCSS):<br><br>
We had various things around that were gifts mainly - stuffed toys, blankets, etc. When DS started showing an attachment to one particular thing (the fleece cloud blanket from BRU) I went and bought about a dozen of them. I did not put them away or have one in each Grandma's house. I put them all in even cirulation for even wear and scent, and whatever else makes something so special. He loves them all the same, and seems to enjoy the adundance without getting too greedy. There is no battle over washing, or fear about losing the precious lovey. When we've lost one he never made fuss.<br><br>
I got these things when he was around 3-4 months old. They have long since worn about the same. Just this morning he handed me one of them and said: Mommy, this <i>old</i> Blanket. Sure enough that kid was right! It was Blanket Prime. Can't imagine how he knew... Makes me wonder if he has some quiet special relationship to <i>each</i> one!?<br><br>
I had imagined my sweet little angel attaching to a soft organic blanket or stuffy - not a polyester mass-produced thing from BRU. But in the end it made life a LOT easier!<br><br>
GL and HTH!
 
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