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I am going to be gone about 2 hours a week (MAX) and leaving the one month old baby with my dh.<br><br>
Can you give me some suggestions to give him to soothe her when she is unhappy?<br><br>
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My husband danced (and still dances) with DD when she was NB. The walking, dipping at the knees, swaying....it settled her quickly.<br><br>
Also, he'd put his lips to the side of her head, behind and just above her ear, and do the "shh shh shh shh" over and over...she'd settled quickly with that, too...still does, actually.
 

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Yes to the above... also my DH wears him in a sling. Babies who are worn cry about 50% less. Do you have a swing or papasan chair? When I need a break that helps sometimes. When I put him in the moby with his ear against my heart (so he has to be kind of high up on my chest) it settles him right down. The heartbeat helps.<br><br>
This will be good bonding time for your DH and baby!
 

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baby wearing!<br><br>
and have him read the happiest baby on the block! i've found that not only my dh, but the other men in my life (dad and brothers) respond more easily when there is a bit of logic behind it.. .not just, she's crying what do i do?!?! but when it's explained to them WHY they need to care for her in a certain way, it comes much easier to them to to not only do that but brainstorm other similar ways to do that which work for them.<br><br>
good luck!
 

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Also, magic breath!!! I did this with my sisters newborn and it was the only thing that worked for her. Have your dh hold her on his chest and breath hot air right onto her soft spot over and over. (Tell him not to pass out tho <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">)<br><br>
It totally worked for my sisters nb, and mine when they were tired but to upset to settle.<br><br>
I also second babywearing and walking/dancing!<br><br>
Good luck mama <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Our DD (5.5 weeks) likes the sound of the blower/vent thing (I don't know what you call it) over the stove. She also needs a firm hand when being burped. Not hard, but firm (there is a subtle difference). And swaddling helps too -- not having the do the typical newborn 'flailing about' seems to calm her down.<br><br>
I second the recommendation for the "Happiest Baby" book. Just remind DH not to give up too soon. Baby sometimes resists initially, but it does work for her.<br><br><br>
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A large yoga ball saves my dp when I have to leave him with dd. I bought one to stretch while pg and to use during labor and now my dp uses it all the time. He sits on the ball while holding dd and bounces. She loves it. It's been the only thing that soothes her since she was born. As a matter of fact dp and dd are on the ball right now and I'm watching her doze off. So freakin cute!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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I don't have a baby (yet) but the Happiest Baby on the Block book is recommended a lot on MDC.<br><br>
DH and I watched the DVD version. It probably doesn't have quite as much info but we liked it was easier to watch that read the book. You can also see the techniques instead of reading about them.
 

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thanks mama's<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Bouncing on an exercise/birth ball with DD in a sling was and is my DH's favorite method of soothing DD. It was especially effective when she was little. Also, music or white noise can be soothing. We use a CD of white noise, but a fan will work, too. DD's favorite music CD's are Putumayo's African Playground (works like magic!) and one of my favorite jazz albums by Joe Williams.
 

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when ds was a baby he was always soothed by the sound of running water so dp spent a lot of time in the bathroom with the faucet going. i know it's a huge waste of water but we were desperate. eventually, we bought one of those waterfall cds and would just sit, rocking and holding him by the speaker until he conked out <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
also, i know you have two other kids so this might be difficult but if your baby likes baths, that could be a nice realxing thing for your dh to do with him while you're away...<br><br>
or walking around outside...
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">A large yoga ball saves my dp when I have to leave him with dd. I bought one to stretch while pg and to use during labor and now my dp uses it all the time. He sits on the ball while holding dd and bounces. She loves it. It's been the only thing that soothes her since she was born. As a matter of fact dp and dd are on the ball right now and I'm watching her doze off. So freakin cute!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"></div>
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This worked like magic for the first 3-4 months it was amazing!! Also I second the Happiest Baby on the Block, all those techniques have worked for DD when she was 0-4 months.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">when ds was a baby he was always soothed by the sound of running water so dp spent a lot of time in the bathroom with the faucet going. i know it's a huge waste of water but we were desperate. eventually, we bought one of those waterfall cds and would just sit, rocking and holding him by the speaker until he conked out <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
also, i know you have two other kids so this might be difficult but if your baby likes baths, that could be a nice realxing thing for your dh to do with him while you're away...<br><br>
or walking around outside...</div>
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We would swaddle baby like a burrito, pm me for insturctions if needed, and turn on the water in the bathroom, bend over and put baby's ear RIGHT next to the running water. Like magick- baby would stop crying. This also works if you have to give a very LO medication- they don't care about the medication, as they are so enamored by the water!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> Hope that helps! I totally agree with all the PP about Babywearing, dancing, singing, and magick breath. I hope your DH finds something that works for him and LO!
 
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