Umm...I'm a mama of an only who's said that before.
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I've just meant it like "I'm really impressed that you can be a good mama to more than one or two children. I don't think I could do it. It seems like it would be hard."
So, if you're really trying to educate, maybe "It's not as hard as you'd think".
Ok...
I nanny for two boys who act as stand-in brothers for my boy.
: When we all go out together, I hear a lot of the hands-full sentiment . . . I don't know how you do it kind of stuff. Truth is, for me at least, sometimes more is easier! They entertain each other and on occasion I actually get to do something luxurious, like pee, pull up my pants, and wash my hands WITH NO CHILD UNDERFOOT! (Shhh, don't tell the boys' parents; they think I'm a baby genius.)
We've got 4. I usually mumble something about how we all help each other and how lucky we are. I can never think of clever quick things to say. But I don't take most comments about my family in a bad way. 4 kids isn't that many compared many families I knew growing up. I usually figure they're jealous.
Originally Posted by mamakay
Do you all find the "hands full" comment offensive, or are you just sick of hearing it all the time?
I hear it all the time, and I've only got two kids. It bothers me because I wonder what they're thinking; after all, there are only two of them! Granted, they're fairly close in age, but I don't generally feel as if I actually *have* my hands full. I'm just... busy. In a very healthy way, I think. So yeah, it gets on my nerves because it seems like a silly thing to say to someone who's only got two kids.
Now that I think of it, I had a friend move out of town when ds was an infant, and came back when he was about 18 months. The friend made some comment about my son being a "handful" and I took offense.
I heard it as "Your kid is unusually troublesome", for some reason, even though I doubt my friend meant it that way.
So, maybe I do understand...do the words "your hands full" mean "trouble" to you?
In that "What a pain in the a**" kind of way?
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