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For my first pregnancy, my DH was in Iraq, and all I can remember about the end of pregnancy is how turned on I was. All. The. Time. Totally DTD before he went back (14 days postpartum <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/blush.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="blush">)<br><br>
Now, I could care less. Part of it is that I'm still BF DS (2YO) and feel kind of... used... by my alien baby and DS some of the time. It is soooooo NOT my body right now. And that's okay. I like it. But I'm a little adverse to things that don't make ME feel awesome. And sex doesn't right now.<br><br>
I feel a little guilty, though, because DH is at school in Alabama all week. So he comes home on the weekend, and all I want to do in bed is... sleep. And cuddle. That's cool.<br><br>
Anyone else wondering about the libido that all the books says should be raging?
 

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I have none. I also thought it would increase, but no such luck. Even once we get going, I'm just not that into it. I hope it comes back...
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
I have the opposite problem - all revved up with no place to go. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Both ends can be tough.<br><br>
Does your dh pressure you though? Is he unhappy about it or taking it in stride?
 

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Same here! What gives? Poor DH has been so good about just letting me decide when it's ok for my body. I literally have been trying to keep track of how many days it's been so I don't make him wait too long cause I know I am not going to feel like it. I hope it comes back.
 

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No sex drive here either. And I've been catching DP doing his own thing in bed the last few nights, too. Ew.<br>
Generally, I feel all touched out and the baby isn't even here yet!!! DP is all about giving the belly a little love and feeling the baby kick, which was fine at first as I'd be the one to grab his hand and put it on a particularly active spot, but now I really feel like I've had enough. I just can't relax feeling as if he's going to milk the bump-cuddling moment for all it's worth and hope to get some nookie into the deal. Darn hormones. I sure hope this turns around after the baby's here.
 

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Mine is still gone... I give in and give DH some every 2 weeks to a month, usually closer to a month and its really nothing I enjoy, it truly is just a favor to him. Well, kinda... I tell him he has 5 minutes. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> He seems happy though.
 

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I was good and ready to go until third trimester. Some irritation with DH isn't helping capture that lovin' feeling and my heavens the aches and pains, oh and heartburn. Bleck.
 

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I've been taking care of myself. Between my kidney infection and some personal issues we've been having, I don't really want it from him right now. But I still need <b>something</b>. Literotica is my friend. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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I finally found mine again! I had it bad at the very beginning then gone for most of the middle, and now I'm all madly in love and want to make it all the time again. *shrug* I'm glad, though, because I probably won't be feeling so loving after the birth.
 

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Mine is missing too...We're a making it like bunnies couple generally<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">...but we are down to once or twice a week rations, I can fake enough enthusiasm for that. There are times I really want him but it's mid day and he is at work, by the time he is home and kids are in bed it is the furthest thing from my mind. I'm hoping it will make a reapperance before this little one shows up.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Mine is missing too...We're a making it like bunnies couple generally<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">...but we are down to once or twice a week rations, I can fake enough enthusiasm for that. There are times I really want him but it's mid day and he is at work, by the time he is home and kids are in bed it is the furthest thing from my mind. I'm hoping it will make a reapperance before this little one shows up.</div>
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I could have written the same exact thing. In the morning or mid day I'm wishing dh was here but once bedtime rolls around I'm just ready to snuggle up & pass out. So once a week or so it is. He's fine with it surprisingly but then again he's always been a bit weirded out by it when I'm this far along, lol.
 

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These are great responses! I've never... NOT... been in the mood before, and some of you ladies totally summed it up for me. Glad I'm not the only one <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">But I still need <b>something</b>. Literotica is my friend. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"></div>
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Dude, you so rock for saying that. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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My libido is, thankfully, very much intact (I say thankfully not to rub salt in any wounds but because I was in a basically sexless relationship for many many years to have that libido back for someone feels GREAT). Sometimes I feel a little less sexy than others (just generally bloaty or awkward) but generally I feel pretty good about my body and all that and my desire is very strong! And DP still finds me sexy, which is great, too, because I think I'd feel very self-conscious and sad now if he didn't!
 

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My libido has been pretty good but between crazy work/travel schedules for both of us, not much action unfortunately. Hopefully just a couple more bad weeks for both of us to get through.
 
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