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In your experiences with pregnancy and labor, for the most part did you and your mom have similar experiences?<br><br>
So far my pg has been somewhat like my moms, not too much morning sickness, at least not much puking. I'm already past my due date (big surprise there, I'm a first timer). My mom went late with 4/5 kids, myself being two weeks past. All her labors came on rather suddenly, as suddenly as a labor can, and were relatively short, me: 2 hours.<br><br>
I'm curious, were you like your mom in that respect? Totally different? I know every pregnancy is different, but I think there is something to be said for genetics as well.
 

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totally different in my case, and she had five pregnancies (one was twins, so 6 of us in all).<br><br>
The only thing to be said about genetics is that if your mom gained alot or got stretch marks...you're SOL:p
 

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Yes to the stretch marks. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> We both look like road maps.<br><br>
But, my mom had 2 labors--one was 3 hours, one was 5. Her babies were normal size, at 9 lbs, 6 oz, and 8-13. Delivered vaginally. Forceps on her first baby, but that was the norm at the time (scop, saddle blocks, and forceps for everyone)<br><br>
Me--36 hours labor, freakishly large baby, ending in a c-section.
 

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I don't buy this. My Mom had 3 very different labors so how could mine be like hers?<br>
I have had 5 very different labors so if mine aren't even similar to each other how could they be similar to someone else?<br><br>
The only similarities are that she had one really rough labor - #1 and I had one really rough labor #2.<br><br>
She had one fast labor - 2 hours with #2 and I had a very fast - 45 minute labor with #4 but hers was a month early and mine was 5 days late.<br><br>
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I have been told you labor more like your sisters then your Mom. For me, my sister and I both STOP dialating at 4 cm and needed pit. She has done this twice and ended with sections both times. I was able to birth vaginally.
 

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Nope totally different. My mom kept telling me I'd be really late (she went 4 wks overdue with both hers) and that my labor would be long and painful (she went several days in labor) Well both mine were pretty early and labor very short (6hrs and 1 hr ) and not painful at all.
 

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I posted this very question here once, most replies said they were different. Mine certainly were...looooooooooooooooooong labors & all 4 c-sections. My mom had, as she said, "2 pains & it was over."
 

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We had some funny similarities, and some differences.<br><br>
The funny similarity is that both of us have a nerve that runs from our hip to our thigh that gets compressed during pregnancy, and causes a numb spot. Hers still goes numb from time to time (and my little sister is 36!) With dd mine started a few months in. With DS, it started about 2 weeks into the pregnancy.<br><br>
I gained a TON of weight. She didn't. I was a BIG baby (8lbs 10oz, in 1967 to a woman who smoked and gained only 10 lbs) and dd was 9lbs 2oz.<br><br>
Her labor was painless/silent. She wasn't sure she was in labor with me. She showed up at the hospital at 7:30AM, and I was born just after 8.<br><br>
I definitely knew I was in labor with dd -- full on back labor almost immediately after my water broke. Labor was short, though... fully dilated by midnight, having started at 7pm. BUT, I pushed for 4 hours (!)<br><br>
With DS, it remains to be seen... (due early June)<br><br>
Oh, I also get wicked carpal tunnel, which mom did not. She may have had some mild PPD -- I had a full blown nasty case of it.<br><br>
So, YWMV (your womb may vary...)
 

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I was very like my mom! Similar pregnancy, relatively short first labor (but she had back-labor with me -- I think I was posterior). We both had similar birthing "philosophies" -- natural as possible. I think her experience of labor as not a terrible painful ordeal, but as an athletic, endurance requiring event rubbed off in a positive way. We are also physically shaped very similarly, which may also have contributed. Her second labor was 2 hours from beginning to end, she arrived at the hospital less than 10 minutes before my sister was born -- so I'm planning on a similarly short second labor... but we'll see what happens!
 

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Yes and no. My mother always moved very fast from 3-4 centimeters to fully dilated and pushing. With all of us the doctors refused to believe that this would happen and each time checked her and informed her and my father that there was still a long time to go before the birth (with me they were telling him to go home and have some lunch and come back later). Within a few minutes to an hour of each of these pronouncements she was saying that she felt a lot of pressure and needed to push. She was scoffed at each time and once finally re-checked each delivery ended with a race down the hallway to the delivery room with her being shouted at not to push and each of us being born right after entering the delivery room. She also threw up like crazy during her labors and got the shakes very badly.<br><br>
My births were very similar to this (minus the crazy hospital drama!). With my first (15 hours) I had a hospital birth and was induced so the timeline stuff is sketchier but I vomited a lot, got the shakes quite badly, rocketed through transition, and pushed my daughter out in 20 minutes. The next two births were both at home and both labors moved very quickly from 3-4 cms to pushing. With my son (11 hours) I could not keep anything down for the last several hours, never got the shakes, was checked at 3 cms and then blew through transition in 1/2 hour and started pushing involuntarily. Our midwife checked me and his head was right there. He was born 8 minutes later. With my newest daughter my entire labor was only 6 hours from start to finish and I wasn't checked internally until I requested it when I was hitting the end of my rope in transition. But my contractions stayed at 3-4 minutes apart and pretty tolerable all the way until about an hour before she arrived. Then I had about 45 minutes of slightly more intense labor with pretty bad shakes for about half of that, followed by 15 minutes of seriously intense transition, a move to the bed for an internal check (just a lip of the cervix left), water broke just after, and I pushed her out in one contraction (2 minutes). I never vomited during that labor (which was so thrilling to me!)<br><br>
My sister on the other hand had a somewhat different experience. She had a homebirth with her daughter last summer and her labor was 9 hours from start to finish (so pretty fast like both of us) but she had almost no break between contractions right from the get go, 1-2 minutes at most. After 7 hours of laboring like this she felt like she needed to push and then pushed for the next two hours (although she now had at least 10 minutes between contractions for most of this time). She never got the shakes and never threw up. She also tore pretty badly (upwards, ouch!) and neither my mother or I ever tore even enough for stitching.<br><br>
Overall, we have all had very powerful and empowering, pretty easy births. We are lucky and blessed. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/heartbeat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="heartbeat">
 

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I think our pregnancies were similar. We both feel very healthy pregnant. We are both pretty tough in labor too. But she had quick labors, and I have had long labors with alot of prodromonal labor - that's more like her baby sister's labors. It may be because her baby sister and I both had babies in the later part of our 20s and mom had hers in her early 20s? I dunno. My sister had 2 emergency c-secs for eclampsia, so I can't compare there.
 

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Totally different in every way.
 

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I have been told you labor more like your sisters then your Mom. QUOTE]<br><br>
That is what I've been told too. For me, I'm very glad it didn't end up being true. My sister's 3 births were very rough. I was there for 2 of them and had a fair bit of anxiety going into my first birth, which was long and hard but not unusual in anyway. I had a lot more confidence going into my second birth (which was a walk in the park!) and feel pretty good about vaginally birthing twins without any incident.<br><br>
Everyone is unique!
 

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My mother had severe morning sickness for her whole pregnancy, but it was like mine--all nausea and fatigue, no vomiting. I realized early on that mine was both hormonal and blood sugar related, so I was able to control it somewhat with diet and managed to get rid of it by 24-25 weeks.<br><br>
She got tons of stretch marks, I have none. We both have ginormous boobs that got even bigger. We both enjoyed being pregnant.<br><br>
She delivered quickly once her water broke, as did I. We were both bleeders (she only had problems with me, not my brother) and suffered from anemia.
 

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I wish I was more like my mom in terms of birth! She had vaginal, medically uncomplicated deliveries for my brother and I...I was just shy of 10 pounds, he was just over 10 pounds. Although she had a saddle block with me (during crowning of all times...it was the standard procedure at that hospital back then) that was it, and with my brother she didn't have that. Quick deliveries too...about 8 hours total with me and around 4 with my brother, and we both arrived right on our due dates.<br><br>
Me though, 42+ weeks with sPROM then a loooong back labor and eventual move to the hospital for a spinal, pit, and c/s. DD was posterior, asynclitic, and on the "small" side for my family (9lbs 5oz). I'm hoping dd2 makes her arrival in a much more mama-friendly manner. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I have to say though, my mom did not help my PPD when she kept harping on how loud I'd been, and how alternative I'd been, and how if I'd just "gone along with the doctors during the pregnancy and just gone to the hospital at the beginning" I too would have had a quick easy birth with no interventions. Grrrrrrr.
 

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Somewhat. We both had easy pgs and births, both of us naturally went into labor at 38w with our DC. The one real difference is that my mother had had very quick labors and mine take longer.
 

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Both my pregnancy and my birth were a lot like my mom's. Except she didn't get any stretch marks with any of her pregnancies and I got a few, and she never had morning sickness and mine was pretty bad. She had fast labors (wish I had known that in advance!) and didn't push for long, and I had a 7.5 hr labor and pushed for about 20 minutes which isn't too long. My sister and I were about a week "early" and my brother was 3.5 weeks early. DD was born on her due date. So my experience wasn't exactly the same as my mom's, but pretty similar.
 

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We were both TOTALLY different. I am her only child and I was born 5 weeks early (I'm guessing she went into PTL because she says she had contractions but doesn't remember much and was forced into a C-Section)........<br><br>
I have had 2 totally different labors - the first was 42 hours long at 41w5d after my water having been broken the whole time and ended in a C-Section.... the second labor was less than 5 hours start to finish, naturally and at home at 39w6d <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Completely different -pregnancy, birth, everything. And my mother never got any stretch marks and I'm covered with them! Our experience with menstruation was also radically different.
 

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I had pre-e with Anneke so I dont' really count that labor.<br><br>
I am really hoping that I don't labor like my mom did -- she was induced with all three of us after her water broke with no labor. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 
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