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My dp is suggesting that it would be easier to night wean, if I cut down a lot on daytime nursing.<br>
Ds is 20 mos old, and he wakes to nurse 5 or more times most nights. He also rarely goes more than an hour between nursings in the day (unless I'm gone shopping, then he doesn't seem to mind at all).<br>
Dp knows about the nutritional benefits of extended bf, and agrees, but sees that I'm frustrated at night (and during the day sometimes). He thinks that I'm "mean" at night, and that it would be easier on ds to understand the whole not-nursing thing when he's awake and happy. Granted, I do sometimes get frustrated at night, but it seems like it would be better to work on ME, than to work on ds, kwim?<br>
I did find last night that saying "Mommy's sleeping, nips are sleeping (his word for nursing), now Keagan go to sleep" and "Let's wait to nip when its daytime" really helped me stay calm and un-frustrated (not a word, but ykwim). And it did seem to help him go to sleep without nursing, and stay asleep a while, and he wasn't upset at all. But that could've been a one-time deal.<br>
It's really hard to "limit" nursings during the day, and on top of that, I don't want to have limits that make ds unhappy. But it would be nice to be able to get the dishes done in one shot, and not have to stop to nurse a toddler!<br><br>
Would limiting daytime nursings help? I'm not willing to wean him. It just seems silly to replace people milk with cow milk, kwim? I don't even care if he nurses at night once or twice, but 5 times is too much!
Ds is 20 mos old, and he wakes to nurse 5 or more times most nights. He also rarely goes more than an hour between nursings in the day (unless I'm gone shopping, then he doesn't seem to mind at all).<br>
Dp knows about the nutritional benefits of extended bf, and agrees, but sees that I'm frustrated at night (and during the day sometimes). He thinks that I'm "mean" at night, and that it would be easier on ds to understand the whole not-nursing thing when he's awake and happy. Granted, I do sometimes get frustrated at night, but it seems like it would be better to work on ME, than to work on ds, kwim?<br>
I did find last night that saying "Mommy's sleeping, nips are sleeping (his word for nursing), now Keagan go to sleep" and "Let's wait to nip when its daytime" really helped me stay calm and un-frustrated (not a word, but ykwim). And it did seem to help him go to sleep without nursing, and stay asleep a while, and he wasn't upset at all. But that could've been a one-time deal.<br>
It's really hard to "limit" nursings during the day, and on top of that, I don't want to have limits that make ds unhappy. But it would be nice to be able to get the dishes done in one shot, and not have to stop to nurse a toddler!<br><br>
Would limiting daytime nursings help? I'm not willing to wean him. It just seems silly to replace people milk with cow milk, kwim? I don't even care if he nurses at night once or twice, but 5 times is too much!