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I'm so sad... my friend is having terrible troubles with her breastfeeding and is considering quitting<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">: Her ds is just barely 3 months old. She breastfed her dd previously for 8 months, plus longer - pumping - with no problems whatsoever, so she's getting really discouraged and most people aren't helping things at all by telling her to just give up. This time, her ds is tongue tied, so he doesn't have a great latch (although he gets lotsa milk - he's already 14 lbs!) but it's causing her a lot of pain. She also has a milk blister now and thinks she also might have mastitis.<br><br>
She really doesn't *want* to quit, but feels like maybe she has to because the pain is too much (and people keep pressuring her<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: ). In fact, she chatted with me about it because she *knew* that I'd say she should keep going and try to encourage her... she said this.<br><br>
Sooooo... what I'm looking for are encouraging links on why to keep going. She knows the basic benefits of breastfeeding, like bonding and such, but I guess I was looking for sites that talk about, you know, some of the smaller or lesser known benefits of breastfeeding... like I read somewhere that it can benefit baby's eyesight because switching back and forth sides exercises the eyes independently or something. Also, any other stories or info that might be super encouraging to her. I figured I'd keep sending her a bit more encouragement every day.
 

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It's a lot more than bonding! It means getting the perfect food, and when they're so little, helpless and undeveloped they really need that, if they can't they get a cascade of discomforts and health problems. It's not a decision only best for the moment, everything in life forms you for the future especially at the start of it. Rates of childhood obesity go up in non BFed kids, immune system problems like catching every bug that goes around, ear infections... Her own health is helped too, including decreasing her risk of some cancers including breast. There are things to suggest BF kids are smarter though nothing concrete. There are over 300 ingrediants in breastmilk and over 200 of them can't yet be copied in artificial replacements. She's just getting started, and I'm sure she's doing great, this brief time of problems is nothing in the long term, both of nursing and considering the rest of the child's life.<br><br><a href="http://www.notmilk.com/101.html" target="_blank">http://www.notmilk.com/101.html</a>
 

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Is there a reason she's not getting the tongue tie clipped? A lot of moms report INSTANT improvements with that.<br><br>
-Angela
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Is there a reason she's not getting the tongue tie clipped? A lot of moms report INSTANT improvements with that.<br></div>
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She can have that clipped and it should help right away.<br><br>
It is a common procedure and can help them avoid speech difficulties later, which..will lead to her Dr recommending them getting that clipped anyways.<br><br>
Tell her to ask her Dr about it.
 

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She couldn't get an appointment to do that til October <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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Have her call around to other ped's it is a very simple procedure done in office no need for anything special. I know mw's sometimes even do it.<br><br>
I would help her by calling around for her and finding someone to do the clip ASAP there is no need for her to suffer.
 

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I'll let her know, but I'd still like to send her encouragement
 

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Right off the top of my head. Not only breast, ovarian and uterine cancer protection for her but childhood cancer protection for her child if she bf's for at least a year less than that and the statistics show no difference. Less chance her child will have allergies.<br><br>
Those wonderful immunities she passes on each time the baby nurses.
 

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<a href="http://www.notmilk.com/101.html" target="_blank">http://www.notmilk.com/101.html</a><br><br>
And yes, have her call around until she finds someone that can do it, that can be VERY painful to nurse a tt baby and it is sad what a quick fix it is and she is suffering for no reason <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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She doesn't want to because she's got an appointment with "the best doctor for it" *sigh* Now she's saying "I can do it!" so that's good, though<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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