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This isn't really a "how do I fix this?" kind of post, more like a chance for others to tell me that they also deal with the same thing...<br><br>
DS is 15 months and has started to ask to nurse ALL THE TIME. Constantly. Which is weird for him, because I used to feel like I was forcing him to nurse at times, he was just too consumed in whatever he was doing to take the time out.<br><br>
Anyways, he nurses all the time, day and night, and he is constantly pinching, poking, prodding, and pulling at me and I end up pretty sore by the end of it. Especially when he is falling asleep for a nap or at night - he MUST be digging his finger in my bellybutton to fall asleep. Funny, sure...but my bellybutton is very very sore!<br><br>
I've tried handing him toys, but he really just wants to play with me.<br><br>
Anyone else?<br>
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Yep my third, ds2, is almost 16 months and is such a "boob man"! He LOVES to nurse. I wonder that he may be OBSESSED with my breasts...seriously!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
He holds on to them like a monkey when he is not, he runs his hands over them and makes the "Wheee!" sound, like when a toy car gets sent down the sliding board...and he actually bit my mom's boob through her shirt last night.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> She was shocked (bottled fed her three) but cracked up laughing! I guess he figured she was genetically close enough to his own mother!
 

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My daughter loves digging into my belly button when she nurses, especially when she is trying to go to sleep. It hurts though. I've tried a couple of things to distract her and keep her from doing it, but she is obsessed.
 

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I'm going through both of those issues- constant nursing and roaming hands. Right before 18 months, my daughter started wanting to nurse ALL the time...like every 5 minutes it seemed. She's now 20 months and it's gotten a lot better. It's totally normal for them to go through this for a few months, somewhere within 12-24 months.<br>
The roaming hands...yeah. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> My daughter always needs to be grabbing the opposite boob. The only time it really frustrates me is when we're in public and she wants to do it.
 

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I read enough of these threads before DD started in on such antics that I simply put the nix on anything that was even mildly irritating, and still do. She's not allowed to touch nipples, poke belly button, pinch, etc. If she does, I move her hand away, and if she persists, I put a barrier such as a blanket or shirt in her way, and if she protests, I remind her gently but firmly that I don't like that and that if she wants to nurse, she can't do whatever it is.<br><br>
She usually takes the reminder well and gets back to business.<br><br>
At this point she also understands it depends on my mood. Sometimes a gentle stroke or pat is okay, and sometimes it tickles or irritates. I go with "if it tickles, hurts, or irritates then it's going to stop". With the exception of actual latch-on and nursing itself, which sometimes hurts or irritates now, but I still allow because I don't want to wean ahead of her schedule.
 

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My boys are only 8 months but our nursing sessions often border on abusive, especially when I nurse them at the same time. They grab fistfulls of my saggy belly skin, pinch my breasts, punch me, kick me and now they find my nipples fascinating to touch, pull, pinch. And because I'm holding both of them I have no hands to stop them. It really drives me crazy sometimes... I think I have started dissociating during a lot of our nursing which I guess is sad, but if that's what it takes to keep the milk flowing, so be it.
 

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same as rock star over here...I have a girl 15 months who MUST be playing with booby 2 while nursing on booby 1...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
I dont mind except when she gets super mean and starts pinching and pulling.. or when we are out in public like on a bus and she is yanking down teh other side of my shirt to play with her baba..<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I read enough of these threads before DD started in on such antics that I simply put the nix on anything that was even mildly irritating, and still do. She's not allowed to touch nipples, poke belly button, pinch, etc. If she does, I move her hand away, and if she persists, I put a barrier such as a blanket or shirt in her way, and if she protests, I remind her gently but firmly that I don't like that and that if she wants to nurse, she can't do whatever it is.</div>
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That was exactly my attitude when my three were nursing. It's never too early to start teaching nursing manners. Annoying and irritating behavior will just get even more annoying and irritating as they get older. It's less stressful to curb unwanted behavior completely than to go through the constant negotiation with your child and yourself over how much bad nursing behavior is tolerable at any given time. That sends mixed signals to the child that can make the problem worse rather than better.
 

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Oh man, do I know about those little roaming hands! When dd was about 16-18 mos she was nursing every 5 mins too - and had to stick her fingers in my mouth and/or nose. Now at 21 mos she only nurses once a day (shocking - never thought that would happen!) but is constantly trying to rub my other nipple while she's nursing. It drives me nuts. I've just started clamping my hand down over my other breast.
 

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My ds is 26 months and is still a hand-roamer. He's also an aries and just won't stop no matter what I do (all of what everyone mentioned). The only thing that has worked is to put him on the defensive: I try to pick his scraggly nails each time he starts pinching pulling etc. It drives HIM nuts until he clentches his hands into fists and puts them behind his back so I can't get to them. aaaaahhhhh! freedom! at least for 30 seconds, then it starts all over again...........<br><br><br>
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My DD nursed till she was 24 months and had this dreadful tweaking thing she loved to do to whatever nipple she wasn't attached to. It drove me batty. I kept putting her hand down and just holding it there. When she finally weaned, she started playing with her own nipple! Her left is much larger than her right for now (sigh).
 

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Heh, I knew there would be a few of you that had this issue!<br><br>
The nursing necklace, now that's something I haven't tried. He may really like that, I'll have to look into it.<br><br>
If it's during the day I don't mind holding his hand, or asking him not to pinch, etc...but when I am hoping he will fall asleep, I just let him dig at my bellybutton because it seems that he needs to do that to settle down.<br>
Tonight I tucked a blanket in between us though, and he tried really hard to get his hand under it, but gave up after a moment and then just rubbed the blanket! So that was much better.<br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">They grab fistfulls of my saggy belly skin</div>
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I know what you mean. My 11 mo old has just discovered he can reach this lovely, squishy handful of belly roll - I'm not much enjoying being reminded that it's there! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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My DD loves to dig in my belly button too. Pinching skin is another fave. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> If it hurts or annoys me, I stop her. Once I notice her doing it, I stop her by nudging her hand away and putting mine in place or maybe a blanket. One thing that helps is that she likes to put her hands either between me and the bed (as we are laying there) or in my waist band. The waist band is kinda wierd, but it's not hurting me any and it doesn't annoy me, so I let it go. LOL
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">He holds on to them like a monkey when he is not, he runs his hands over them and makes the "Wheee!" sound, like when a toy car gets sent down the sliding board...and he actually bit my mom's boob through her shirt last night.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> She was shocked (bottled fed her three) but cracked up laughing! I guess he figured she was genetically close enough to his own mother!</div>
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laughup <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biglaugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="laugh">: omg...these are soooo funny. I have tears in my eyes from reading some of your posts... DS is turning a year old on Saturday and so far, I think it's cute that he plays with my belly button and nipple. I'm assuming that my compliance is breeding ground for future annoyance!! Guess I better nip (no pun intended) his little habits before it gets too painful!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I read enough of these threads before DD started in on such antics that I simply put the nix on anything that was even mildly irritating, and still do. She's not allowed to touch nipples, poke belly button, pinch, etc. If she does, I move her hand away, and if she persists, I put a barrier such as a blanket or shirt in her way, and if she protests, I remind her gently but firmly that I don't like that and that if she wants to nurse, she can't do whatever it is.</div>
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Same here. I absolutely abhor having anything touching my other nipple when she is nursing. I don't mind if she kneads or even claws my nursing breast, although I find those sensations more troubling when she is nursing than when she is not. But anything I find irritating, I just have to stop. For example I cover my stomach, because I don't like her touching it.<br><br>
My first DD used to pinch the layer of skin on my breast and pull it up to her nose and breathe through it. I couldn't even feel it, and it amused me when she did that, so I never stopped it.<br><br>
I heard enough horror stories about toddlers who would have to twiddle the other nipple and would actually refuse to nurse unless they could. Thankfully I never had a child who did that, but I often was covering my other breast with a cloth because of the leaking, so that might have been part of why they never got the habit. And both my children liked to squish their ears and pull their own hair.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I know what you mean. My 11 mo old has just discovered he can reach this lovely, squishy handful of belly roll - I'm not much enjoying being reminded that it's there! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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<span>I read this and thought how great it was DD didn't do this...yet...then what happened, yesterday DD started doing this, too! eeeeeeeek!</span>
 

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My thirdborn used to stick his finger in his own belly button while nursing. He still loves to stick his finger in his belly button even though he is weaned. Funny! DD, age 19 months, has to be bothering the other nipple she is not nursing on, feeling of it all the time. I don't let her hurt me and taught her not to pinch but be gentle. She only pipinches when night nursing now.
 
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