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Hi Ladies!<br>
I'm a SAHW, soon to be SAHM. We used to be a 2 income family and then in April of last year I quit my job to stay at home. It was costing us money for me to work b/c I wasn't making alot and we had to eat out every night b/c of my hours. Anyway, my DH was making more than enough for me to be able to stay home, pay our bills and be able to go and do like we wanted. Unforunately we blew all the extra money that was left after bills and groceries and didn't put any to savings. Now things are extremely tight. He's not making the money that he was making even though he's doing the same thing (he's a truck driver so sometimes its feast and sometimes it faminine in this profession). Now there's barely enough each week to pay the bills.<br>
I learned to cut corners and live frugally from my mom, so its not that we're extravagant in our living. I shop by the grocery sales, cook from scratch as much as possible, shop at thrift stores and everything else that comes along with the Frugal life style. We've cut all the corners that we can cut and there's still very little left over most weeks. This is especially scary b/c we're expecting a baby in a few weeks, and while I plan to breastfeed theres still diapers, wipes, etc etc etc that comes with a little one.<br>
Anyway, does anyone have any advice on how to get through this. Its extremely tough and taking a toll on both myself and my DH emotionally and physically (he leaves early and gets home late most days). I just don't know what to do!!<br>
Sorry to bother you all with this. I just someone to talk to and to get it off my chest.<br>
Also, does anyone have any ideas on how to supplement our income? I'm looking into doing direct sales but the inital start up fees and monthly commintments are more than I can handle right now as far as fiancially, I'm not worried about the time involved. I can't babysit right now b/c of being 31 weeks pregnant. I do make handpainted wall hangings that I advertised on another site but so far no response and candy bouquets that I'd like to sell locally but I'm not sure if in order to have them put in 2 floral shops that I know if I need a tax ID and all that good stuff.<br><br>
OK I'm done. Sorry its so long and if you made it this far, Thanks for hanging in.<br>
Kelly
 

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sorry don't have much time to write.<br>
cloth diapers and cloth wipes will save you a ton. go to the diapering section for more info.<br>
somebody else directed me to the frugal living section too. good ideas there.<br>
good luck
 

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There's an awesome forum on the Abouts forum called Frugal Living https//frugalliving.about.com/ The people there are so supportive and have lots of great ideas. I know at least one member has a trucker husband and they live on one income.<br><br>
Go to the frugal living site and then on the left towards the bottom click on forums and register. I'm sorry but I don't have any answers on selling your stuff--post there and see if someone else does re: supplementing your income. I know there are a couple of crafters there but not sure if they sell their stuff.
 

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I can't believe how much money cloth diapers have saved us, and they really are not that much work at all. They can seem a bit pricey at first but in the long run they really pay off big time. We told our parents thats what we wanted. And don't be worried if you can only afford to buy a dozen right now. We only had 1 dozen when my ds was first born. Now at 16 months we have 4 dozen and he went through more diapers back then. We bought our at <a href="http://www.cottonbabies.com" target="_blank">www.cottonbabies.com</a> and I think you can buy used ones on ebay.
 

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Where in NC are you? I'm in Raleigh. We live on one income too, so maybe I can give you some local tips, if you're close by.
 

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BTDT. Living on a very tight budget can be hard. My father was a truck driver, so I understand about the income fluctuations. Not very fun sometimes. I also had a PT job not too long ago, but found, like you, that it was costing us money for me too work; with gas, meals, and work clothes and such. I have not really found any solution to supplementing income, but I have become an expert on cutting costs. We live on the bare minimum at this time. But praying that things change before long.
 

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my advice is to definitely not make any decisions about supplementing until after the baby comes. you are likely to have a totally different perspective then!<br><br>
after a while you might be able to supplement with a bit of in-house childcare...certainly only after you're out of the newborn phase! perhaps with a slightly older child, maybe after school babysitting or something? a mom i once knew also put flyers around her neighborhood offering her services as a housecleaner and she took her baby with her and had him in the sling or sleeping while she did it. maybe women are really supportive of such efforts! just some ideas!<br><br>
do you cook with crockpots? when i was low on income, i bought nearly everything in bulk (from bulk bins) and got really good at soaking things overnight and then sticking it all into the crockpot in the morning....then dinner is ready and you've hardly had to spend or do anything!<br><br>
good luck!
 

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Mama2Bug, I'm about 1.5 hours from Raleigh toward the coast. I do most of my shopping in Greenville and Rocky Mount.<br><br>
Thanks everyone for the advice. Its just so frustrating sometimes! I guess it could be worse though. I'm trying to keep telling myself so that maybe I won't get so discouraged when those low paychecks come in. Thanks for letting me vent.
 

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Hi Kelly,<br><br>
I write an article on working from home. I think you will find it very useful. If you have any questions pm me. I have worked from home four years.<br><br><a href="http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/132105/the_ultimate_guide_to_finding_a_work.html" target="_blank">http://www.associatedcontent.com/art...ng_a_work.html</a><br><br>
I really hopes this helps.<br><br>
Jay
 

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Great ideas here
 

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Just for the record, I've been doing this since we moved into our house in June and it works really well for us. I have one baby that I watch two days a week, and her parents pay me even when they don't come. I have a three year old and his 10 month old brother who come Tuesday and Thursday afternoons, and a three year old girl who comes Thursday mornings.<br><br>
There are also four families that I sit for occasionally.<br><br>
What makes it work for me is only taking part-time clients.
 

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For me, when I start to get bummed that everything is so expensive and if a car breaks down, it's $400 or more (where does that come from????).......I force myself to remember that this won't be forever. I will go back to work when the kiddos get older. I can only have my children now, but I will/can work for a really long time.<br>
Hang in there!
 
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