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LO is now 6 months. In the past week he's decided more than ever to object to DH holding him!<br>
He screams bloody murder when he tried to change his diapers....and for the past 3 nights he pitches a fit when DH holds him while I cook dinner.<br><br>
I took him back the first night. Instant smile....so I helped him get into playing with a wooden box we have that he likes to pull himself up with...DH steps in behind me and takes over....and LO notices and begins hollering again. So, DH decides he will not hand over DS until he gives up because he doesn't want him to learn that if he screams loud and long enough he gets what he wants.<br>
Now DS (who was not normally a screamer) spends all of my food prep time screaming, and won't let DH hold him peacefully.<br><br>
I am at a loss and don't even know exactly what I'm asking. Impressions? Experience? Do you agree with my DH? or should I intervene? I try to help DH feel better about the situation....but he;'s said several times now that he thinks DS doesn't like him/need him<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> It all breaks my heart
 

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Hmmm my DS would not go with DH for the longest time. I wore him in a sling while doing food prep then anything hot or needing to go in the oven, DH took over. I just can't listen to my DS cry knowing that holding him would make him happy. I don't see it as spoiling him. He obviously needs me and that is what he gets. My DH sometimes has the same opinion as yours in that I should just ignore the cries and go do my things but I just can't. Now, if DS is just fussing and not really crying then I will let him go.<br><br>
Maybe DH could help make dinner for now until this phase passes? I would not let him cry if your mama instincts are telling you to go get him. Make your baby happy and put him in the sling <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
EDIT - I wanted to add that if your son learns you will be there when he cries (by you picking him up) then he might go to DH more and more because he knows 100% that you are there if he needs you. Does that make sense?
 

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Yes that does make sense! Thank you.....I don't want to be the wife that is always disagreeing and second-guessing DH.....but DS is letting me know he needs me - I must be there...<br>
This too will pass...this too will pass (my new mantra<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">)
 

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That sounds really hard. Does Dh spend time with LO at other times? Or only in the evening? Maybe he needs more fun time with daddy to realize it's okay to be with him?<br><br>
I don't agree that responding to his crying is bad - I think that babies SHOULD learn that crying (communicating) gets their needs met. But, I also think it's important for LO to spend time with Daddy.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I hope this passes quickly for you.
 
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