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Haven't we come further than this? This is an article (it's short) written by the business writer of my local newspaper. I'm disgusted by it and if you are, too, then please send this man an email so I am not alone.<br><br><a href="mailto:[email protected]">[email protected]</a> (writer)<br><a href="mailto:[email protected]">[email protected]</a> (publisher)<br><br><a href="http://www.tauntongazette.com/site/news.cfm?newsid=18268712&BRD=1711&PAG=461&dept_id=24229&rfi=6" target="_blank">Link to article</a> (quoted below...).<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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By: Charles Winokoor, business writer<br>
04/27/2007<br><br>
Last Friday, Brockton cardiologist Dr. Melissa Tracy, while shopping in the South Hingham iParty store, dropped to the floor and began breast-feeding her ostensibly starving 2-month-old child.<br>
"Rather than let him become hysterical, I sat down on the floor and breast-fed him," Tracy told the Boston Herald.<br>
What happened next, she said, caused her to feel humiliated. The store manager, a regular Darth Vader it seems, had the gall to admonish her.<br>
"He stood over me and said 'You can't do that here,' " she was quoted. "I've never felt that badly before."<br>
Feeling emotionally scarred, Tracy did the honorable and proper thing: She ratted out the iParty blue meanie to his corporate superiors - who issued a knee-jerk, please-don't-hit-me mea culpa, faster than CBS Radio and MSNBC gave Don Imus the bum's rush.<br>
What she's failed to mention, either in print or on TV, is why she was so compelled to plop to the floor instead of walking to the ladies room. Would she have jeopardized her child's welfare, his very life, if she had simply made the effort?<br>
Or was she more interested in making a point about who she is and what she thinks she represents? During a TV interview, her husband said in his native Germany breast-feeding in public is an accepted practice and one that is "not vulgar."<br>
Not vulgar for sure - but how about annoying? Not the act of breast-feeding, mind you, but the behavior of well-educated parents who want to impose their version of an enlightened society upon the rest of us, without regard to our sensibilities.<br>
That sort of selfish, guerilla mentality is not just inconsiderate to those of us backward Americans who are not used to seeing babies suckling while we're shopping for party supplies or dog food, it's also unfair to the companies whose employees are only trying to do the right thing.<br>
Now, if any business - be it retail chain, a local independent store or a car dealership - announces a policy explicitly allowing open breast-feeding then that's their prerogative. But one also has to ponder how this type of adult-baby behavior will eventually affect the child.<br>
No wonder there's a legion of kids nowadays who have grown up thinking they're extra-special, entitled and oh-so-superior; after all, it's been imbedded into their id since they were fed mother's milk.<br>
This whole silly episode reminds me, in a way, of the case of the "flying imams," six religious Muslims who were removed from a flight last November after they insisted on standing up in the plane for evening prayers.<br>
They knew exactly what they were doing. They wanted publicity and they got it, in spades.<br>
That's not to say the good doctor from Brockton intended, ahead of time, to use her breast-feeding as a publicity stunt to teach the rest of us a good lesson. From what I've read and heard, she comes across as a decent, sincere individual.<br>
What I do suggest to her and other mothers who act rashly, and then condemn anyone who complains, is to grow up before your child does.<br>
And next time you go shopping with your infant in your arms, try bringing along a baby bottle.<br><br>
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Charles Winokoor is the business writer for the Taunton Daily Gazette.<br><br><a href="mailto:[email protected]">[email protected]</a></td>
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Grrrrrrrr. I dont even know how to respond because I'm so spitting mad.
 

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Write a letter. Ask him if next time he feels compelled to snack on a candy bar in a public store, if he would kindly do it in the restroom. Bathrooms are often disgusting in this world of ours and I will *never* feed my child in one. I will feed him wherever the hell he decides he's hungry. Period
 

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Oh good grief. Some people just don't GET IT! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/splat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="splat"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hammer.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hammer"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banghead.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banghead">
 

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I would mail a copy to your state rep and senator and say THIS is why you need better bf leglislation. (I wouldn't give him the satisfaction of a reply.)
 

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I sent an email to him. I tried to be nice but I think a lot of these people who are speaking out about breastfeeding weren't breastfed as children, at least not for very long. I can't imagine someone who's mother breastfed them having such a negative opinion of it.
 

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What a terrible letter and how very sad that man is spreading this filth. "Bringing a bottle" is NOT as easy as it seems. What don't people get that?<br><br>
Let's remember, though, that naming calling and cursing are against the MDC UA <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> Even though he deserves it!
 

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I sent the publisher an email, becuase you're right....sending the writer a reply wont do any good. The infuriating thing is that the NEWSPAPER published it. The same newspaper that regularly prints articles about local citizens (we have a lot of foreign citizens and immigrants) being discriminated against.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">I am 100% committed to ensuring that none of my family or friends will ever purchase or support your newspaper again, in direct reaction to your decision to print Charles Winokoor's editorial piece, Making Milk Public Controversy. You know the one? Where he likens breastfeeding a hungry newborn to allowing an animal to urinate on the floor and leave it for someone else to pick up? The one where he announces that giving in to an infant's wails of hunger have produced "a legion of kids nowadays who have grown up thinking they're extra-special, entitled and oh-so-superior".<br><br>
The fact that a narrow minded, clearly uneducated individual has such an opinion is pitiful but also his perogitive. That you would choose to publish such a blatantly discriminatory and offensive piece of rubbish is another thing, entirely.<br><br>
Your email is circulating parenting and breast feeding awareness websites globally. I hope you take this decision to alienate your readers very seriously because I am wholeheartedly promoting the boycott of your publication.<br><br>
Perhaps one of your "business writers" have a discriminatory opinion of social integration they would like to share. Or maybe a small-minded opinion of foreign citizens working in our city? Is that what you want your paper to be known for?<br><br>
You should have stuck to reporting the NEWS. Not promoting the abuse and discrimination of mothers taking care of their children the way they feel is best.</td>
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I's really just disturbed that they would give such awful prejudice a public forum.<br><br>
I live in Massachusetts. Halfway between Boston and Providence.
 

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I sent an e-mail. Let's just say it was a little less than cival. Oh well. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/censored.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="censored"><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/soapbox.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="soapbox"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/splat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="splat"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banghead.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banghead"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hopmad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hopping mad">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I sent an email to him. I tried to be nice but I think a lot of these people who are speaking out about breastfeeding weren't breastfed as children, at least not for very long. I can't imagine someone who's mother breastfed them having such a negative opinion of it.</div>
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I can. Just because a mother breastfed doesn't insure that she raised her children to value it, especially if they were raised by mothers who believed that it is wrong to breastfeed around other people.<br><br>
I have friends who don't even know if they were breastfed or not.
 

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thank you, guys, for sending emails to let the paper know this is not acceptable. I'm not interested in starting a war but this kind of crap will never stop if people don't stand up and say they won't allow it.
 

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You can also complain to the advertisers in the newspaper and on their website.
 

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Sometimes it's so frustrating reading these op-ed pieces or hearing the lies people spout about breastfeeding on messageboards. It can feel like one step forward and two steps back. I'm just having a crummy day today anyway so I think this is bothering me much more than it ordinarily would.
 

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It sounds like he really doesn't understand the following points:<br><br>
- just how often infants need to eat, and how hard it is to predict. Her baby is 2 months old. At that age they go from sleepy to hungry VERY QUICKLY.<br><br>
- what is entailed in bringing a bottle.<br><br>
- the fact that historically and biologically this is how we're built to feed our children, and the whole idea of it as a private or shameful activity is relatively recent.
 

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I am thinking of sending this letter<br><br>
Charles,<br>
I am wondering why you, a writer for the business section of the newspaper are writing about a subject that obviously gives you such apprehension and emotional trauma. It seems that you would have more emotional benefit from spending your time finding a therapist so that you could work on your own painfully obvious issues regarding other people's personal lives. The women who are feeding their children in the stores in which you shop and all of the other places that you frequent are not doing so to make you uncomfortable. They are feeding their children because that is a large part of what being a parent entails If they were to ignore their child's cries of hunger you would undoubtedly chastise them for disturbing your peace. I would from personal experience say that it is much more pleasant to be in close proximity to a baby nursing quietly than to a screaming baby for any period of time.<br>
I will not try to educate you about the laws concerning breastfeeding in our country, I am sure that you have researched this subject thoroughly and that you are aware that all but three states have laws protecting women from harassment while breastfeeding their child. I obviously do not have to point out the fact that the American Association of Pediatrics has recommended that all babies be breastfed, exclusively for the first six months of life. The AAP generally does not issue recommendations about such things lightly but, if you feel that you must take issue with their statement, I say go ahead. Please take the time out of your day to write a letter to the doctors at the AAP, I am sure that upon receiving your letter they will find it necessary to amend their stance on the benefits of breastfeeding. I suggest that you make sure that your letter clearly explains your disabilities, especially your inability to turn your head or avert your eyes from situations that make you uncomfortable.<br>
sincerely,<br>
laura ,<br><br>
what do you think?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I am thinking of sending this letter<br><br>
Charles,<br>
I am wondering why you, a writer for the business section of the newspaper are writing about a subject that obviously gives you such apprehension and emotional trauma. It seems that you would have more emotional benefit from spending your time finding a therapist so that you could work on your own painfully obvious issues regarding other people's personal lives. The women who are feeding their children in the stores in which you shop and all of the other places that you frequent are not doing so to make you uncomfortable. They are feeding their children because that is a large part of what being a parent entails If they were to ignore their child's cries of hunger you would undoubtedly chastise them for disturbing your peace. I would from personal experience say that it is much more pleasant to be in close proximity to a baby nursing quietly than to a screaming baby for any period of time.<br>
I will not try to educate you about the laws concerning breastfeeding in our country, I am sure that you have researched this subject thoroughly and that you are aware that all but three states have laws protecting women from harassment while breastfeeding their child. I obviously do not have to point out the fact that the American <b>Association</b> of Pediatrics has recommended that all babies be breastfed, exclusively for the first six months of life. The AAP generally does not issue recommendations about such things lightly but, if you feel that you must take issue with their statement, I say go ahead. Please take the time out of your day to write a letter to the doctors at the AAP, I am sure that upon receiving your letter they will find it necessary to amend their stance on the benefits of breastfeeding. I suggest that you make sure that your letter clearly explains your disabilities, especially your inability to turn your head or avert your eyes from situations that make you uncomfortable.<br>
sincerely,<br>
laura ,<br><br>
what do you think?</div>
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Good letter! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
One minor correction: the bolded word should be "Academy."
 

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Great letter PPM-I especially like the part about his "disability" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Thanks for the correction, too bad we don't have 'annoying title' correction on our computers...<br>
laura
 
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