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Discussion Starter · #1 ·
I'm a list person by nature, I REALLY am. I'm anal. So I'm making lists here at 38 weeks for everything, just in case. And instructions for MIL and DH who both take instruction well, but only if I remember to give it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
So, please tell me what, if anything, I'm forgetting...<br><br>
Keep in mind that it's all lining up wrong on here b/c I have it lined up perfectly in my works document <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~<br><b>Emergency back up birth plan for hospital</b><br>
Birth Plan / Consent and non-consent<br><br>
We acknowledge that any or all of the following preferences may be affected by the specific circumstances that have forced us to seek emergency obstetrical care. We further understand that in the face of these unknown factors, it is especially necessary that flexibility, compassion, and mutual respect be maintained between us and the medical staff assisting us.<br><br>
SONYIA ****** / KRISTOPHER *******<br><br><br>
Vaginal Delivery:<br>
· I would rather tear than have an episiotomy<br>
· I would like a minor first degree tear to be left alone, not repaired<br>
· I would like my baby on my chest as soon as he is delivered, without being touched or cleaned by medical staff, unless there is a life-threatening emergency… all weighing and measuring can be delayed 1 hour<br><br>
Cesarean Delivery:<br>
· I would like my husband to announce the gender if possible<br>
· I would like to nurse as soon as possible after delivery, within 1 hour<br>
· I would prefer a spinal/epidural over general anesthesia if time permits<br>
· My husband will be with baby at all times<br>
· I would prefer a double layer suture to a single layer<br><br><br>
For Mother, I DO NOT CONSENT TO:<br>
· the umbilical cord being CLAMPED or CUT before the placenta is delivered. My husband will clamp AND cut when WE feel it is right.<br>
· an injection of PITOCIN to "aide" the placenta delivery<br>
· any help at all to deliver the placenta--cord traction, uterine massage, etc unless there are true signs of a hidden hemorrhage<br><br>
We will provide a container for the placenta AND cord, to be taken home with us.<br><br>
For Baby, I DO NOT CONSENT TO:<br>
· Vitamin K injection<br>
· Eye drops<br>
· any kind of suction (bulb or otherwise) of his mouth/nose during or after the birth, unless there are signs of severe respiratory distress several minutes after the birth (THIS INCLUDES a birth with meconium aspiration concerns)<br>
· Hepatitis B vaccination, or any other vaccination<br>
· blood sugar heel prick<br>
· formula or pacifiers<br>
· circumcision<br><br>
Please do not bathe my baby or wash him off. We will gently wipe off any blood ourselves.<br>
We would like to go home as soon as I am able, barring health problems which require hospital treatment<br><br>
Thank you for reading this and working with us to respect our wishes<br><br><br>
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~<br><b>Emergency transfer bag... most things will be packed, a few will need to be thrown in</b> (I'm going with the "If I don't do it, I'll need it... but if I do it, I won't need it" philosophy because that's how my life works)<br><br>
PACK BAG WITH:<br><br>
· Jesus was Breastfed onesie and cotton hat<br>
· ContractEase Tincture<br>
· Toothbrush and toothpaste<br>
· Hair Brush<br>
· Green deodorant<br>
· Thick black hair ties<br>
· Contact lens case, glasses, saline<br>
· 3 pairs clean underwear<br>
· 1 pink nursing bra, if I’m not wearing it already<br>
· 3 pairs No-nonsense socks<br>
· Birth plan / prenatal history<br>
· Camera with SD card and batteries<br><br><br>
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~<br><br><b>And the Big Check List, for DH and MIL</b><br><br><span style="text-decoration:underline;">When Labor Starts</span><br><br><br>
1. Red Raspberry Leaf Tea<br>
· Put 4 spoonfuls in coffee pot and fill pot for 8 cups. Brew. Serve HOT.<br><br>
2. Preparing in the bedroom<br>
· Take comforter and pillows off bed<br>
· Unfold shower curtain liner and center on mattress (on TOP of bed sheets)<br>
· Add red silk bed sheet over top of other sheets & liner<br><br>
3. Put 4 clean towels in dryer, but do not start dryer until pushing starts.<br><br>
4. Put any dead/dying batteries in charger and make sure SD card is in camera, not laptop<br><br>
5. Wash cloth prep<br>
· Bring crock pot to nightstand that is on the side of the bathroom<br>
· Make sure to plug it in BEHIND the mattress<br>
· Fill ¾ full with water and add 1-2 cups Olive Oil<br>
· Fill with several clean wash cloths, as many as will fit below water level<br>
· Put on lid and set crock pot to “low”<br><br>
6. WATER / Food<br>
· Make sure I have water at all times<br>
· Encourage me to drink water occasionally (not DURING a contraction, please)<br>
· Encourage me to pee about once an hour<br>
· Offer light snacks occasionally… if I refuse but am tired, give me:<br>
1 spoonful straight honey--the RAW honey from Omega GA<br>
K2O protein water, ½ pack to 1 glass of water<br><br>
7. Lighting / music / comfort<br>
· Find a lighter that works and bring it to the bathroom<br>
· Move black lamp to bathroom if that is where I am laboring<br>
· Laptop and power cord wherever I am… pull up iTunes & contractionmaster<br>
· If I am wearing glasses, please bring me saline and contact lenses<br><br>
8. Things to keep in mind<br>
· Please keep the lighting & talking low, and silent during contractions<br>
· Please do not try to ask me questions during a contraction<br>
· Please do not ask me how much longer I think I have to go<br>
· TRANSITION: I will say things like<br>
· “I’m dying”<br>
· “I can’t do this anymore”<br>
· “It hurts too bad”<br>
· “I’m tired of this”<br>
· “I want an epidural / a c-section / to die”<br>
· PLEASE DO NOT suggest transporting for this.<br>
· Reassure me that I am getting close.<br>
· Please do not suggest calling 911, help, or going to the hospital at any point.<br>
· I will know if and when it’s time to do so. I will not be wishy-washy.<br>
· If I am wishy-washy, that’s transition and I just need emotional support.<br><br>
9. JAKE<br>
· Normal schedule:<br>
· Wake up 730 AM<br>
· B-fast 8AM: 2-3 eggs + 1 banana + ½ sippy cup Goat’s milk<br>
· Water in another sippy cup, filled as needed throughout day<br>
· Nap around 11-12, sometimes 1PM<br>
· Lunch right after nap: Vegetable and meat (canned ok, Ravioli ok)<br>
· Snacks throughout afternoon (cereal on white tray, or fruit)<br>
· Dinner around 6 or 7PM, leftovers or veggies or meats<br>
· Sleep any time between 8 and 10PM<br>
· Diapers:<br>
· If I don’t have any disposables, use cloth<br>
Middle shelf, not bottom shelf… or diaper bag<br>
All fitted diapers (soft on outside) require a COVER<br>
· If you feel comfortable, you may let him go bottomless and remind him to potty about every 20-30 minutes on the clear potty. Make sure it is in plain sight in the living room.<br>
· Play:<br>
· It is OK for Jake to play in the backyard naked/barefoot<br>
· It is OK for Jake to play with the pots and pans in the kitchen<br>
· …and the broom/mop/dustpan<br>
· …and the bottom two drawers under the sink<br>
· Jake loves the Shark sweeper and can turn it on/off himself<br>
· PLEASE keep the bathroom doors closed!!!<br>
· Jake should NOT play with: big vacuum cleaner, trash can, toilet, or climbing on kitchen chairs or barstools<br>
· If Jake needs a bath, towels are in laundry room, use CA Baby soap<br><br><br><br><span style="text-decoration:underline;">When Pushing Starts</span><br><br><br>
1. Make sure<br>
· Video camera is plugged in<br>
· Lamp is turned on<br>
· Camera has A FRESH SET OF BATTERIES, even if current ones not low<br>
· Small pot of water set to boil sewing scissors… boil 10 minutes then turn off<br><br>
2. Add throw blanket to dryer (with towels) and turn on high heat<br><br>
3. JAKE<br>
· If Jake is okay being in the birth room, he can stay in there and watch<br>
· Otherwise, someone needs to play with Jake in the bedroom / living room until baby is about to be born or has already been born<br>
· In this case, make sure camera is on tripod and filming<br>
· Other than myself and Kris, I would like Jake to be the first person to touch the new baby<br><br><br>
4. Things to keep in mind<br>
· Please do not count or otherwise coach me during pushing<br>
· Please help me change positions or move rooms if I need it<br>
· If I am on hands and knees, I need you (Kris) to catch<br>
· DO NOT pull/tug/move the baby, just let him fall into your hands<br>
· If any part of the head, body, or cord comes up above the water, go ahead and bring the rest of his body above the water. Otherwise leave him submerged<br>
· If submerged, hand him to me between my legs<br>
· If above water, I will turn over for you to place him on my chest<br>
· Cord around neck: slip over head when it is out. If not loose enough, leave alone<br>
· Baby may take several minutes to breathe<br>
· If I have a hard time delivering placenta, suggest emptying my bladder<br><br><br><span style="text-decoration:underline;">Postpartum</span><br><br>
1. Feed the Mother!!! And get her something other than water to drink!<br><br>
2. Laundry<br>
· All sheets, if used<br>
· All used towels<br>
· All used and unused wash cloths<br><br>
3. Trash, if any, out to big trash can<br><br>
4. Postpartum pads are under master bathroom sink<br><br>
5. Bring me the laptop so I can upload / update everyone and pull up the phone list<br><br>
6. Before anything else placenta-wise, coat the baby side of placenta (tree-cord side) with blood and “stamp” it on the blank white canvas, to one side (with room for another print)<br><br>
7. The maternal side of the placenta (side w/o cord) needs to be cut up and made into a smoothie with strawberries, milk, and bananas.<br><br>
8. Visitors<br>
· No visitors the first 24 hours<br>
· After that, no visitors for longer than 30 minutes at a time<br><br><br>
Anything else?

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Wow... Sounds pretty good! Sounds like you know what you want! I'm a list person too... DH is always making fun of my gazillion lists. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">

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For the emergency hospital stuff, put no sugar water along with no formula and paci's.... here in the south, they WANT to feed your baby. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><br><br>
For the homebirth prep- make mention of where any supplies might be. I kept a basket with emergency stuff and thermometer in it next to the tub. Actually it had pretty much everything in it- measuring tape, dental tape, scissors, goldenseal, shepherd's purse, rescue remedy, bulb syringe, etc. It was handy to carry over to the bed later.<br><br>
I also really recommend a heating pad to wrap baby's clothes and a hat in to warm. Saves running back to the dryer again. I turned it on next to the bed when I got into the tub. That way I could wrap baby in warm clothes/blanket and tuck the heating pad in bed with us. Of course, it's not winter now either! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
I'm a list person too- looks good!<br><br>

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Discussion Starter · #4 ·
LOL yeah, I have everything in one spot already, and I mean everything (including specific towels)<br><br>
Of course, I realized today that I don't have scissors that I can sterilize... I just have regular cheapo paper scissors w/ plastic handles! Need to get a pair of metal ones LOL.<br><br>
I'll add the glucose water thing though--they tried giving it to DS even though his heel pricks were all fine. They stole him a lot during our stay, and once when he hadn't come back in 2-3 hours DH went to get him and the nurse said "Oh... he's BREASTfed???? Ooooh.... uh..." yes, you couldn't read the HUGE SIGN right next to his head???

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Wow, you are very organized!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">

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WOW! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> You are so prepared. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">

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Discussion Starter · #8 ·
Yeah and I didn't need any of it either <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> but if I hadn't done it, I would've needed it!

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> yep, that's how it always goes!

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unless your dh knows a lot about laundry, you may want to give him specific written dh felt like he was cleaning up a grusome crime scene. anyhow, despite my written instructions he forgot to clean out the lint trap which about 3 days after the birth i looked in it and found lots of gunk (not just lint but ummmm....well...dried up blood and tissue)<br><br>
overall. he did a great job <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> for the cleanup expecially considering his "weak stomach"<br><br>
he had to wash the sleeping bags like 3 times each...but if he would have followed my specific instructions it may have been earier.<br>
oh, and during the whole laundry process he used an ENTIRE bottle of concentrated Bi-o-Kleen i am sure he didn't read the instructions on that <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry"><br><br><br>
your list is AWESOME!!!! one of the most thorough i've ever seen =)

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Good list! I would make absolutely sure to bring one backup camera, though, even if it's just a disposable with a flash. Our digital camera worked wonderfully up until I was actually giving birth. Luckily, we had my DSLR, but my husband didn't know how to use it so the photos came out really blurry. You wouldn't want to find out as soon as you tried to use it that the camera wasn't working for some reason. There are no second chances.

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How thorough! I'd saving this to my favorites, to suggest to people who want to do an "in case of transfer" plan. How through!

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I should make one of these, too. Thanks for posting!
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