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I'm having some trouble with this. First of all, my daughter has severe language delay <i>and</i> SPD (which causes her NOT to want to make eye contact). The language delay makes it necessary to *make* her look at my face/mouth when I'm speaking to her, particularly when it's an instructive moment. The SPD makes it very stressful for her.<br><br>
So, my problem is that I feel like I <i>need</i> to require her to look at me, for lots and lots of reasons, not the least of which is that she really needs to in order to progress in her language, but I feel so so so awful physically turning her face toward me. I do it as gently as I can, but very often it's just a horrible sad moment. I try getting between her and whatever it is that she's looking at; I try getting as close to her as possible (without scaring the sh*t out of her); I try picking her up and holding her close to me. Each of these works some of the time, but nothing really is consistent.<br><br>
Does anyone have any experience with this kind of thing? I mean, how do you *force* (I know, I know, I know, this is an awful word) your kiddo to do something that is so necessary?
So, my problem is that I feel like I <i>need</i> to require her to look at me, for lots and lots of reasons, not the least of which is that she really needs to in order to progress in her language, but I feel so so so awful physically turning her face toward me. I do it as gently as I can, but very often it's just a horrible sad moment. I try getting between her and whatever it is that she's looking at; I try getting as close to her as possible (without scaring the sh*t out of her); I try picking her up and holding her close to me. Each of these works some of the time, but nothing really is consistent.<br><br>
Does anyone have any experience with this kind of thing? I mean, how do you *force* (I know, I know, I know, this is an awful word) your kiddo to do something that is so necessary?