i take my children to our family dentist. have been seeing her for 7 plus years. my children had first appointment a age 2.5 years old. she is very gentle and patient. we live in los altos. i can give you her name if you are intersted. i have a name of a ped dentist but haven't needed to use her. she is in mountain view or los altos.
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My dentist is in San Jose, just north of Campbell on Moorpark. I really like him and esp the dental hygentists there. Last visit (at ~32 weeks) they took a lot of extra time teaching me about newborn gum/teeth care and sent me home with a little package of info, charts and products - gum brush and cleaner for babies. It was most unexpected and I really appreciated it! Oh, the dentist name is Dave Ichimura
I can't vouch for their toddler care although I suspect it's as good as the treatment I've received.