We haven't said anything yet to our 3.5 year old son but have posed questions to him about it for more than a year now.
The biggest things for him are not to share his boobies and not to share his toys.
He stopped nursing on the right boob almost 2 years ago and we call it "attention boobie" because the poor thing needed attention to keep it the same size as the other lol. He mentioned once or twice that a new baby could have the attention boobie so that's good!
He had told me for about a month that he wanted a baby sister or a baby girl so he could put a purple ribbon in her hair. I thought this was really neat but knew it didn't necessarily mean anything. That was probably the icing on the cake for dh and I to knowingly do it one night a week ago when I knew I was ovulating lol!
Now when I ask him, as if he senses it or something, he says he doesn't need a baby anymore. So I'm wondering if this is a preview of things to come.
I have this big dream of him really being into the pregnancy, loving to feel my belly and weeping with joy when his sibling is born lol!! Yeah right eh?
Any of the only children out there around the same age or even not, really like seeing babies? My little guy has been fascinated with them for a while now. When we see one, he stares and gets very bashful and embarrassed when we catch him looking. If it's a social situation, he'll kneel by the baby and basically just stay with them. I don't think he ever once talked to a baby. It's like he doesn't know what to say or do
At the park a few weeks ago the 1 year old brother of his friend started wandering off and he was the first one to be like "Danny is running away!!!!" and extremely concerned about it.
So things like that make me excited.... But the sad goes with the good. My heart aches thinking about what will happen when attention is shifted. I think we all try our best to not let it happen but I see it outwardly in a particular family member and I pray that I don't turn out that way.
The little one who's 2 can do ABSOLUTELY NO WRONG, yet the very slightest thing the 5 year old does that rubs either parent the wrong way, she's being sent to sit on the step. Just heartbreaking.
I guess we can do all the right things but need to expect some (or a lot) of behavior like what we're afraid of and what's been happening to some of you. It's just another part of the natural process that we love for the most part
I think we need to figure out how to embrace it is all. We can love natural childbirth no matter how much it hurts so this has to be the same right!?
Take care all,