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My son has been saying for months he would "stop nursing on my four birthday." Well, that was yesterday. So far he has gotten sad a few times when he has asked to nurse. I have gently reminded him of what he said before. One time he started crying. I told him it is hard to stop nursing -- he has been doing it ever since he was born. Now he uses those words which seems to help him not get upset. So far, he has had one real melt down, but I think it was a combination of not getting to nurse this morning and also not getting chocolate birthday cake for breastfast.<br><br>
I wish to honor his previous need to set this declaration up -- I also would like to honor my feelings that this phase in our life should be over. But I still feel sad he is grieving -- and I am sure that is what it is. How come no one ever talks about that?<br><br>
I also feel our last nursing session Monday night was rather anti-climatic -- not one I can look back on and say, "Oh, that was our last one..." I am feeling such a mix of emotions! Maybe I am feeling grief, too? But I really think he needs a little push with this, just as he has needed in many other areas of his life regarding new behaviors, experiences, etc.<br><br>
I need support and to hear from other moms who have been here. Why doesn't anyone talk about the grief?
 

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I think you are doing a wonderful job mothering this little guy and respecting him in this way. He is surely like you in his ablility to truly feel his emotions---- which is a great gift. I hope you can continue to know you made a decision together and are keeping it together. Sure it's difficult but like you said, many transitions and changes are.<br>
Honestly when my ds stopped it was so gradual that he somehow forgot what he was doing when trying to latch on. sounds strange, but true, he was 2 and 2 mo. and i remember it but not with strong emotion. just was glad it was easy.<br>
so, i cannot truly relate but do commend you for honoring his feelings and yet being a strong guide.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/jammin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jammin"><br>
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