lovely

I hope it gets cleared up soon!

That's theft (identity theft?). Personally, family or not I'd be calling the police on said brother. Sorry, but if any family member screwed me like that I would have no sympathy (mainly because if anyone needed money all they would have to do is ask and I'd give them anything I could spare). I definately don't think you guys should have to pay it. Does STBX's brother know that you guys know? Is he willing to fork over the money to pay it? I guess I'd be asking him that first, if he says he's not going to pay it then I'd be going to the police with it.

(On a side note ex's sister was actually in jail last year for something eerily similar. She spent 90 days in jail. She should have been in longer but ex wouldn't tell the cops that she also stole his checkbook, forged his signature, and spent a couple hundred of his money)

stbx called police and he has to PROVE that he didn't get the card and didn't buy any of the stuff that ran up the bill.

i'm steamed. mainly because I still love stbx and he really doesn't need more stress. he has trouble handling normal stress levels much less this load of crap.

we're not sure exactly which brother did it. they live accross the state but one lived there for years and the other one only lived there for a few months so i dunno. I know one of them used to regularly give R's name out when he got stopped when he wasn't supposed to be driving. I discovered 2 speeding tickets (luckily just warnings) when me and R were together sans vehicle. I was quite confused until Robert confessed.

now we're going to have to get a copy of his credit report and make sure that's the only thing he did with stbx's ssn. ugh i can't believe his own family would do this! and these are the people he chose over me

What is the address the card was mailed to? Wouldn't that show which brother ordered the card? Ask the credit card company if they will put all the charges in dispute while the matter is being resolved. Call the credit bureaus Experian, Transunion, and Equifax and have a fraud alert placed on each credit report. That way you will not be held liable for future purchases. They may even notify you before any future credit can be taken out in your name. Get the police involved. Ask for copies of transactions from the credit card companies, they should be able to provide you with dates and locations.

Sorry mama, that is awful. I don't think they can intercept your tax refund. My ex had a credit card bill that he didn't pay for 5 years ($400 balance) and they never intercepted a refund of his, they just put it on his credit report.