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Would you or do you think it would be a good idea to lie about your LMP, so that when they figure out your due date, they will end up with a date a month later, so that nobody gets worried when we end up 43 weeks and still pregnant?<br><br>
I will have to see a doctor for the first part (state insurance requirement to get my baby covered without the headache of paperwork), but stopping going towards the end of my pregnancy to UC. I'm thinking that when I do get pregnant, I'll wait until I'm 10 weeks along then going in and telling him I *just* missed my period and my last one was 4 weeks ago, so that he'll assume I am 6 weeks along.<br><br>
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Any other ideas to get around the way they freak out on you if you carry past 42 weeks?
 

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If you're having a UC and not seeing a doctor towards the end of your pregnancy I don't see why it would be necessary to fudge the date of your LMP? For the actual due date I always just give a pretty wide range of dates: late April/early May, for example.<br><br>
I dunno, i could be wrong but i am pretty sure if you're receiving prenatal care they will pick up on the fact that you are further along than you claim.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug">
 

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Right, if you are getting care from an OB, they are going to figure your dates based on size and ultrasounds anyway, not really LMP.
 

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This time around, I fudged it by week. I knew that I ovulated a week later than normal for me and no way was I going to be told I was overdue later on when I wasn't. And then with it being twins, not for OB to assume I was further along than I was. Not that it's really mattered this time as I'm now doing UP from now on.
 

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if you OB does an internal exam he/she will be able to feel the size of your uterus and notice there is a difference in the size vs the date and then they might want an U/S. i would just tell the truth!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">if you OB does an internal exam he/she will be able to feel the size of your uterus and notice there is a difference in the size vs the date and then they might want an U/S.</div>
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THEY REACH INSIDE AND <i>FEEL THE SIZE</i> FOR DATES???!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/jaw2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jaw2"><br><br>
Another reason I'd have to be nine tenths dead before an sOB would come near me... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: There are so many things wrong with that; I don't know where to start. Please, someone post that this is NOT true!
 

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That's just one way it's done, but it's rare. Now they usually use U/S for dating.<br><br>
I wouldn't fudge the date more than 1 - 2 weeks.
 

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Tishia, I would do the paperwork and take something for the headache. Honestly, there is just no way I would submit to an internal exam or an ultrasound without serious cause. I also wouldn't endenture myself to an sOB, so lying about LMP would be completely unecessary. But that's just me. Our ds3 is 16 months old and his paperwork is still not completed. The gov't doesn't know what to do with it so it keeps being passed around and sent back, reissued with new requests, etc... but I'd rather do that than deal with any of this.<br><br>
Here nobody is turned away for emergency care though, regardless of coverage, so if that's not the case for you, I understand why you'd jump through the proverbial hoops. In your case, I'd just tell them the right dates since you'll be at home by then and preparing for UC anyway, right?
 

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Mmmm....that may not work since they can estimate your due date when they do an ultrasound in office, which they did with me on my first visit. As far as I know you don't have to give a reason why you stop your visits and many docs would assume you found another OB. That way there would be no dishonesty involved. I decided to go to a midwife when I got to be about 6 months along and didn't have to explain myself at all. Good luck to you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Thanks for all the replies. Hmmm, I have lots to think about. By the way, I'm on the 2WW! (crossing fingers)
 

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YES! I have learned this this hard way!<br><br>
I did a UP up until the 6th month when I got curious and started seeing a midwife. I don't know what the crap's going on but I'm somewhere between 2 and 4 weeks past due! My midwife had to ditch me and if I don't lie when I go in to the hospital to get tests done they threaten to induce me (even though the baby's fine). They all think I'm a couple of days past due and say the baby is doing great, but as soon as I get to 41 weeks (that they know of) they will start threatening induction. It's pointless!<br><br>
Plus, I'm having to avoid my friends and family because of the constant worried comments and questions. If I had known then what I knew now I would've given myself an extra month!<br><br>
LEARN FROM MY MISTAKE!!!<br><br>
Kristi
 

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The only problem I can see with it is when you start "measuring big". It's going to be an onslaught of "neccessary tests" and interventions that could easily ruin your birthing plans.<br><br>
Now if you know your conception date or your ovulation date is beyond that of the standard 14 days into your cycle I say refigure and go off that. That could possibly be more accurate anyway. But a whole month ahead is going to cause for some discrepencies in sizeing and they will notice and they will try scare tactics etc.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">The only problem I can see with it is when you start "measuring big". It's going to be an onslaught of "neccessary tests" and interventions that could easily ruin your birthing plans.<br><br>
Now if you know your conception date or your ovulation date is beyond that of the standard 14 days into your cycle I say refigure and go off that. That could possibly be more accurate anyway. But a whole month ahead is going to cause for some discrepencies in sizeing and they will notice and they will try scare tactics etc.</div>
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That is true.
 

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Another idea would be to say "No thanks, I don't want an ultrasound". No one can force you to have one for dating, even if you are measuring large. And since you are not planning to complete care, it won't matter anyway.<br><br>
Now lying to FAMILY is a whole nother issue and I would HIGHLY recommend it if you think they will freak out. The doctors office is less likely to be fooled by such a large difference. But maybe.<br><br>
I did lie to my OB twice about my LMP because I know I ovulate late and my dates were always off. The first time that happened I had the AFP test and it came back with bad markers....because MY due date was right and not theirs. Pushed me back 2 weeks and when you are already large and pregnant someone telling you that you are due two weeks later than they thought is enough to send you into hysterical bawling fits.<br><br>
And my OB NEVER stuck her hand inside of me to feel for dates. She palpated the outside of my belly and did a pap at the beginning, but never felt inside my body for my uterus. ICK!!!!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Another idea would be to say "No thanks, I don't want an ultrasound". No one can force you to have one for dating, even if you are measuring large. And since you are not planning to complete care, it won't matter anyway.<br><br>
Now lying to FAMILY is a whole nother issue and I would HIGHLY recommend it if you think they will freak out. The doctors office is less likely to be fooled by such a large difference. But maybe.<br><br>
I did lie to my OB twice about my LMP because I know I ovulate late and my dates were always off. The first time that happened I had the AFP test and it came back with bad markers....because MY due date was right and not theirs. Pushed me back 2 weeks and when you are already large and pregnant someone telling you that you are due two weeks later than they thought is enough to send you into hysterical bawling fits.<br><br>
And my OB NEVER stuck her hand inside of me to feel for dates. She palpated the outside of my belly and did a pap at the beginning, but never felt inside my body for my uterus. ICK!!!!</div>
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With my midwife it was always an ultimatum. Either I went along with the u/s, NST, cervical check, etc. or she could no longer be my midwife. I know its all state regulated, but even though I had a choice, nothing was really an option unless I wanted to go back to a UP or be referred to an OB.<br><br>
I was able to refuse quite a bit of tests with my midwife (in her defense) but if I measured large, the midwife couldn't tell if the baby was breech or I went past my due date I suddenly had to have all this outside interference.<br><br>
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I would absolutely do the paperwork and deal with the headache. No question.
 
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