[Piglet68]

I just recently read "The schools our children deserve" by alfie kohn and you should really read it. its not just about schooling, but the way it affects children and he even talks about how the over-focussing on rewards can lead kids to feel like they have to cheat.

as for lying about everything else....do you use punishment with him? this is a natural incentive to lie (i should know - i spent most of my teens lying about where i was, who i was with, etc)...

what is stbx?

 

[Piglet68]

Wow, K. Sounds like your son has a whole lot of emotional stuff on his plate for such a young child.

Professional help is good. Definitely sounds like he could have some depression or something going on. I suggest you just read every good GD book you can get your hands on, and try different ideas until you come across something that works for you.