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I've decied to swith my provider from the midwives at the local birth center to a family practice Dr. This is so hard because I really wated to do a water birth....but one of the MW just isn't working for me and the kicker is that they have an 8 hr limit on pp stays, something <b>I'm 100% not comfortable with</b> in my living situation (too far from hospital for emergencies, big stairs, demands of caring for dd#1, etc).<br><br>
Anyway, not sure what else to say, just feeling sad that my options are so limited.
 

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i'm sorry your choices are limited. mine are here too. i am extremely grateful that we are moving now because i'm not forced to go from one crappy DR to another crappy DR and i won't have to deliver at our local hospital, that is just a scary place. there is one MW in our area, but she is super expensive and pretty much sticks to home births ( which i'd be ok with if we were near a hospital that i actually trusted). i know how you feel.<br><br>
i went home 24 hrs after my delivery, i was ready to go, but i needed that time. i can appreciate you not wanting to go home within 8 hrs. hopefully your family practice DR will work for you in a way the MW wasn't. it sounds like you made a decision that will benefit you all.
 

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It sounds like you made the decision that will work best for your family. I hope you have a wonderful experience!
 

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I'm sorry your choices are so limited! But it sounds like you're making the best decision for you & your family. I wouldn't be comfortable knowing I had to leave w/in 8hrs after birth either!!
 

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Whew, glad to know that I'm not being crazy on that one. I feel like such a chicken for not being more optimistic, tons of my friends have used this place and love it. I know in my head that my Birth Center is a safe (debatably safer) birth option and that the hospital is only a few miles away JIC, but a few minutes can be big diference in an emergency situation and after the birth I feel that 8 hrs is too soon for the baby and I to be w/o medical supervision.
 

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Simone (I love your name, BTW!) . . .I think I've come to the conclusion that, as with most parenting decisions, all we can do is research, reflect, act, and then hope for the best.<br><br>
My DD was born with an OB in a hospital setting. I got to have the drug-free birth I wanted, but it wasn't all warm and fuzzy. This time, I'll still be in a hospital, but I'm going the MW route. I keep wondering (just because it's a different hospital, different practitioner, different birth!) how things will go and if I made the right decision. No matter how much I wonder, I just won't know until I actually have the birth experience.<br><br>
It's not easy to have so much trust for something so important, which is one of the reasons I admire the UC mamas. Even though I am not comfortable with that route, I appreciate all the research, education, and trust in <i>themselves</i>. I think if we can all bring that to our birth experience, we will have done our best.
 

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Leaving 8 hours after you have a water birth? I know that there often might now be any reason to stay longer, BUT, I would be a little apprehensive about leaving so soon, too. No good reason, really.<br>
But- if you are following your gut- I say that you made a good decision, period! I hope you have a great experience. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I am very limited in insurance options. There are no midwives accepted by my insurance unless I am willing to drive about 45+ minutes away. Kind of depressing. I had an unspeakably wonderful midwife for the birth of my first son (in another state), and am sad to be in a blah-doctor-hospital thing this time. I ~could~ pay out of pocket for what I want, or I ~could~ drive 45 minutes for every appt. but with my 16 month old son and without a friend to leave him with b/c I'm new to the area- that is hard. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Well, good luck to you and congratulations on following your gut!<br>
allie
 
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