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is there anywhere on mothering that deals specifially with male infertility.<br><br>
We have 1 dd that is 16 months, to create her dh had to go thru multiple tests and a surgery. We are praying that is not the case this time....BUT we don't know if it is a sperm issue since he has not gone to have it tested again. I am so frustrated with him right now. My hormones are crazy and he jsut doesn't want to go for the test. I know it is not the most pleasant but it could really help rule out any big issues.<br><br>
I work each month to time and such and he can't even go for the testing. Just getting VERY angry with him but I don't want to harp on him.<br><br>
FYI he had an appointment with a urologist (one who did the surgery) on 4/25 but I think he is going to cancel or postpone it till he has 1-2 results back. Well that just put us back one or 2 months.<br><br>
Thanks for listening. Sometimes I wish I had more contol over the issues. I wanted our children to be close in age and I can't even manage that.
 

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Yeah, we deal with severe male factor, too. It is so hard knowing that I don't have control over the situation and over the body involved in the situation. Pregnancies have done wonders for my own fertility, but alas, they do nothing to change my dh's body <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> I really feel for you, because I know that I'm anxious when I want things to pick up the pace, and it can be so difficult when your partner isn't feeling the same things at the same time as you, and when he is the one who needs to be a major player in getting the medical issues under control. The stress of the treatments and the stress of me on the emotional rollercoaster were very big for my dh, and like many American men, he just has a lot of issues with doctors poking around his reproductive organs (pity these guys don't get to experience childbirth, IUIs, and those other things that have made me barely care a bit about who is examining and seeing me letting it all hang out).<br><br>
I don't really know what to say about your situation. My dh had very few sperm with very bad parameters the first time we conceived. We used a donor that time, and when we wanted to conceive again, we went back through the various options--a one time shot at IVF/ICSI that would wipe out our future attempts financially, trying to improve his sperm, DI again. He ended up seeing a homeopath and started on a constitutional remedy. We didn't have an SA done before that, so we don't know what we were starting with, but a little over three months after he started his remedy, his count was zero. We did a repeat, and it was still zero, so we proceeded with DI again. The third time around, I couldn't get him to get an SA done--not sure what the deal was. And now I'm hoping to persuade him to get one done again, if not for purposes of conceiving again so that I don't always have my hopes up that a "miracle" is going to occur and I'll get pregnant naturally, at least so he knows what his own health issues are. So far, his situation is unexplained. He's been to two urologists and had a standard workup which doesn't show anything hormonally off or structurally abnormal; the mystery of it all is very frustrating for both of us.<br><br>
Anyway, I'm a bit of a type A myself, and I believe in the power to create your own reality to a certain extent, and male infertility is one place where me applying myself more, trying harder, and believing in change isn't going to change the body of another person. I've had to accept on some level that my own hormonal imperative isn't his, and that he doesn't deal with the infertility the same way that I do, so I've had to learn patience, which has not been an easy lesson for me.<br><br>
Nancy<br>
Mom to Walt and Ollie 7/29/98<br>
Frances 9/28/01<br>
Rutledge 2/18/05
 

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There is just the general infertility board. And there are lots of us that have some degree or another of male factor.<br><br>
As for him not wanting to deal with going to get tested...tell him to suck it up. If all he has to do is get a sperm analysis - well...he gets an orgasm out of the deal. Certainly can't say that about ANY of our tests. And even if they have to check the equipment....still less than an HSG or even a pap smear. :LOL
 

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has anyone DH count gotten worse over the years,<br>
My DH was low but we concieved our son naturally after a year, well I have been wanting to wait awhile before we start trying agian but wanted DH to get a count check just in case we need to get a move on if things are going down hill, of course he has always been in complete denial over it all,<br>
At least we have our beautiful son, so whatever happens from here will be OK <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 
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