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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/carrot.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="carrot"> yay jessica! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/carrot.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="carrot"><br><br>
* how did you meet your husband (i know i use this question all the time but i looove hearing these answers! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
* can you tell us a little bit about how you became an interfaith minister?<br>
* do you have any gut feelings about the sex of your little sprout?<br><br>
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* can you talk about your decision to unschool/homeschool your daughters?
 

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* have you started nesting yet and how?<br>
* what are you eating the most these days? (sorry, food is ALWAYS on my mind <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> )<br>
* who will be at the birth with you?
 

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Oh, Sweet! (as our teen friends say...)<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I haven't been around today...although it would have been CHEAPER to just stay home. Dd1 needed a new gymnastics outfit and new jods and a shirt for horseback riding. I'm still choking over the receipts...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
We're off to dinner right now, but I'll be back this evening to answer some of these questions.<br><br>
How exciting!
 

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What is your favorite thing to do on the weekend?<br><br>
What are you most looking forward to with this child?
 

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What are your greastest joys as a mama?<br><br>
What are your biggest challenges as a mama?
 

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Can't think of any questions at the moment, but wanted to sub to see what you have to say later. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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* how did you meet your husband (i know i use this question all the time but i looove hearing these answers! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"></div>
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This is good time cuz dh and I are soo irritated with one another right now...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> It's good to walk down memory lane and remember how we fell in love.<br><br>
We were both members of the 2nd class of the AmeriCorps*National Civilian Community Corps, in Denver, 1995-1996. People sometimes call it the "domestic Peace Corps" and that's the easiest way to describe it. It's a residential service/volunteer program.<br><br>
Dh's team-mate was dating my suite-mate and we became friends. He was interested in one of my team-mates and I thought they would be great together!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> She was hesitant to be more than friends, though.<br><br>
Over President's day weekend, I kind of invited myself along with dh and some of his friends on a road trip to Santa Fe, NM. On the drive down there, we were stopping at a historical site or something and I watched him get out of the car and forgot to breathe because he looked so gorgeous! The thought and feeling really surprised me! Apparently, he had a similar experience...and we fell under the spell of "the land of enchantment" (NM's slogan<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ) when we got down to Santa Fe.<br><br>
We returned to Denver to find that my team-mate had had a change of heart and wanted to date dh...but, he was already head over heels in love with me<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">: and we've been together ever since...
 

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Let's see... The director of my seminary always says "Blessed are the brief!" You all know by now that's not my strong point...<br><br>
I was raised Catholic, but in a very fear-based, punitive way. I left home with a lot of pain and anger around that. I was pretty "anti-religion" for awhile. When I was in college, I met a grad student who said she was an interfaith minister and I went: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/headscratch.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="headscratch"><br><br>
She invited me to join an interfaith women's spirituality group that she was facilitating. It literally changed my life and opened my heart in so many ways. Such an amazing experience...to learn about the spiritual journeys of women from so many different paths...and to find that we could connect so deeply across very different beliefs...<br><br>
The group journey stayed with me after I graduated, but I sort-of "forgot" about the interfaith minister thing.<br><br>
I took some career aptitude tests and "minister" was the first thing on each list. Being a Catholic girl, I thought that was pretty funny and basically disregarded it.<br><br>
A couple years later, I was a mom and a new sahm after woh for a few months. Things were really stressful and money was really tight. I don't remember what I was looking for or doing online, but somehow I found the website of what would become my seminary. It sparked my interest, but I didn't see how it would be possible to go...<br><br>
Around the same time, dh applied and was accepted into a program where the military would pay for and give him time off to complete his master's degree in exchange for a teaching tour at the academy. He then applied to grad schools...and was accepted into one in the same city as the seminary!<br><br>
I couldn't resist the pull and the "coincidence." I felt that I was being called to be a "bridge-builder" and a "peace-maker" in this hurting world of ours. I applied and was accepted into the seminary. And, the rest is history!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">* do you have any gut feelings about the sex of your little sprout?</div>
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Well, I was absolutely, positively sure I was having another girl and was very excited about having 3 dds! Then, we decided to have an ultrasound last week and discovered that we're having a boy. It was quite a shock and I am still adjusting.
 

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Around the same time, dh applied and was accepted into a program where the military would pay for and give him time off to complete his master's degree in exchange for a teaching tour at the academy. He then applied to grad schools...and was accepted into one in the same city as the seminary!</div>
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Can you tell me more about this sometime (either here or via pm)? My dh really wants to go to seminary and become a chaplain with the Army, but we can't swing it financially for him to not make money for 3 years. Did the Army actually pay your dh while he was in school, or just pay for the schooling? DH has his undergrad already, but getting a master's of divinity will take 3 years and then he'd have to work for an organization/church somewhere for 2 years in a ministry position before he could go back active duty as a chaplain. All the while, he would have to be in the Reserves and could be called for deployment at any time, substantially increasing the amount of time this would all take. So, for now, it seems like an impossibility and he's settled with just being an officer. Anyway, sorry to steal your thread, but you made me curious.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Can you tell me more about this sometime (either here or via pm)? My dh really wants to go to seminary and become a chaplain with the Army, but we can't swing it financially for him to not make money for 3 years. Did the Army actually pay your dh while he was in school, or just pay for the schooling? DH has his undergrad already, but getting a master's of divinity will take 3 years and then he'd have to work for an organization/church somewhere for 2 years in a ministry position before he could go back active duty as a chaplain. All the while, he would have to be in the Reserves and could be called for deployment at any time, substantially increasing the amount of time this would all take. So, for now, it seems like an impossibility and he's settled with just being an officer. Anyway, sorry to steal your thread, but you made me curious.</div>
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Yes, yes, yes! Dh's programs were the same for all the branches (he's coast guard)...we know some people doing the same thing for west point. He's now in the phd program. Each time, he's remained active duty and been given a paid sabbatical to finish the degree (in addition to tuition). It's a fantastic program! The master's one only required 4 years of instruction at the academy and the phd one requires that dh retire there.<br><br>
Surely they have to have the same things for the chaplain programs!!! I mean, who else but active duty service members are going to know what it's really like?<br><br>
Dh says that your dh needs to make "new best friends" with the ESO and the chaplains in his unit. The Educational Service Officer is not always easy to find, because it's not a primary title, but rather someone's collateral duty...usually a junior officer. (Dh had this cd in his first unit and loved it!) Anyway, this person will have access to all of the military education programs and be able to guide your dh through the entire process. The chaplains will be great advocates and also be able to connect dh with the specific programs, etc.<br><br>
Yes, he can do it! Go for it! Please keep me posted. I get so excited about things like this. Tell your dh to follow his bliss. The military is using him to their best and fullest advantage...and he should do likewise.
 

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OHH your DD rides!! since she is in jods I know it is English.. what discipline? how long has she been riding? does she compete? jump? pony or horse? (man I MISS riding sooooo much..) and NEVER miss an opportunity to talk "horse" !! thanks
 

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If you werent an interfaith minister what would you be?<br><br><br>
How does being a spiritual leader affect your personal life?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">* can you talk about your decision to unschool/homeschool your daughters?</div>
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We started out on the normal path of preschool, etc, but felt as though we were watching dd1's spirit squashed and her light go out before our eyes. She started changing her likes, etc, to what she thought was expected of her. It was painful to watch. We started looking into alternative education. She's also always been a night-owl and a late sleeper...no matter what dh and I did. I started thinking about fighting with her every morning for the next 13 years...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: ...and wondering if that's the way it had to be.<br><br>
We met some homeschooled teens and were very impressed with them, so we started doing some research about it. Dd1 has so many interests that she is passionate about and is she also very earthy and physical. I was worried about her not having time to pursue these things and also about her being labeled with behavior problems because she was over-tired and didn't want to sit and be still when it didn't feel right to her.<br><br>
Dh and I have such busy lives...he has duty shifts all the time and works long hours (right now, he lives in another city 4 days a week for school!) and most of my work happens on the weekends, etc. I can't deny that this has played into the decision. If the kids are gone 7-9 hours a day, 5 days a week, when are we ever going to spend time together as a family? Why should the kids go into an artificial environment, do busy-work that someone else decides is important, and be away from their family and community...when we can provide for their academic needs at home?<br><br>
We started out as "school at home" folks and honestly, it was hyperemesis with dd2 that turned us into unschoolers. I was too sick to do activities and lessons with dd1...I could barely move. I was so worried about her and spent a lot of time crying and agonizing about my neglect of her education. And you know what? She thrived from it!<br><br>
Every single time I was crying about this...she would walk into my room, with a spring in her step and a smile on her face and say something like "so, how do you spell 'alligator'? I'm writing a book!" or "so, 3 groups of 3 is 9, right?" "Okay! Thanks, Mom. I gotta go...I'm busy!"<br><br>
She learned and "accomplished" more during that time than ever before. She had projects and such stacked all over the house! The freedom liberated her own passion for learning...just for the sake of learning. I started doing some more research and read about unschooling. It really resonated with us and we've been stumbling down this path ever since!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Yes, he can do it! Go for it! Please keep me posted. I get so excited about things like this. Tell your dh to follow his bliss. The military is using him to their best and fullest advantage...and he should do likewise.</div>
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Thank you, I will pass this info on to dh. The timing is off right now. He is currently enlisted and deployed, but already applied for OCS and passed the board with flying colors! We won't find out for sure if he is accepted until the end of October, but I really have no doubts that he'll get in. He'll get his class dates within 90 days after hearing if he was accepted. So, there's a good chance he'll be back to the states by early spring for OCS. With the length of time it would take to do seminary, he decided to go the regular officer route for now and then work on pursuing seminary and chaplaincy. So, it will be awhile. But he did talk with the chaplains at the on-base church and they made it sound as if there was no way to do it while staying active duty. We'll have to look into that some more. I really appreciate hearing about your experience. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Thank you, I will pass this info on to dh. The timing is off right now. He is currently enlisted and deployed, but already applied for OCS and passed the board with flying colors! We won't find out for sure if he is accepted until the end of October, but I really have no doubts that he'll get in. He'll get his class dates within 90 days after hearing if he was accepted. So, there's a good chance he'll be back to the states by early spring for OCS.</div>
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Congrats to your dh on the boards! That's fantastic! It's such an extensive application process. My dh also started out enlisted and went through OCS. He's very happy to have taken that route. I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you...<br><br>
Sounds like the ESO may be a better source of info than the chaplains. Maybe they are only familiar with the way that they applied, etc?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">* have you started nesting yet and how?<br></div>
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Oh, yeah. Cleaning is not usually something that I even think about...let alone like to do. Right now, my house is making me cry. I so desperately need it to be decluttered and clean...but have to stop whenever I start to have contractions.<br><br>
Plus, it's totally pointless to clean during the day when you have a toddler<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ! By the time she falls asleep, I usually just want to join her...<br><br>
I'm *really* struggling with patience about the dumping and pouring phase that dd2 is in... Urgh. I can't make any headway in the house because I spent all my time and energy cleaning up her physics and chemistry experiments!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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More questions:<br><br>
What's your favorite thing to do with "you" time?<br><br>
Any hobbies?<br><br>
Any addictions/obsessions (i.e. coffee, cloth diapers, babywearing...)?<br><br>
How many children do you guys plan on having? How do you deal with having such difficult pregnancies? (I'm seriously considering not having any more children simply because I can't imagine going through this again, but a part of me really wants a 4th child, so I'm especially curious how you decide to become pregnant again after having such a tough time, kwim.)<br><br>
How old are you? (You don't have to answer if you don't want to, but everything is fair game when you're in the spotlight, right. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> )<br><br>
What's the age difference between you and your dh?<br><br>
What do you and your dh argue about the most? What do you enjoy doing together the most?
 

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I'm slacking a bit here! I'll try to catch up...<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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The most? Chocolate-Peanut Butter-Banana shakes! I can't get enough of them. I make and drink about 3 a day...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> That and a lot of fruit!
 

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The better question is who will NOT be there...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br><br>
Let's see...<br><br>
Midwife, "second" midwife, dh, dd1, dd2, dd1's "doula", dd2's "doula" and probably a real doula of my very own, and a close friend who's going to photograph the birth.<br><br>
I like a "Red Tent" atmosphere when I birth... What can I say?
 
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