I'll play. I lost my post at some point trying to reply.
For me, the top 3 for pregnancy and after baby are:
-Slings. Loved all of mine for different purposes. I couldn't narrow it down to just one LOL. Moby, Ergo, Mei Tei, and Maya Ring sling (my fav for nursing is the Maya).
-a supportive partner, willing to pitch in w/ the kids, to make sure I have food and water while trapped in long nursing sessions, who doesn't care that the house is messy or jumps in to help when it gets that way.
-Peri bottles. Oh, how I loved them LOL. With DS, I had a small tear so I really loved mine. While pg with DD I actually ordered extras to have on hand so I could have one for every bathroom. I didn't tear with her, but still loved having extras LOL.
For labor and delivery:
I loved Hypnobabies and Hypnobirthing
I loved moving. I had electronic fetal monitoring periodically while laboring w/ DS and in retrospect should have declined. The only time I was uncomfy was while hooked to a monitor because I felt so much better while moving. Fortunately my doula played the bad guy and made sure my nurse hooked me up so I could be on the ball, on all 4s, etc while the monitors were on. With DD I just had intermittent doppler checks (delivered in a different setting).
I found it helpful to do the birth affirmations and fear release parts of hypnobabies/hypnobirthing. I think even if you don't go with a hypnosis program these are helpful. I had a lot of fears about childbirth before getting pg with my first (mostly from those ridiculous crazy labor and delivery shows
). Looking at those fears and working through them was really helpful...learning to trust birth, to trust my body (which I found very empowering after dealing w/ infertility issues to conceive my DS).
3 things on my wish list.
-obviously a happy, healthy labor and delivery and baby.
-Maybe another sling. Baby K'tan? ERgo insert? I bought my ergo when DD was a few months old so never used an infant insert. I don't know.
-I'm not a baby container person but I've considered a side to side swing this time around. Both of my kids were not swing lovers (DS hated, DD tolerated for 10-15 mins). My old swing was just a FP 6 speed that went forward/back. The side to side ones get great reviews. With 2 older kids, it might be helpful sometimes.
-oh, and #4 because #1 was non material LOL
would be more nursing tanks. Mine are beat up after years of nursing.