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This question is for mamas with DCs that absolutely loved nursing at one year old (e.g., asks to nurse, nurses at night, <i>must</i> nurse every time DC sees you topless... or even if DC sees too much of your neck :LOL , DC buries head in your chest like it is the most wonderful place in the world, etc.). When did that nursing-lover self-wean?<br><br>
I <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/luxlove.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="throb"> my nursing relationship, but I have anxiety about my ability to tandem nurse successfully, so DH and I were kinda wondering if DCs who love to nurse, like ours does, ever self-wean at, say, 24 months,which is when I would probably consider TTC again, or if they tend to want to go on and on for years. Maybe there's no predicting, but I am interested to hear from those who have BTDT. Thanks!
 

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39 months and no self-weaning in sight! like you said, it was the most wonderful place on earth when he was that age (and sometimes now, too.). He still asks to nurse if he sees me without a shirt on-- or in a bathing suit, trying on clothes at a store, etc etc. he doesn't freak out if I refuse at those inopportune times, though--which he would have back when he was 12-15 months. But then, I wouldn't have asked him to wait, either.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lurk.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lurk">:
 

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Just about 22 months old son here and no end in sight in terms of the nursing!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/toddler.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="toddler">:<br><br><br><br><br>
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34 months old & he's STILL going strong. No self-weaning in sight. We're gonna go ahead & TTC #2 anyway, since it looks like lil' milk monkey is in it for the LONG haul. And I ain't gettin' any younger! :LOL
 

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My son is 2.5 and still nurses every few minutes at home. He can go a lot longer when we're out, though- up to 3 or 4 hours! And, he doesn't nurse to during the night anymore. I'm almost 20 weeks pregnant and plan on tandem nursing- he'll be 3 a month after the baby's born.
 

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DD was a loving nurser, she nursed easily over 20 times a day well into her 2nd year (night & day). I put down several limits (that make her not "truly" CLWed) while pg with DS and we consider her to have weaned at 50 months (though she went on to nurse very infrequently until almost 5.5).<br><br>
DS nursed less than DD his first year, but still much more than most children I have had contact (including LLL CLWers). He will be four at the end of this month and still nurses a couple times during the day and several times at night.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/luxlove.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="throb"> my nursing relationship, but I have anxiety about my ability to tandem nurse successfully, so DH and I were kinda wondering if DCs who love to nurse, like ours does, ever self-wean at, say, 24 months,which is when I would probably consider TTC again, or if they tend to want to go on and on for years. Maybe there's no predicting, but I am interested to hear from those who have BTDT. Thanks!</div>
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There is not a lot of predicting, but 24 months is VERY VERY early to CLW, IMO. Research would indicate that humans are "supposed" to wean between 2.5-7 so the kids who truly CLW before that time are few and far between. I don't think it is something you can bet on.<br><br>
That said, I really did not want to tandem nurse. We planned on spacing our children at least 4-5 years apart to avoid that, but then decided we wanted them closer. I didn't know how long it would take to get pg, so I had said in my mind that if DD was 2 or under I would definatley continue nursing, if she was 4 or older I would definately feel okay about weaning and if she was 3 I would decide as it happened. We got pg when DD was 23 months old and she obviously continued nursing for quite a long time. It was hard *for me* but I realized that DD was an small child, with no choice in the matter, while I was an adult with choices (such as choosing to have another child) and I could just deal. And it worked out.<br><br>
Good luck with your decision.
 

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Emma weaned a few months before she turned 4. It was mama-led, though. She nursed through my pregnancy with John and that was fine. But I hated tandem nursing. I did it for 4 months and then offered her a party in exchange for weaning. She took it and I was thrilled, honestly!<br><br>
I don't think "power nursers" typically wean at 2 years unless something else is going on. My nephew nursed a ton around a year and weaned around 18 months. His mom (my sister) was pregnant, though, and her supply really dropped. Plus, she started setting a lot of limits for him and just refused when she didn't feel like it. I think it wasn't worth it for him and he found other things to do. But, again, there were "outside" factors (namely decreased supply) that played into that.
 

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Thanks for all the anecdotes!<br><br>
Tired and Brink - your thoughts on what I can expect are really helpful too.<br><br>
Well, the consensus here makes it clear to me that I better learn more about tandem nursing, because I am getting too old to be able to wait about 4 years between DCs... especially if I want the option of having three DCs. I had such serious supply issues when DS was born, that I get anxious about tandem nursing just thinking about the possibility even though the issue us a long way off!<br><br>
Thanks mamas, for tempering my expectations.
 

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one definite thing all three of mine have in common is their love of "ninners"! all are still nursing regularly; the oldest is 5, 2nd is going to be 4 this month, and the baby is 16 mos. it's nice to know my bare breasts can make a small group soooo happy. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br>
Tandem nursing to me has been one of the greatest joys of my life. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/luxlove.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="throb">
 

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Oh, I just wanted to also point out that I think most people take 3 months (at least) to get pregnant and then nine months of pregnancy, so a LOT can change in 12 months when you are talking about that young of child.
 

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almost 27 months, and this kid is a boob addict. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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She's 3 now, and nurses nightly before bed. I have to giggle, remembering how she'd react at that age when she'd see me shower ~ she'd give an excited "ho! ho! hoooooo!" when she saw 'them' ~ great for the ego <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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Liam weaned at just over 4 years, after dry nursing through a pregnancy. I thought he'd never give it up :LOL. DD weaned at, well. . .she nursed today for the first time in about 3 weeks, but couldn't really latch. so i'm not sure if she's done, but she's 25 months. she was never ever ever as attached to nursing as DS was, and rarely nursed to sleep.
 

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I am cracking up at all these images! My DS is a real conoisseur, too! The other day, I took off my shirt *and* bra and he literally rubbed his hands together and grinned from ear-to-ear, like I had just taken him to his favorite buffet for all-you-can-eat. He is 27 months old, and is a devoted nursing fan.
 

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Jenny turned four in April and still nurses occassionally. When I was pregnant with her sister, she dropped down to only nursing once or twice each day, but that picked up after the baby was born and my milk came back. She now nurses once or twice a week, sometimes going as long as 9 or 10 days without asking to nurse. But usually she starts showing signs that she needs to nurse after six or seven days and I'll offer to nurse her.
 

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This has been a GREAT thread for my DH to see, because although he is totally on board with continuing nursing for as long as DS desires, he didn't expect to see so many responses of people with DCs who nursed as long as this. We are the product of/only know mainstream folk IRL, so this is an eye-opener for him. He's got an open mind about things, but I know he hates being "the only one" doing something, so this is a help. (I, on the other hand, relish being the only one, so this is no problem for me!)<br><br>
Thanks for your replies, mamas.
 

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32 months and nursing twice a day, a rapid drop in frequency started just after he turned two, he was nursing 8-12x a day at only one year old. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Not as frequent as some of the pp's at that age, but still very intense about it being what he needed.
 
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