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Well, I've been working a lot of overtime at my new job. I signed-up for an incentive program where I commit to working so many weeks of OT and receive a bonus at the end. I didn't do it because I wanted to, but because I had to. We're still trying to struggle out from beneath the burden of debt. We're getting close.<br><br>
It's been really hard lately, however. DS suddenly freaks at daycare drop-off (when I'm the one dropping him off), is sometimes inconsolable at naptime when I'm not around ... and yesterday he started ignoring me when I left. He was sitting on the floor with his little back turned to me and I said "Mama has to go to work. Can I have a kiss bye bye?" DS responded with "No, no 'tiss'. I no need a hug 'eeder'." He wouldn't even look at me - just sat on the floor with his back turned to me and his sweet little face cast downward. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I felt awful. I reassured him that I would see him in the morning and eventually left. We've had discussions about what Mama does while she's away ("Mama, you help sick people at the 'hopipal'?"), and we've talked a lot about how Mama has to leave sometimes, but she always comes back.<br><br>
I can't blame the little guy. I just have about 10 days left on this program and then I'll really limit the OT, if I do any at all. I'm the only breadwinner in our house right now though, so the pressure's on.
 

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I just got done with a month of teaching 2 summer school classes where I was gone 10+ hours a day. It was really hard on DD. She would throw herself on the floor and sob hysterically when I went to teach, and she was up a lot more in the night.<br><br>
We're about 2 weeks past that right now, and she's still clingy and whiny. I figure we've got another month to go to get back to 'normal'. (OK, it doesn't help that I had knee surgery on Monday and so have been out of commission pretty much until today.)<br><br>
I would hug him, tell him you know it's hard, and that you're sorry you have to work so much. Maybe you can make a paper chain for him for the next two weeks of your work. Tear off one link so that he knows it's not forever.<br><br>
Do you have a partner? I know it's hard, but it's time for them to step up and fill in a bit. Your relationship will recover, but it will take time. I just sucks to be the sole breadwinner and have big debts. I know, that's where we are too.
 

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Couldn't read without saying <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s. I know DD, who's younger than your DS, is VERY sensitive to how many hours I get in a week. Her behavior obviously changes for the worst when I'm gone 40 hours vs 30 hours a week. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I can't even imagine how pissed she'd be if I did 50+, and how much I'd miss her. That must be really hard on you.<br><br>
I wish I had advice. I too am and will be for some time, the only breadwinner in the house... it's just so much pressure. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s Good luck.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> I feel for you!!!! I work too, only part-time but even that makes me feel incredibly sad and guilty at times. I commend you for getting out of debt and I hope these next few days go really fast.
 

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This sounds so tough, mama <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
I dont have any insights for you, but I wanted to let you know that you have support <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug">:
 

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I stopped working overtime more than a year ago because it was so hard on my DS (and he stayed home with a nanny, so it's not just a daycare issue). I really feel where you're coming from. When I worked 6 day weeks, that 7th day where I was home was pretty awful, and DS would act out.<br><br>
I've done it very, very occasionally since then, but in the end I realized it just wasn't worth it for me! I try to remember that when I'm asked to work extra days now...
 

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