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Wise mammas and pappas.....I need some advice
Most days... when i'm well rested, fed etc. i can deal with my childre's behavior without becoming irritated, angry etc.....but... there are days or moments when i reach the end of my rope and actually feel angry about something that happened...i am wondering...in those cases when the anger or other negative emotion actually comes....and my little filter saying "he's just little" or "gentle" doesn't work to stop the feeling inside me from swelling...what do you do to manage your negative emotion?
I am a big believer in the fact that it is not really all that healthy to stuff your feelings inside, we should express them....but....I can't always take a walk to calm down or express my anger (or other emotion) around my children in a way that I feel OK about. So, I'm wondering if the answer is learning how to keep that all in or What???
Anyone have the magical answer?????
Also...please know I NEVER hit or otherwise become physical with my kids. The thing that I do that I don't feel positive about is raising my voice and simply becoming very stressed inside to where my facial and bodily signals and my general vibe toward my kids has to be looking/feeling pretty aggressive/upset.....Does that make sense??????
Oh, and my kiddos are 4 and 1
TIA

Most days... when i'm well rested, fed etc. i can deal with my childre's behavior without becoming irritated, angry etc.....but... there are days or moments when i reach the end of my rope and actually feel angry about something that happened...i am wondering...in those cases when the anger or other negative emotion actually comes....and my little filter saying "he's just little" or "gentle" doesn't work to stop the feeling inside me from swelling...what do you do to manage your negative emotion?
I am a big believer in the fact that it is not really all that healthy to stuff your feelings inside, we should express them....but....I can't always take a walk to calm down or express my anger (or other emotion) around my children in a way that I feel OK about. So, I'm wondering if the answer is learning how to keep that all in or What???
Anyone have the magical answer?????
Also...please know I NEVER hit or otherwise become physical with my kids. The thing that I do that I don't feel positive about is raising my voice and simply becoming very stressed inside to where my facial and bodily signals and my general vibe toward my kids has to be looking/feeling pretty aggressive/upset.....Does that make sense??????
Oh, and my kiddos are 4 and 1
TIA
