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<p>It's about setting those limits every time.  Sucks, I know, but I think of it like how I train dogs.  If you tell them just once to stay off the couch, it's not going to happen.  If you tell them every time, it will stick.  When they seem not to be listening or "sass" when you tell them, you have to find a different way of saying it.  For dogs this is about posture, eye contact, and voice pitch.  Some of that works on humans, too.  Also, with humans what I find works best is make something clear and walk (or look/turn) away.  They need the direct, stony face and statement and then the "end of discussion" spine-shot (the more polite form of "talk to the hand"). <br>
It's not a matter of what we should have to do, it's about what actually ends up working.  I'd rather be respected and be considered a bit of a bitch than disrespected and stressed out. </p>
 

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So a little update on my sick son... He ended up responding really well to steroids and antibiotics and didn't need surgery! So, so grateful. I am exhausted, but glad to be home and so happy he is on the mend.
 

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I had sciatic pain with my second, no fun! Sitting at a desk or in chairs was so hard-I hope you find relief. I am sure you are getting massages or physical therapy-a manual therapist really helped me.<br>
I am really trying to take it easy this time around, although its hard and not like me to slow down much during pregnancy. I never thought I'd have so many, and the strain of twins is very tough on my body. I am concerned about my risk of a prolapsed uterus later on down the road, and wish I had been more careful with strain/heavy lifting in my previous pregnancies.
 

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<p>So happy to hear about your son Pumpkin Pie, what a relief!</p>
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<p>Had a worrisome night, all last night. Bleeding started after some friskiness with DH, so I didn't sleep much because I was worried. Sex didn't hurt, and I wasn't getting any cramping, but to see fresh spotting was frightening. It slowed during the night and by morning was completely gone. I kept waking to feel baby move and kick, which is funny because it's usually the last thing I want to feel when I'm trying to sleep. But the movement sure put my mind more at ease.</p>
 
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<p>Dawncayden I hope your mind is at ease now.  I can imagine that spotting is terrifying even when you know what the cause might be. </p>
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<p>I was also up the other night because I started to google "how do you know the difference between a leg cramp and a blood clot".  My left leg is still sore from a terrible leg cramp early Tuesday morning while sleeping.  I am taking Lovenox injections because of a history of blood clotting in my family and genetic markers in my DNA, so the worry is founded.  I decided I'd give my doc a call Monday, but keep going back and forth from thoughts of "what if it is a clot and I DIE?!" to "I'm over-worrying about having a health issue and I only have one symptom on the list!".  </p>
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<p>My vent session begins here:  ;)  We are getting married on Saturday in a small elopment at a bed and breakfast 3 hours away. (yay!)  At first it was just going to be us, but then we invited our parents.  (my mom and dad/his mom).  My parents are flying in Friday and leaving Sunday--probably won't even go to our home at all.  His mom invited herself to stay Sunday night and Monday night WITH US!  After we freaking get married!  She is clueless about respecting our space.  We decided it was not worth the drama to refuse her for the stay, particularly for the fact she is driving 10 hours each way by herself and is 65 years old and already took off from work.  A hotel is out of the question for her budget.  We are actually paying for her two nights near the wedding location over the weekend.  BUT we will be setting ground rules going forward that begin with asking permission to visit not telling us when you will and limiting the length of visits.  I need my space and when his family visits they literally take over our small condo both in terms of space and routine.  When our son comes I want to establish a routine etc etc. </p>
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<p>As for this visit, we don't even have a guest bed for our MIL to sleep in--we threw it out 2 weeks ago.  This means she will probably sleep on the couch and be in my way in the mornings.  Now, I have to make sure we tidy the house before we leave for the bed and breakfast and I am already short on time.  What a "honeymoon".  Grrrr.</p>
 

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<a data-huddler-embed="href" href="/community/u/239814/skyview222">@skyview222</a>, I thought I was the only one here on Lovenox! I am totally with you on freaking out about leg cramps. The crazy thing is that Lovenox and heparin can leach calcium and low calcium can <b>cause</b> cramps! I take a liquid cal/mag supplement (double dose) before bed every night and haven't had issues with cramps in a while now.<br><br>
I am so sorry about your MIL's rudness! I would not be nearly as accommodating. At 65yo, she should know how inappropriate it is to ask to be hosted by the bride and groom during their honeymoon!
 

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Congrats on your marriage! That does sound hard with the mil-I hope you can enjoy regardless of the inconvenience <img alt="greensad.gif" class="bbcode_smiley" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/greensad.gif"><br>
About lovenox-I do not take it, but do have an antibody disorder that causes inability for my body to fight off blood clots. I'm supposed to take baby asprin every day, but stupidly, I feel out of habit. With my history of hemorrhage after birth, my midwife wants me to stay away from it, but I've now developed varicose veins and it's totally freaking me out! Going to talk to perinatologist next week at our ultrasound.
 

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<p>Congrats on your wedding <a data-huddler-embed="href" href="/community/u/239814/skyview222" style="display:inline-block;">@skyview222</a> ! I hope you have a lovely day!</p>
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<p>I bought my first clothes of the pregnancy this week (I've been wearing maternity, just not new). I made myself a tunic and needed leggings, so I found some for 97 cents at Old Navy and got a long stretchy dress and a long sleeved shirt at Target. A lot of my shirts are starting to get too tight or too short - the cuter, form-fitting ones, of course. </p>
 

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<p>I have found that sleep shirts are great for maternity wear.  I usually find them at Ross or Marshall's or wherever, but they're cute and longer and sufficiently loose without being too "baggy".  Plus, they definitely have a life PP.  I also find that they are generally BF-friendly due to the neck opening. </p>
 

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<p>Warning: Full-on vent coming!</p>
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<p>On Monday I had my 28-week check which included the 1-hr glucose screening for GD. I just got the call that I failed by 20 points!! I don't even know how that's possible!! Last pg, I failed the 1-hr screen by only 1 point, but passed the 3-hr test just fine. Now, I'm not so confident that I'll be able to pass the 3-hr test (I go in on Saturday to do that one). I'm sitting here sobbing at work, thanking the heavens that I don't have any patients until this afternoon so I can hopefully pull myself together by then. The rational part of my brain keeps trying to tell me that it's not that big of a deal, I just have to do the 3-hr test this weekend and when the test results come back we'll go from there. If I have GD, then I have it, and I'll do whatever it takes to keep myself and my baby as healthy as possible. It will be inconvenient, but I'll get through it. But then the hormone-y, emotional part of me takes over and I just start crying.</p>
 

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<p>On Monday I had my 28-week check which included the 1-hr glucose screening for GD. I just got the call that I failed by 20 points!! I don't even know how that's possible!! Last pg, I failed the 1-hr screen by only 1 point, but passed the 3-hr test just fine. Now, I'm not so confident that I'll be able to pass the 3-hr test (I go in on Saturday to do that one). I'm sitting here sobbing at work, thanking the heavens that I don't have any patients until this afternoon so I can hopefully pull myself together by then. The rational part of my brain keeps trying to tell me that it's not that big of a deal, I just have to do the 3-hr test this weekend and when the test results come back we'll go from there. If I have GD, then I have it, and I'll do whatever it takes to keep myself and my baby as healthy as possible. It will be inconvenient, but I'll get through it. But then the hormone-y, emotional part of me takes over and I just start crying.</p>
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<p>So sorry you failed! :( Did you take the test on fasting though? That can make a HUGE difference..also the time of day. Late afternoon I always had the lowest numbers or 2 hours after a meal with carbs vs 5 hours after a meal with carbs... so the difference in your results could just be because of when you took the test this time versus last time.</p>
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<p>GD is pretty easy to manage with diet.. really just reducing the number of carbs you eat during each meal will keep your numbers low.. the only number that can be challenging to fix with diet alone is the morning fast..but a middle of the night snack can fix that problem.</p>
 

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<p>On Monday I had my 28-week check which included the 1-hr glucose screening for GD. I just got the call that I failed by 20 points!! I don't even know how that's possible!! Last pg, I failed the 1-hr screen by only 1 point, but passed the 3-hr test just fine. Now, I'm not so confident that I'll be able to pass the 3-hr test (I go in on Saturday to do that one). I'm sitting here sobbing at work, thanking the heavens that I don't have any patients until this afternoon so I can hopefully pull myself together by then. The rational part of my brain keeps trying to tell me that it's not that big of a deal, I just have to do the 3-hr test this weekend and when the test results come back we'll go from there. If I have GD, then I have it, and I'll do whatever it takes to keep myself and my baby as healthy as possible. It will be inconvenient, but I'll get through it. But then the hormone-y, emotional part of me takes over and I just start crying.</p>
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<p>The glucose drink is such a crock for most expectant moms. I say learn the symptoms of GD and if you get any symptoms, treat yourself with a diet accordingly.</p>
 
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<p>So sorry you failed! :( Did you take the test on fasting though? That can make a HUGE difference..also the time of day. Late afternoon I always had the lowest numbers or 2 hours after a meal with carbs vs 5 hours after a meal with carbs... so the difference in your results could just be because of when you took the test this time versus last time.</p>
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<p>GD is pretty easy to manage with diet.. really just reducing the number of carbs you eat during each meal will keep your numbers low.. the only number that can be challenging to fix with diet alone is the morning fast..but a middle of the night snack can fix that problem.</p>
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<p>Not fasting, but right after (a carb-free) breakfast. Last pg, test was in the afternoon. Also, I was sick all weekend so I didn't really eat much. Could that have really affected the results that much? I know it's really not that big of a deal, but I am a classic overachiever and I hate failing tests, even those I don't have much control over. <span style="line-height:1.5em;"> </span></p>
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<p>The glucose drink is such a crock for most expectant moms. I say learn the symptoms of GD and if you get any symptoms, treat yourself with a diet accordingly.<span style="background-color:rgb(255,255,255);line-height:1.5em;">While that may be true, it's what my OB does so I don't have much choice apart from switching to a different care provider and I really like my OB. And I really don't like change, lol. </span></p>
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<p>While that may be true, it's the common practice of my OB's office so I don't have much choice apart from switching to a different care provider and I like my OB. And I don't like change, lol.</p>
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<p>I'm in a much better place now than I was a few hours ago, I just needed to let my emotions take over for a few minutes and then I was able to hand the reins over to the more rational part of myself. Thanks for letting me vent.</p>
 

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<br><br><p>Not fasting, but right after (a carb-free) breakfast. Last pg, test was in the afternoon. Also, I was sick all weekend so I didn't really eat much. Could that have really affected the results that much? I know it's really not that big of a deal, but I am a classic overachiever and I hate failing tests, even those I don't have much control over. <span style="line-height:1.5em;"> </span></p>
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<br><br><p>While that may be true, it's the common practice of my OB's office so I don't have much choice apart from switching to a different care provider and I like my OB. And I don't like change, lol.</p>
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<br><br><p>I'm in a much better place now than I was a few hours ago, I just needed to let my emotions take over for a few minutes and then I was able to hand the reins over to the more rational part of myself. Thanks for letting me vent.</p>
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<br><br><p>I would add resistant starch to your diet to help you pass it. Get Bob Mill's unmodified potato starch and add 1tbsp to water and drink before bed then slowly up it (this will help with both fasting and post meal bs levels). I would also make sure your carbs at least between 100-150g 3 days before  your test.</p>
 

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<p>I hear you on the over achiever <img alt="smile.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/smile.gif"> I knew ahead of time that if you are low carb you could get a false positive on the GTT. So I bought a meter, upped my carbs and did a ton of testing. Yes I did notice a huge difference if I had a low carb breakfast, then tons of glucose vs having glucose a couple of meals ahead of time (but everyone is different)...so my point is don't think just because you were 20 pts  higher this time then you are going to fail your 3 hr GTT. </p>
 
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<p>I would add resistant starch to your diet to help you pass it. Get Bob Mill's unmodified potato starch and add 1tbsp to water and drink before bed then slowly up it (this will help with both fasting and post meal bs levels). I would also make sure your carbs at least between 100-150g 3 days before  your test.</p>
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<p>This helps me feel better about doing (and possibly passing) the 3-hr test. Thank you!!</p>
 

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<p>This helps me feel better about doing (and possibly passing) the 3-hr test. Thank you!!</p>
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You may be able to repeat the one hour test, if you feel that you would be able to pass it with better prep. Some care providers will let you try a second time. It's easier to re-do the one hour, than to have to go for the 3 hour, if it's an option they'll allow.</p>
 

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<p>Is anyone doing the whooping cough vaccine? I think I am going to get it for myself in the next week or two because there is an increase outbreak in LA. Really don't want my little one to get whooping cough since she will be in daycare after only a few months, and I don't want her to have to get the shot after birth.</p>
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<p>Good news, I only gained 2 lbs. in 4 1/2 weeks so the midwife is pleased. I told her that after her "don't gain more than 25 lbs" speech last month I have been obsessing over the issue. She told me I am fine, and not to obsess. Too late! You can't tell me to do something and not expect me to obsess over it. Let's just say that I ate very lightly the day of my appointment and wore the lightest weight clothing possible. Crazy pregnant lady over here. </p>
 

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<p>I luckily had already had the whooping cough vaccine that is bundled with tetanus the year before I got pregnant at my old primary care doc's rec due to an outbreak in Seattle where I live. And I'm pretty sure they tested my antibodies for it and I was still protected when I first went to my midwife. I think it's a good idea. Trying to talk my husband into getting vaccinated for things is a whole separate issue. I wish he'd get a damn flu shot already.</p>
 

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<p>Is anyone doing the whooping cough vaccine? I think I am going to get it for myself in the next week or two because there is an increase outbreak in LA. Really don't want my little one to get whooping cough since she will be in daycare after only a few months, and I don't want her to have to get the shot after birth.</p>
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<p>I had mine at my OB appointment earlier this week. But thanks for reminding me that my husband needs to get his as well!</p>
 

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<p>I luckily had already had the whooping cough vaccine that is bundled with tetanus the year before I got pregnant at my old primary care doc's rec due to an outbreak in Seattle where I live. And I'm pretty sure they tested my antibodies for it and I was still protected when I first went to my midwife. I think it's a good idea. Trying to talk my husband into getting vaccinated for things is a whole separate issue. I wish he'd get a damn flu shot already.</p>
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<p>I'm not getting the whopping cough. I refuse to expose my unborn child to it when there was only one study of 20 pregnant woman done. We'll take other precautions to keep him safe from whopping cough..and it will probably be the ONE vaccine he gets on schedule :(..but we'll be inside and not exposed to other children for the first 4-6 weeks anyways. I also do not see the value in the flu vaccine ever. It reduces risk by 1% and has not been shown to reduce the number of complications from the flu based on all the studies I've seen..so the most vulnerable don't seem to get any protection...especially considering it contains mercury no thanks (there are some non-mercury ones you can get but they are hard to come by even for pregnant ladies).  We all do what we're most comfortable with ;)</p>
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<p>Also remember just because your husband gets the TDAP does not mean that he won't be a carrier...the latest study has shown that many vaccinated individuals exposed to the disease will still be carriers but without symptoms (although sometimes will get symptoms) it is one of the most ineffective vaccines out there (the flu is worse tho) but the disease is scary. It is treatable but needs to be caught early...so really any signs of cough with my LO (vaccinated or not) will be tested.</p>
 
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